Friend is a stabber

[Rolla7]

A friend of mine recently broke up with a girl he's been going out with for 4 years. He loved her, as in THE one. Last time he and his girlfriend had a fight he went into such a severe depression he had thoughts of suicide. Now, I just recently found out that he stabbed himself in his left heel about 8 times with a safety pin, jamming it all the way in (About an inch deep). He says he's doing it because of her, but I think it's just for attention. I'm worried for him now. I told him he could paralyze his foot, bleed to death, or have his foot amputated if he keeps doing that, but he said he just doesn't care. Is there anything I could to do to help?

[Atonement]

Honestly, the only thing you can personally do to help is support him in getting better. Motivate him kindly to get help. Compassion is the strongest motivation that I know.

Also, since that is all you can do, if you really think his life is in danger and he will not get help, get an adult involved. He will be pissed. But, friends don't let friends kill themselves. Friends don't stay mad forever. If you choose to get an adult involved, make sure they understand what you are trying to communicate, then let go of your friend for a bit. Just be a friend at that point. Light conversation, no talking about the problems unless they bring it up. Trust that the adults will take it from there. :)

[sebbie]

Attention/Depression/Boredom/Other reason for cutting...

Regardless of why he is cutting himself, its not healthy for him to be doing so. There is only so much that you can do, offer support the best you can, try to discourage him. Along with this you should also tell someone of trust, parent,teacher,doctor, councillor etc They will have far more power to deal with the situation than you can.

[Mekipedia]

A friend of mine recently broke up with a girl he's been going out with for 4 years. He loved her, as in THE one. Last time he and his girlfriend had a fight he went into such a severe depression he had thoughts of suicide. Now, I just recently found out that he stabbed himself in his left heel about 8 times with a safety pin, jamming it all the way in (About an inch deep). He says he's doing it because of her, but I think it's just for attention. I'm worried for him now. I told him he could paralyze his foot, bleed to death, or have his foot amputated if he keeps doing that, but he said he just doesn't care. Is there anything I could to do to help?

I bet your friend is 16, lol.

Yes, you can help him. Honestly, tell his parents, they'll straighten his little ass up right away. If they don't care? Tell the school guidance counselor, he/she will.

[Rolla7]

Well, from what I can tell, he really is putting himself in danger. I checked and there's an artery in the back of the heel, and he's coming very close to puncturing it.

And your right, he is 16.

Anyway, I have told his little brother, who's only a couple years younger, about it, so I don't know what'll happen. I did know that he was planning on doing something he shouldn't because of her, but I didn't know it would be this.


Anyway, he's blackmailing me not to tell his parents.

[Project Delta]

How is he blackmailing you?
The seriousness of what he is blackmailing you over, could determine the next move (in your eyes)
if it is something small and trivial. Tell his parents! They are the ones that can get him the best help
If it is something big, still tell his parents, you can claim that it is a rumour and not true. It is better to help a friend in need, but sometimes it is essential to put yourself first. THe next step is yours.

[Beautiful Obsession]

You need to get your friend help before like you said; something serious might happen.
Tell someone who can help him get through this time. It's going to be hard, every break up is. x