please really need help

[Halibut]

Ok so. Not sure if i mentioned this or not but my friend from england is staying and living with us now and he is being a dick!!!! Ok first of all he never cleans up after himself. i end up cleaning after him everyday single day. and he shows no appriciation!! and then each night he has a different girl over and is " friendly" with them and leads them on and they end up liking him but then he moves on to the next one the next day. I tried asking about it telling him i think it was wrong and he just said that i was acting like his old best friend jess and that he just moved from england and he thought he was getting away from that. so i didnt say anything more BUt im sick of hearing of everything. what should i do?

[byee]

Ah, things change when people live together.

To make that work, you have to recognize that it's changed, and then talk about it, and what the expectations are. So, in your case, that might mean the 'little things' like housekeeping issues, as well as the 'big' things, like the way he conducts himself in relationships (including yours). Don't assume that he'll just 'get it' b/c he's been your friend, its changed now because the context has changed by his living in your space with you.

Don't wait for new situations that are bothersome to come up, that sounds like nit picking or fighting. Rather, sit down with him and talk about your expectations now that you're living toegther. Get some agreements on things.

[dstnyisurs]

Tell him that he is living with you and there are certain conditions to follow, being he picks up after himself, that he responds to you respectfully, so on so forth. He's living with you and he should be considerate of you.

[kyle95]

it's your place. guests ought to abide by your rules and sensibilities. there's no excuse to trashing your place, you're not his cleaning lady. if you give in there, then you'll have to toss in the towel with everything else. as they say, give an inch and they'll take a ... mile.