really needing help right now..

[Ella]

Hey I'm kind of new here but I really need someone to talk to.. this may end up quite long but I'll try and cut it down as much as possible..

So I started self harming about 3/4 years ago when I was 12 ish I think. I always hid the cuts really carefully and the scars weren't too bad then- I'm not at all close to my parents so I wasn't going to tell them- I think our bad relationship maybe contributed to the cutting to begin with.

When I was 13 my friend found out and tried to help me but I convinced her I stopped but I didn't, I tried but I couldn't.

A few months later I came home to lots of empty pill packets, my sister had overdosed. She was in hospital and luckily survived. She then went into councellign and I had to go too for about a year but I never told the councellers anything and they never found out about me. Meanwhile it was getting worse- it seemed all my parents cared about was my sister and my mum kept yellign at me telling me my sisters cutting and her attempted suicide was all my fault.

I've continued cutting and i can't stop. I really, really need to but I can't tell my parents- I'm so scared of what it will do to them after my sister, and I dont' want to tell any of my friends as one of my other friends admitted to it recently and it was spread all over the year.

I hide the scars well, but I'm cutting deeper and deeper and feeling so low.. suicidal at my lowest points ...I don't know how I can stop with no help.. but i need to stop.. please help :(

x

[Spin]

None of us here can really help you. You can PM me anytime you need to talk but I can't give you the help you need. I think your best bet is telling your parents. I know it might not seem like it but they really do love you. And since they cared so much about your sister cutting, they'll probably care about you doing it. You should tell them that you don't like being blamed for things and that you're really hurting right now and need help through it. I'm sure they'll get you some real help. Like I said you can PM me anytime you want to talk.

[goin to work]

you need to tell your parents and if you uncomfortable with that then tell a trusted adult you need to seek help i did and i got better ive benn threw a lot of shit and ive ben reall low but in the end things briten up you have all of vt suporting you when you need to talk you can feel free to pm me or post hear on vt keep you cuts clean and bandage them and clean what ever you cut with in sted of cuting try doing something elce trust youll come outa this ok but you need to seek help if you truly wanna get better and remember well all hear for you and god loves you

[byee]

Well, I think you have a couple fo choices here. The first is to control the urge to cut well enough that you don't need to tell anyone. The second, should that fail, is to find someone to tell, who can get you to someone who will help you control that urge.

Your family has been thru a lot with your sister, but that doesn't mean they might not have the ability to respond to your needs and concerns here. The important thing is to recognize what you need (to stop cutting) and then figure out a way to meet that need, to take care of yourself. Don't worry so much about caring for them, that might be part of the underlying problem here.

[optimashprime]

Hey I'm kind of new here but I really need someone to talk to.. this may end up quite long but I'll try and cut it down as much as possible..

So I started self harming about 3/4 years ago when I was 12 ish I think. I always hid the cuts really carefully and the scars weren't too bad then- I'm not at all close to my parents so I wasn't going to tell them- I think our bad relationship maybe contributed to the cutting to begin with.

When I was 13 my friend found out and tried to help me but I convinced her I stopped but I didn't, I tried but I couldn't.

A few months later I came home to lots of empty pill packets, my sister had overdosed. She was in hospital and luckily survived. She then went into councellign and I had to go too for about a year but I never told the councellers anything and they never found out about me. Meanwhile it was getting worse- it seemed all my parents cared about was my sister and my mum kept yellign at me telling me my sisters cutting and her attempted suicide was all my fault.

I've continued cutting and i can't stop. I really, really need to but I can't tell my parents- I'm so scared of what it will do to them after my sister, and I dont' want to tell any of my friends as one of my other friends admitted to it recently and it was spread all over the year.

I hide the scars well, but I'm cutting deeper and deeper and feeling so low.. suicidal at my lowest points ...I don't know how I can stop with no help.. but i need to stop.. please help :(

x

the best advise i can give is tell some one and get support closer to home


find something good in your life and live for it until you feel better then you can live for your self again

be happy because you still have a sister

i think you need to tell your perants because they can help alot

if you ever need anything pm me and ill do my best to help

good luck
elliot

[Project Delta]

Go with IAMSAM, he is the best advice giver you will get on this site.
I agree tell your parents, it is always best

[dstnyisurs]

None of us here can really help you. You can PM me anytime you need to talk but I can't give you the help you need. I think your best bet is telling your parents. I know it might not seem like it but they really do love you. And since they cared so much about your sister cutting, they'll probably care about you doing it. You should tell them that you don't like being blamed for things and that you're really hurting right now and need help through it. I'm sure they'll get you some real help. Like I said you can PM me anytime you want to talk.

Correction, we can help you by being here for you, and giving you imput and such. But Spin is right. You can only get real help that will aid you by going to a counselor. It will mean having to talk to your parents, but they need to realize that you have feelings too. PM anytime.