Talking about Abuse :(

[TigerLily]

So to cut a rather long story short...
My mother, an abusive bitch for all matters concerned, rang up Social Services on my dad and made up a load of bs, just because she likes to be vindictive like that.
As a result, a social worker came over today while I was at school.
Anyways, the whole plan sorta backfired on her, because my dad then proceeded to tell the social about all the abuse she has inflicted upon my sister and I (or at least all he knows about anyway).
Now social services have labelled me as a 'victim of abuse' because of the things my mother has done to me, and so I am to be 'assessed' sometime next week by a social worker who's coming to school.
I am not liking this one little bit.
I don't want to talk about it.
I don't want to relive it.
I don't want/need any counselling.
And I'm.... scared. It's stupid I know, but I am....

[The Joker]

Yes, counsellors really don't listen at all. Just tell them the whole way through you don't want to talk and relive this, you're fine, etc.

[Truth]

Yes, counsellors really don't listen at all. Just tell them the whole way through you don't want to talk and relive this, you're fine, etc. If you wanna get put in worse shit, yes, do not talk to them. Ive been in social services. Do what they say or your life is hell, it's as easy as that.

Just talk to the councilor, act normal, and tell them everything. If you do this you'll probly just stay with your father, if you dont worse stuff could happen; but your social services might be less fudged up then mine. =D It's not that bad, ive had a councilor and they listened amazingly so metallica; dont speak out of one or two bad councilors.

[optimashprime]

So to cut a rather long story short...
My mother, an abusive bitch for all matters concerned, rang up Social Services on my dad and made up a load of bs, just because she likes to be vindictive like that.
As a result, a social worker came over today while I was at school.
Anyways, the whole plan sorta backfired on her, because my dad then proceeded to tell the social about all the abuse she has inflicted upon my sister and I (or at least all he knows about anyway).
Now social services have labelled me as a 'victim of abuse' because of the things my mother has done to me, and so I am to be 'assessed' sometime next week by a social worker who's coming to school.
I am not liking this one little bit.
I don't want to talk about it.
I don't want to relive it.
I don't want/need any counselling.
And I'm.... scared. It's stupid I know, but I am....


im so sorry you had to go though this racheal

things will get better if you hold on

if your ever down upset or just need to talk pm me or speak to me on msn

im sorry

[Pirate]

I have a vague notion of how you feel, I have a meeting with a 'doctor' at the end of the week and I'm terrified. :(
It's supposed to help though.. At the end of the day, you don't have to tell them anything you don't want to and they can't and won't (I should hope not) force you to do so..
It might make things better. It might not, but at least you'll be able to say 'it wasn't what I wanted to do and it didn't work, but at least I tried'.
Or something to that affect..

Pm me if you need to chat. :] Good luck love
xx

[optimashprime]

we are all here to help

[TigerLily]

Thanks everyone, it means a lot...
:hug:

[Project Delta]

To be honest rachel, if you dont want to talk to anyone, they cant and therefore wont even try to force you, your voicebox is sealed if you want it to be, so just stay strong, and you wont have to talk. Although its recommended you should!

[optimashprime]

we love you very much

[Kinetic]

dont worry chicka :D were lookin out for ya we got yur back... as far as internet means goes :D

[TigerLily]

Thanks guys :hug:
Atm, I'm trying not to think bout it so much.
It's like I'd rather just not talk about it, just blank the questions altogether.
But my grandparents and my dad want me to tell the social worker all the stuff my mother did to me, so they can have it on record etc, so if it ever went legal what with the divorce coming up, there would be 'proof' of her abusiveness, and the kind of things she put us through.... (?)
But at the same time, my grandparents have these expectations of me... they overestimate me so much... I mean they're the nicest people in the world, but they think that I deal with all this so much better than I do, that I'm over the whole thing completely, and so the whole counsellor thing sorta needs to back up that. I don't want them thinking any different.
I guess it will all work out.... there's no point worrying bout it... I'm just being stupid, sorry...

[TigerLily]

Well, the counsellor was meant to come today...
I only found out this morning in registration when my form tutor said I needed to go see Mrs so-and-so, who's the head of Pastoral Care, the kind of person you go to see if a grandparent has died, or you get caught smoking at school, etc, etc.
I went, and she said I needed to come back half way through my Art class when the counsellor should be there. She said she'd told my Art teacher I had a doctors appointment as a cover-up because I didn't want my classmates knowing.
So I went half-way through Art, told my teacher the excuse, and waiting around for her to arrive. In the end she was a no show, apparently she was ill or something, so I guess she'll come some time next week :/ I'm pretty relieved tbh
Anyhoo, I came back and these stupid girls decided, on the basis of my going to see mrs so-and-so and going to the 'doctor's' that I was pregnant :S. They know they're talking crap, they just like to be annoying like that. God, they're dumb :P
Hm, so it looks like it'll be Monday... I'm more worried now than before, because I know how truly terrified I was waiting in the corridor for her to arrive....

[optimashprime]

youll be fine rachel

have faith

as for those girls they are probally pregnant them selfs lol

good luck

[Project Delta]

You will be fine hun, if you open up to her first day, it will get easier and easier
Good luck Rachel :)
Aaron

[Holding On*]

Opening up to someone on something so private is hard. Two weeks ago I done the same to my counsellor about my Self harm. I wrote it all down though and just gave her the papers. Then we talked a bit. Once she knew the start of it I found it easier to talk...and I managed to get mot of it out. Not all of it, just like the basics of everything. but I was mega worried. I was physically sick about it. But in the end it was better her knowing.

[Project Delta]

When you tell them everything, the talks get easier, and easier, therefore you tell them ev erything they need to know.