can anyone offer advice please??

[piggy-wiggy]

okai, can anyone offer advice please...
its my cousins birthday on sunday, and i have bought i new skirt, which just flows to da knee, but i have recently cut all over my thigh's..
im screwed if the skirt goes up even the slightest bit.. can anyone please offer something that i can do before the party of during to help stop anyone noticing?? :(.................x

[just-another-guy]

im a guy but maybe leggings or something that you can use to cover it up

[piggy-wiggy]

tnx for the ad, but the only thing is dat its a rly fancy skirt, and i think my mom wud freak if i wore leggens after she bought my the skirt :(............

[scuba steve]

would tan tights work

[scuba steve]

no it prob wouldn't that would look weird sorry im not too good with girl fashion could you not just make up a lie to your mum for not wearing it.

or even better do you have a dog or a cat let them get at it so it's unwearable

[BlackenedSilver]

I used to do this all the time, I had a skirt that only just covered my cuts.
Just cover it up as much as you can with Makeup, (Foundation, concealer etc) Then wear tan tights. I think thats the best you can do.. or if it is possible with that skirt black tights would be better.
Let us know how it goes :), I hope it goes well x

[scuba steve]

so tan tights wasn't so bad then

[BlackenedSilver]

so tan tights wasn't so bad then

No it wasn't a bad idea, just they are easy to see through. But sometimes you don't have a choice and just have to wear them and not care what people think.

To the OP: That reminds me hun, As people have said before about being embarrassed of cuts, sometimes it is best to sort of not care about them. Because if you don't care and your not always looking at them worrying about what people can see then they won't look.
I wear bracelets to cover mine on my arms, but some you can still see. I just forgot about them and no one asked and to my knowledge everyone was looking at my face not my arms. :)

[scuba steve]

but theirs still the fact that she may be confronted by her parents for them

[BlackenedSilver]

but theirs still the fact that she may be confronted by her parents for them

True, but it all depends on how visible they actually are. If they are quite visible then she might be right to try and tone them down a bit with makeup and tights. But if they are not that red then if she just wore some tan tights then the only way people are going to see them is by getting close to her thighs. Actually you have a pointm you've shown me the light hehe. :cool:

OP: Actually ignore what I said in my last post hun, You should try it one day though, but this birthday party probably isn't the best place to start. :)
You said recently you cut your thighs. How recently? Are the cuts still red etc?

[scuba steve]

makeup may be her only option that we've discussed as she's not alowed to wear leggings but maybe

[Project Delta]

You could just try putting a tan dressing over the cuts? therefore it would stay clean (which is obviously good) and it would be quite hard to notice

[piggy-wiggy]

blackened silver, scuba steve and silkonia tnks for da advce...
um, ya to answer ur question der fairly recent, like da other nyt.. so der fairly red.. but i think i'll try the make up first.. and then try dressing, to see which works best.....
tnks :) ......... this rly helped.. and ya blackned silver, i'l let u no how i get on if i dont tlk 2 ya til den........................x

[piggy-wiggy]

tnk u all for da advice... da party was grrrreat.. and no1 saw da cuts.. thanks all!! :)

[Project Delta]

great! :) well done! :)

[piggy-wiggy]

tnx silkonia, ur advice was awsume :)

[Project Delta]

its fine, and no need to thank me, just call me aaron! :) ANd dont say sorry for that either :P
Seeing you happy and good with yourself makes me both proud and happy, so no thanks is needed hun

[piggy-wiggy]

ino u said not to say sorry, but lets just say dats wat i wuda said ere den..
ya, i felt a bit better wen i felt comfortable in my skirt.. :) it rly worked..

[Project Delta]

What did you end up doing may i ask? :) for all of us coz we are itching to knnow

[piggy-wiggy]

oh ryt, well i put a really light stretchy bandage on, then tan type tights, no1 noticed a thing, even wen my cousins wer on my lap, and my skirt went up....................x

[Project Delta]

Thats GREAT to hear! :), :hug: bed time for me

[piggy-wiggy]

okly dokly dude.. :)

[dstnyisurs]

Thats good. :) Hopefully you can stop cutting soon so that you won't face the same problem again.

[piggy-wiggy]

ino, this party gave me a shock.. and i didnt for three days.. but i did last nyt.. thats the longest i purposly stopped......................x

[Project Delta]

Well thats good you beat your record! :) Try and look on the bright side of things! :) And try and stay positive, now you have a new record to beat! :) And therefore this way of beating your records, it gets addictive in itself, and hopefully the addiction of beating your records is higher then the addiction of cutting and then you wil stop! :)

[piggy-wiggy]

thanks for the support,, ya a new record, i guess i dint rly luk at it lyk that b4...actually i only saw the bad side of breaking it rather than seeing how i stopped as something to celebrate...........................x

[Project Delta]

Yeah, so now go and beat that target! :)

[piggy-wiggy]

im gona try...... although im already feeling crap 2dayy..............

[Project Delta]

So do i, i nearly caved . dog was annoying me, barking at everything, my laptop REALLY stressed me (long story), had a headache all day (still do) took ibuprofen, which made it worse, and there was raelly loud thunder

[piggy-wiggy]

ooff, sounds worse den myn... ive been lounging round, thinkin strongly bout my lyf, and spiraled into screaming... and my friends dont help as i cant tlk to them bout it coz dey dont no.. ugh, it just ultimatly sucks...........x

[Project Delta]

I dont trust anyone with anything, because of my past. so yet again could be worse. I have one REAL friend who will never put me down, purposefully

[piggy-wiggy]

dats gud that you have someone tho... i went another nyt without cutting... feww............x

[Spin]

You could always like, pretend you're on your period and say you feel really uncomfortable wearing a skirt. I'm sure any girl knows how uncomfortable and awkward it is to wear a skirt when on your period so your mom could understand.

[GreyxRainbow]

I'm glad it went well. :]

[Project Delta]

well done on getting to 1 day, we are at the same now :)

[rubidoux]

You could always stop cutting and learn to deal with your stress in normal, healthy ways.

I'm not saying that to be an asshole, either. Personally I think the fact that no one suggested that until like halfway down the second page of this thread is a lot meaner.

[piggy-wiggy]

ino i need to find a better way to handle things, no offence but if i was able to a wud, and im not tryin to be mean bak, but it didnt rly help..........
any way it all went gud, nd the experiance ment that it actually helped me to stop for three days.........................x

[piggy-wiggy]

aaron, wat happened tho ? if u dont mind me askin.....
tnx greyxrainbow.. :)

[rubidoux]

ino i need to find a better way to handle things, no offence but if i was able to a wud, and im not tryin to be mean bak, but it didnt rly help..........
any way it all went gud, nd the experiance ment that it actually helped me to stop for three days.........................x

So get help? Even a school counselor or something is a start. I'm sorry, but I refuse to help teens cover up and hide their signs of self harm. If you're doing something that you're that terrified of people finding out about, isn't that a sure sign that it's not something you should be doing?

And that's okay, you and everybody else can think what you want, but I do not believe for a second that telling you ways to cover your cuts is helping you at all. All that's doing is helping you lie, and I'm sorry but I can't do that.

[piggy-wiggy]

im sorry, i actually cant reply to that, im only writing this to show u that i saw wat u wrote...........................x

[MadManWithaBox]

thats great to hear, keep going. if at anytime you need to talk about anything, between 8am - 3am, pm me. anytime. im going through the same process at the moment, so i can emphasise.

[piggy-wiggy]

awhh tnx, its great to no someones there.. :)

[Triceratops]

Finding ways of disguising your scars will never improve or enhance ways to refrain from cutting. Instead of constantly trying to cover up, you need to battle self harm itself.

People giving you hints can be very discouraging. It kind of tells you that you can keep harming yourself, as long as you continue to hide the evidence. Carrying on like that will not make anything potentially better for yourself.

But if you ever feel like you need to talk to someone, PM me. :)

[piggy-wiggy]

ino, wen i asked for the advice it was in desperasion, and i refrained 4rm cutting for three days after the shock, sadly i broke it... but i am trying........................x

[BlackenedSilver]

Im glad no one noticed and it didn't ruin your night :)
Hopefully you can stop cutting soon. :D

Rubidoux:
Coming on here and talking to others is some people's ways of getting help. Other people finding out about their self harm could cause them to self harm more. So hiding it is the best option, so giving them advice on how to hide it can actually help although it doesn't seem it.
I guess it's hard to fully understand these things if you never actually experience first hand.
Though piggy-wiggy, she does have a point. Getting help like a counsellor or something could help, or just talking to someone. (Because that really all counsellors do tbh.)
Im here as well if you ever need to talk :)

[piggy-wiggy]

well tnk again for support, but ino people keep saying to tell someone, but i just dont have it in me.. and i honestly am phisically incapable...
but i promised to myself that if someone does ask me 4rm now on, i will admit, so i guess tym will tell, but i dont plan on juat blurting it out to anyone.................x

[Triceratops]

ino, wen i asked for the advice it was in desperasion, and i refrained 4rm cutting for three days after the shock, sadly i broke it... but i am trying........................x

Okay, I understand. I am really glad to hear you're trying. Keep it at, you'll become stronger and stronger within time. :)

well tnk again for support, but ino people keep saying to tell someone, but i just dont have it in me.. and i honestly am phisically incapable...
but i promised to myself that if someone does ask me 4rm now on, i will admit, so i guess tym will tell, but i dont plan on juat blurting it out to anyone.................x

Admitting to self harm seems scary at first, but once you've talked to someone you trust, you will feel relieved afterwards.

Take it at a steady pace, if you don't feel comfortable telling anyone just yet then wait for a while until you are ready to do so. Just please don't leave it too late.

Take care <3

[piggy-wiggy]

thanks, its more encouraging to hear that leaving it until im ready is okai, i was starting to feel pressured into teling someone...
and i wont leave it too late, im just awaiting the ryt opertunity............x

[MadManWithaBox]

maybe its a case of making the right opportunity for yourself. i do completely understand where rubidoux is coming from, hiding does not deal with the issue. that said, i do get it, cos ive had the same thing myself. same as before, pm anytime

[piggy-wiggy]

thanks thats great advice,. the only thing is, everyone says how i sud tell someone, wen i rly cant do it, im afraid of telling ne1, im not that close to my parents, and imy sister lives away, my best friend wudnt understand, and i find that at any moment im gona end up saying it to my fairly close guy friend, which i dont wana do , atall..... and im getting worse thinking out how to tell someone...............x

[MadManWithaBox]

consider the fact they'll appreciate it more if you tell them openly and honestly then if they find out while your trying to hide it. honesty is key

[piggy-wiggy]

ino , ino everyone is ryyt... but i cant seem to both find the ryt words, and the ryt person...........x