she's asking me for sex?!

[spike94]

So I was having a conversation with a girl-friend the other day, and we got onto the subject of sex and how nervous we are about it, and we both agreed that having sex at 14 would be a bit stupid. So then we say that 15 is not too bad-er time to have sex and she said we should help each other out and lose our virginity togethor (as in we have sex!)

...OMG what should I say,
ive never really been approached in this way?! :confused:


P.s; im 15 in december!!! :eek:

[nick]

Well you have to make your own decision about that kind of thing. Do you feel ready for it or not, dont be pushed into it if it doesnt feel right for you. Do you like each other at all or would you just be using each other, it so would that feel right to you? Do you want the first time to be special because its someone you love, or is it just something you need to do to tick a box. Dont get me wrong. I'm not judging at all. These are just the questions you need to ask yourself. Then if the answer you come up with is that its the right thing to do go for it, practice safe sex, and enjoy. Otherwise be brave enough to say that you want to hold off a bit longer yet.

[guy16]

well if u feel like u are ready, i would go for it :)

[Jman35]

well if u feel like u are ready, i would go for it :)

I completely agree.

[pontiacdriver]

So I was having a conversation with a girl-friend the other day, and we got onto the subject of sex and how nervous we are about it, and we both agreed that having sex at 14 would be a bit stupid. So then we say that 15 is not too bad-er time to have sex and she said we should help each other out and lose our virginity togethor (as in we have sex!)

...OMG what should I say,
ive never really been approached in this way?! :confused:


P.s; im 15 in december!!! :eek:

Sex between friends rarely works out, and things get really weird afterwards. If you want to keep this girl as a friend, then trust me, don't have sex with her. Sex is very complicated, and there is so much more than physical actions to it. You don't want your first time to be with (out of a lack of a better words) a "fuck buddy." Wait until you find the right person you truly love and want to share your body with her. If that person is your friend who is a girl, then so be it. However, if you are not passionately in love with your friend who is a girl, then I really would not have sex with her. Friendships and sex don't mix as things might get awkward especially if you both get your own partners in the future.

Not to go off on a red herring, but before you have sex with anyone make sure you and your partner have knowledge of what to do about the physical issues about sex. What I mean is make sure you both know where you can get condoms, where your partner can get emergency contraception, and that your partner is on some sort of birth control. Also, make sure that you both have access to a healthcare provider to whom you can go if things with sex have issues. Especially with girls the first time they have sex can create issues for them down there, and even for guys you might have an issue that may require medical attention. I am not saying you will get a STD especially if you both are virgins, but what I am saying is that first times can be intense on both people especially the girl. If you cannot get free access to a doctor, if your partner cannot get access to birth control and a gynecologist, and if both of your families' would have a serious problem with you both having sex, then I would really hold off until you are older. Remember, there is a big financial aspect to sex as you have to pay for condoms, lube, and possibly help out your girlfriend with birth control costs, and if you are not old enough to work, then you are way too young to have sex.

[notsure101]

Ok first off... WEAR PROTECTION! Now to get back to the point. Both of you should not be pressured into this, it is both purely your choice. Make sure you are both mentaly ready and pay more attention to her then yourself.

[kipper]

condoms man condoms careful enter her slowly with a finger first then 2 fingers then ease it in real life is not like porn the vagina is delicate good luck

[punkjake]

if ur ready yes but use a condom

[Lights]

To early. You're underage & It's ilegal.

[Rockin Rolla]

Some people say loosing your virginity is a big deal. and i guess it would be.. i was stupid the first time this happened to me and i didnt use my head at all.. i think if you both really like/love each other then it may be a good idea.. if a couple really cares for one another then sex normally brings them closer. but.. i wouldn't jump strait to sex man.. maybe fool around with oral or something.. and dont be embarrassed to talk to her. apparently she thinks its a good idea so there shouldn't be any harm in talking to her about it.. you two should discuss what you think is the best for you. maybe you dont need to have sex at all. What ever floats your boat bro..

[Guitarist4Life]

as many have said, just think awhile on this and decide if she really is that special then, talk to her about it, if you to decide to, please, with the power embeded in me by the computer i am using, use protection!

[Shaymin]

I would just say, "can we please wait until a diffirent time like in our 20s?" That is what I would say. Mainly, if she keeps saying it over and over again, just do it, or you can just ignore her, but if you really dont want to have sex with her and she keeps enoying you, just break up with her. Those are my sugesstions.

[Donkey]

Think carefully to yourself, considering everything that you possibly can, are you ready for this?

This means both emotionally and physically; the hard truth is that, contraception doesn't always work. You could end up with a little baby on your lap, whether you're careful or not (although the chances are less likely if you use contraception). Could you handle that?

Later on you might decide that you wanted to do it first being married, with someone else. At your age, I don't feel that you're ready for this or anyone else at your age.

But hell, if you think you can bring up a kid, go do it.

[dstnyisurs]

If you don't feel comfortable with sex then you need to not have it.
Especially if it's your virginity... and hers. If you're not comfortable with it then it's going to royally suck for her even more then usual (girls losing their virginity... painful!).
Tell her you're not ready. If she's the right kinda girl she'll respect it.
Whatever you do pack protection and wear a rubber. Get her on birth control if possible. Pull out. Be safe!

[MyNameIsJack]

dude, its true it totally sucks when you dont feel confortable, if u like the girl and u dont have any problem with it, dont worry lol sex is normal.. i would like to be in your position..
im virgin