no one takes me seriously

[phoebefreak]

:what: Ok, so, I like cheering people up and being funny and basically being the clown, the funny person, the one that makes people happy. But because of this no one takes me seriously, and when I cheer them up they take it for granted, i mean, im a person and I sometimes feel like I don't exist, i have lots of mates but half of them take me as a joke. I like being me, and I can't change what they think of me, but could I say something to them? :(:whoops::mad::yes::yeah::wub::yawn:

I'm certainly not immature, I'm just a nice person who likes to see people happy in this shit society so think twice.

[sebbie]

People judge others on the way they act and look. If you happy being the way you are, why change, if you are unhappy then change the way you act.

Also you say that half see you as a joke, does that mean the other half see you as a fine normal person, you should not go around trying to win everyone's heart over be happy with the friends you have got.

[byee]

Hi Phoebe (very cool name, btw),

I think you might want to reevaluate a couple of things: First, why you'd assume you're not taken seriously. Friends usually take eachother seriously, at least as people. Otherwise they wouldn't have you as a friend. Maybe your misinterpreting their response to you as dismissive? Maybe they don't know what you want from them? If you want a different reaction, yes, you can tell them what you're after. Maybe when they're aware of that, they'll give it to you.

[shelb angs]

Probably because when you think you're being 'funny', you're being immature and annoying.

[rubidoux]

If the people who make you feel that way are the people you think are your friends, then they really aren't. A lot of kids have shitty friends and don't even realize it.

[Tori]

I came across the same realization as you did a few years ago. Eventually I tried to get my friends to realize that they really weren't there for me the same way that I always was for them.. The end result being that one friend out of the entire group cared, and the rest didn't.

It's possible that maybe they're just not caring in a way that's recognizable to you, but it really looks like the same situation I had. You shouldn't drop the friends you have now, but I would advise making new ones with a slightly more serious personality upfront. That doesn’t mean you shouldn’t be the funny one, but if you show there is more to you right off, people probably won’t forget it as easily. : )

As for the friends you have right now, having a calm conversation can't hurt, if they are really your friends.

[CuriousDestruction]

i don't know what your story is, or who your friends are. but i do know this. the key to getting people to respect you and take you seriously is not to be someone else. but rather, to be a more serious version of yourself. it also involves choosing when to cheer someone else up. the other thing it involves is maybe trying to get into serious topics when talking to your mates. hopefully they will see that you are serious.

best of luck!

[MyNameIsJack]

:S I understand! everybody takes me as a joke too, but I really dont care.. some days I'm not in a good mood.. and when they come to me laughing, I just look at them like I'm really pissed.. I try not to be always the clown, and be the serius guy

[optimashprime]

:what: Ok, so, I like cheering people up and being funny and basically being the clown, the funny person, the one that makes people happy. But because of this no one takes me seriously, and when I cheer them up they take it for granted, i mean, im a person and I sometimes feel like I don't exist, i have lots of mates but half of them take me as a joke. I like being me, and I can't change what they think of me, but could I say something to them? :(:whoops::mad::yes::yeah::wub::yawn:

I'm certainly not immature, I'm just a nice person who likes to see people happy in this shit society so think twice.

oi pheobe

im your mate and i take you seriously

allways remember i love you and im there for you ok

if you need me you know where i am

love you (mohammed does too)
elliot