Is My Friend Bi/Gay?

[pabond007]

Sorry, not sure where to post this (newbie here).

First off, hello everyone! I'm new here so be patient with me :P

Okay, so... I'll start you off with some background info first.

My name is Peter. I'm 17, and gay. My friend's name is Alex. Sexuality: Questionable. He just turned 15. I like him... a lot :yes:. I'm pretty sure he doesn't like me the same way I like him. But all that's beside the point here. I'm just curious as to what you think his sexuality may be based on what I tell you here:

This all started about a year ago. We went camping in my back yard twice. Both times we both ended up masturbating together. Not giving handjobs to each other, just jacking off beside each other.

Then later that summer, we ended up masturbating together again at his house while his parents were away.

Then things got more physical.

Before the camping, we started this little 'tradition' if you will. Every night I would go over and sit with him on his front porch. Just the two of us.

One night on the porch (after we had started masturbating together), he asked if I wanted to touch him. Of course I did :yeah:! It just started out as a little rubbing, then he asked if I wanted to do more.

At this point I figured I should tell him I'm gay, and that I like him. He was fine with both of those.

After that he wanted me to start giving him handjobs just about every night on his porch. He always stopped me before we went too far (i.e. before he had to cum).

Only once did he allow me to go the whole way. That was also the last time we did anything like that together .

I asked him why he didn't want to do that stuff anymore. His response was, "Because I'm not gay."

:eek:

Well, ya coulda fooled me! (I didn't actually say that lol)

Since then our friendship has kinda been on the rocks. I won't go into detail about that now since this post is getting waaaayyy too long.

So, what do you think his sexuality is? Truthfully, I really don't know :what:

[Commander Thor]

Based on what you've told us, straight with a hint of curiousity.
He was curious as to what it was like to have another guy masturbate him. Most guys are. It was his hormones doing the talking for him when you were giving him HJs. If he says he's not gay, take his word for it.
Drop the entire subject of sex with him (Unless he brings it up), work on re-establishing your friendship only.

[Blue63]

To be honest with you, I think he was bi/curious when you were getting physical, you being gay had nothing to do with it. He got over his curiosity, and got over you. I think he probably did have a physical attraction to you at one point, got over at. Since he didn't want to do anything physical anymore, the friendship faltered. The end, I have a theory that if there was once feelings for someone, the never fully go away. Could he still be physically attracted to you, yes, if you want to do more with him will it be hard convincing him to, yes. That's my opinion, good luck.

[mr.sexy_bomb]

i think he might be confuse and i think the best gay to know is to ask him whats up, i really think its up to him and see what happens next, good luck :D, btw since your gay you should totally going or LGBT group here :D in vt.

[Jalin]

Experiment with him.
Just tell him that it would benefit your relationship a little, and who knows.. you guys could become closer; leading up to a closer & closer relationship.

But, if he says back-off;; respect the dood enough to do that.
:]

[punkjake]

Bi currious sorry:( or gay problly bicurrious and he was just experimenting with you:( you sud talk to him more b4 ur friendship ends

[Blue63]

Bi currious sorry:( or gay problly bicurrious and he was just experimenting with you:( you sud talk to him more b4 ur friendship ends

Yes I can't emphasize that enough, because of your past, communication would be really important since it seems you two are not on the same page. Just talk to him, or move on, there's a lot of gray area here, so be careful.

[pabond007]

Thanks guys!

If anyone else wants to add something, please do so :D

[supercharm100]

i actually agree with "xbox", unless he brings up such a subject again there might be a slight chance that he is gay or he isnt your friend.. he could just be using you for what he wants, and when he gets what he wants he will pretend that he never new you as a friend.. but if that isnt the case, i would assume he is gay, and he is just afraid of what you might think of him or what you might say...

[dstnyisurs]

He seems curious, but doesn't want to push it so far as to change his sexuality. He seems a bit nervous too. Keep in mind that if he's fifteen that would make him what, a freshman? You're a good two years older then him, so if he's going to come out at all, he's at a different stage then you are. Bear with him and be honest. My advice.

[Leprachaun]

i think that he just wasn't comfortable going all the way and it made him feel gay, so he's afraid to do it again incase of what happens

[billiam183]

He cud be in denial. But if u.value your friendship, forget about the sex.. Also, since u told him u were gay and he still let u, im betting hes at least bi

[Magenta]

Please don't bump old threads. This is from 2009. :locked: