i dunno

[bri-]

well, this is getting rather hopeless. i thought if i posted my problems here people would help. but everyone's giving me sucky advice. "you don't need a bf" does NOT solve my problem...:mad: it makes everything worse. so if any one has ADVICE on how to get a boyfriend i'd appreciate it. here are some conditions.
1. I'm extremely shy
2. i have low self esteem.

ok, thanks

[Aneklusmos]

Well I'm afraid you're just gonna have to get out there and be more friendly! Sit with guys at lunch, strike up random conversations, join a club of some sort. Friendliness is the key. Don't be nervous either. It's not the end of the world if you embersss yourself a little. Just laugh it off. Good luck!

[Atonement]

You came here for advice, if you ask for it, we will give what we think is best, based on our opinion and experiences, which you asked for! So, do not complain that we have not given you adequate advice. It is honest answers that people try to help. So, take what you get, take the best and leave the rest.

Now, as for finding a boyfriend...

I'm going to say it, "You don't need one." Honestly, if you are not happy being alone, you will NOT be happy being in a couple. You cannot rely you happiness on someone else because you will not get what you want. You need to buck it up, learn to be happy alone and know your own identity. I hope all goes well. But you need to be happy with yourself. No one can do that but you. So this shouldn't be about you finding a boyfirend, this should be about you being happy. Other people should be a supplement, not a solution to shyness or sadness.

[just-another-guy]

if your shy u should just try to find someone who you are comfortable with but to do that u gotta get out there and talk to people and meet new people but be careful and a good boyfriend wont care what you look like he will want whats on the inside not the out so get out and talk

[bri-]

just-another-guy, thanks that helps. but i'm really no good at talking to people. i tried today with this guy that came in my free hour and we really hit it off but i don't think i'll ever see him again. =s

[just-another-guy]

you are very welcome and well see that's greatt that you got to talk to some one and that u hit it off that's goodd that's a step in the right direction it takes time to find the right person but u did a good job talking to that boy in ur free time feel free to pm me if u want to talk, its all small steps and when u talked to that guy u took a huge one and that's good now that u have done it once u it will be easier the second time, but just keep looking there are a lot of guys out there and i feel that there is someone for everyone

[Blue63]

Well as much as I agree with Vindication here, let me try something.

Guys like girls who are outgoing, guys are A LOT shyer then they come off, so in the end the girl really does hold the upper hand, especially in the beginning stages of a relationship. Your shy and have low self esteem, you need to get out there, I am really shy and have low self esteem to, so let me say I am a bit of a colleague here if you will. You're going to want a guy that is outgoing, at least more than you are. You're still going to have to strike up the first conversation and flirt. You said you had a good conversation with a guy and hit it off, that's good, if you want a relationship you're going to have to talk with him more than once, and read his body language if he likes you. Let me give you a link, it really helped me A LOT and was able to tell me my crush, didn't like me. So good luck. http://www.wikihow.com/Read-Body-Language

[Diadora]

You shouldn't go "looking" for a relationship. Is their someone your interested in? I could try to give some advice from my perspective then, but I wouldn't just go looking for a boyfriend so you can have one.
If you do have someone in mind, this is from a guys perspective.
1. Just try to talk to him, act friendly, he should talk back, and if he's shy at first keep going and he should warm up to you.
2. If you can, try to talk to him with something like a text, as for me, if someone is talking to me outside of something like school or another required thing, and they do it fairly often, I'd feel they are my friend
*If you don't know anything to say for something like a text, my favorite excuse is to tell them that you thought you saw them somewhere, and when they say no, just try to start a conversation.*
3.If you can, hang out with him in a group, that way you can talk, and you won't feel the pressure of being on a date with him.

Don't know if those are any help, but if a girl did something like that with me I wouldn't feel it would be out of the ordinary, and if you want him to know your interested, that could be a whole other thread.
Hope it helped!