Is this normal? Or safe?

[Versus]

Hi,
I'm new here so I'm not entirely sure, but I think that this is the right board?

Anyway, I have a few questions. But before I ask them, I'll give you a bit more information to go on. I'm 17, and have a wonderful girlfriend called Emma. Both of us turned 17 a few months back. Both of us (especially emma) are generally thought of as extremely quiet and shy; Which is why some people that we know (as in everyone we know xD) would be VERY suprised if they caught us alone.

Anyway..

Question One:
Is this normal? Me and Emma frequently engage in "casual sex". Dont get me wrong, I know what casual sex usually means; two friends having sex. No, what I mean is we will get in from school/college/what-ever-you-want-to-call-it (we regularly go round each-others houses after college) and sit down to watch tv. After we've had about 5 minutes to warm up etc. (england doesn't exactly have the nicest weather) we will remove each-others clothes. <explicit parts removed> We then proceed to casualy have sex, while still watching the tv or talking or whatever. Hence the reason I call it casual sex. Of course we do do more than just that; We have extremely passionate intercourse like anyone else as well. I'm not evwn sure why we do it, but we both enjoy it very much so...


Question Two:
My second question is slightly different. Basically my girlfriend gets VERY wet. She also has this "thing" which she enjoys doing. She will masterbate with a bottle, repeatedly, until theres a fair amount of.. juice (?) in there. Then she either gets me to pour/rub it over her body, drink it or get a mouthful and makeout with her.
Is this A) Normal?
B) Safe?

Question Three:
Is it safe to, when she is giving oral, thrust in and out, pretty much down her throat till she makes that gagging noise? I like it, and she doesn't mind, but her health comes first. Is it safe?

I know this probably all sounds a bit extreme, but what are you to expect from two hormonal 17 year olds that like to experiment?

Edit: How rude of me, I mentioned my girlfriends name, yet failed to menion my own. I'm Ben.

[Versus]

25 views and not one reply? :( can someone please reply? This is quite important - I would never forgive myself if I hurt her.

[Reality]

Too... much.. information. Lol. Jk.

Er.. yeah. It's normal as long as you're both consenting to it, and enjoying it. But I'm pretty sure deepthroating, especially thrusting your penis down someones throat can cause problems with the gag reflex.

Porn stars make it look sexy and cool, but I've heard otherwise. Although I'm not exactly an expert on sex/health or anything.

[goin to work]

um every things ok till question 3 um you wanna refrain from thrusting down her throat as this could choke her and giveing cpr after oral would not be fun for u

[just-another-guy]

everything sounds normal except maybe be careful wit the thrusting that could choke her

[byee]

Yeah, 25 views and ME! I'll answer. Typical.

1) Maybe we're talking semantics here, but 'casual' sex usually refers to sex btw'n people with little or no relationship. It's about the relationship, not the sex itself, or the context you have sex. So, if you and she have a relationship, and have some emotional feelings about eachother, what you have is sex in context of a relationship (which isn't 'casual'), and you sometimes have 'fun' with sex, not like the stuff you see in chick movies where there's some earth moving, emotional event that precedes the sex. If you and she enjoy this, it's OK. Actually, what 2 consenting people do in private is OK, IMNSHO.

2) If you and she enjoy this bottle thing you have going on, it's fine. And there's no problem with it assuming she doesn't have an STI, which would then be contagious b/c that *stuff* lives in vaginal fluid. Again, as long as you both consent, and enjoy this, it's Ok. I'm not sure you should announce it on a bus, however, b/c although it's Ok for you and she, others might have a different take on it.

3) There's a gag reflex in the back of the throat that's there to prevent objects from getting lodged in the airway and cause suffocation. As a reflex, it's uncontrollable. However, since there's really no chance of your penis really getting permanently stuck there and causing suffocation, if you and she are Ok with this, there's no harm.

It sounds like you and she have a rather, um, interesting and exciting sex life, Ben. As long as you both are Ok with *whatever* it is you're doing, and you're both aware that there's another person there as you do all this stuff, you're probably OK. I hope you've both been tested for STI's and you're using condoms!

[Versus]

Hey, thanks for the very in-depth reply and for being so open minded!


1) Maybe we're talking semantics here, but 'casual' sex usually refers to sex btw'n people with little or no relationship. It's about the relationship, not the sex itself, or the context you have sex. So, if you and she have a relationship, and have some emotional feelings about eachother, what you have is sex in context of a relationship (which isn't 'casual'), and you sometimes have 'fun' with sex, not like the stuff you see in chick movies where there's some earth moving, emotional event that precedes the sex. If you and she enjoy this, it's OK. Actually, what 2 consenting people do in private is OK, IMNSHO.

Haha yeah, the whole thing with us calling it that was a kind of inside joke. I guess that it kind of shows that we're comfortable with each other.



2) If you and she enjoy this bottle thing you have going on, it's fine. And there's no problem with it assuming she doesn't have an STI, which would then be contagious b/c that *stuff* lives in vaginal fluid. Again, as long as you both consent, and enjoy this, it's Ok. I'm not sure you should announce it on a bus, however, b/c although it's Ok for you and she, others might have a different take on it.

Yeah, this is where it starts to sound strange; Most people would probably find it somewhat disgusting. And I'm positive that we're both free of STD's - We were both virgins before our current relationship, and had tests anyway.




It sounds like you and she have a rather, um, interesting and exciting sex life, Ben. As long as you both are Ok with *whatever* it is you're doing, and you're both aware that there's another person there as you do all this stuff, you're probably OK. I hope you've both been tested for STI's and you're using condoms!
Yeah, like I said, we've both been tested despite being 99.9 percent certain that we were clean. We're not using condoms, but she is on the pill. I dont want to go into too much detail here, but even without any form of contraception, we would have a hard time producing a child anyway. I wont say too much, but we have been told by the nice doctor that if she ever were to have a child it would be via IV (In Vitro) fertilisation. Despite this, we still chose to use the pill.

Thanks for the help!

[dstnyisurs]

Deepthroating can be bad. You wanna be careful with that.

[Untouched]

Yeah, the whole shoving your dick down her throat thing could be kinda bad for her. Just don't do it like every time. Once in a while.

[punkjake]

1.Well if ur the right age to than yes but this is coming form a 13 year old :P

2.Yes to both is safe normal but a little weird but not that bad.

3.As long as you don't have herpies or she doesn't have a STD then yes its safe,but if you want to b safer you use a condom :yes:.

PS Welcome to VT ben ^_^

[Versus]

Okay, I Know that this thread is a few weeks old, but I feel this is relevant. Emma is worried about the Invitro Fertilisation proccess. I'd just like to confirm that I'm right in thinking that its a relatively painless proccess? And if anyone would happen to know exactly how it works? (Its been a few years since I studied it... my memory is a bit hazy...)
Thanks,
Ben

[LiGHT]

http://health.howstuffworks.com/in-vitro-fertilization.htm Information here on Invitro Fertilisation.
And the second part of your question I don't think is safe because you are making out with other subtances on each others body and it could get messy and aids.

[uihwljtkegr]

Question 1; I would say that it is normal, and not fundamentally damaging to your relationship in any way shape or form.

Question 2; While this could be slightly more concerning, seeing as you both are free from any kind of STD, then you should be alright. Although I wouldn't tell anyone you know about it, as you may find that people will look down on it, seeing as its slightly more "out" as far as these.. escapades go.

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[url]I don't think is safe because you are making out with other subtances on each others body and it could get messy and aids.

While your right in that it is somewhat debatable as to how hygienic the.. activities involving body fluid may be, its not possible for either of them to catch AIDS/HIV or another STD from it, seeing as they are (or so Ben tells us) free from any kind of STD. So long as they both stay clear of any disease such as they they should be fine.

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As far as IV goes, its generally a rather painless proccess. Its been quite a controversial subject within the media, resulting in the coining of terms such as "test tube babies". Despite the controversy, IV really is quite a brilliant thing in that it allows someone who would otherwise be unable to produce a child to do so. The people who say that its unethical and wrong generally don't have any idea as to what they're talking about so I would pay no heed to such comments if they are ever directed at you. In essence it is simply the process of fertilising and allowing an embryo to develop for a period of time in a human made container, which is for some reason or other commonly assummed to be a test tube. Then once the embryo has reached a relatively stable stage, it is implanted into the woomb and from then on develops like any other child.

Hope this helps!