Very confused!

[Jack0700]

Ok this is a long story, and i really need your help with this. So it goes like this. so I like this one girl in my grade, shes bassicly my dream girl, but theres one problem, she likes somebody else. normally i would be fine with this and wait for her to move on from this guy. But the thing is hes a total asshole and he treats her like dirt. He tells people he thinks shes ugly (although she doesnt know he says this, and idk why he thinks this either i thinks shes pretty good-looking) and is a total jerk to her (idk why she likes him and i dont have the guts to ask). i know for sure shes gonna end up getting hurt from this guy and alot of other people think so too. Hes gonna hurt her feelings and not care at all. Now idk what to do, should i tell her not to go out with him and tell her what he says about her or should i just leave it alone? I really dont want to see her get hurt like this, it will make me sad too because i like her. please what do i do??? If this is confusing im sorry its kinda hard to explain in text and im not a good writer. please i REALLY need everybody's help!!

whoops i forgot an important part. He also said he might go out with her because he just wants a summer girlfreind and I think this means he will dump her around the beggining of summer because he really doesnt like her. I dont wanna see her get hurt like this! she will be really sad!

[IAMWILL]

Well, you have two things here: A jackass, and a girl with a crush.

There is really nothing you can do about her crush for this guy, it just happens, and you can't control it. The best thing you can do is gather up your courage, sit her down, and talk to her in a calm, honest voice. Say something like (after you sat her down), "Hey, It seems like you really like this guy, but I want you to know that (guys name she likes) (insert stuff that he has said about her here), and then make sure you tell her your just trying to be honest with her and not make this guy look bad. Then say something along the lines of "I'm not trying to make myself look good, but I like you, and I don't want to see you get hurt by this guy" and go from there. That should work well.

As for the guy, well, good always prevails. Don't worry about him. He'll fall soon enough.

[Bluearmy]

Well, you have two things here: A jackass, and a girl with a crush.

There is really nothing you can do about her crush for this guy, it just happens, and you can't control it. The best thing you can do is gather up your courage, sit her down, and talk to her in a calm, honest voice. Say something like (after you sat her down), "Hey, It seems like you really like this guy, but I want you to know that (guys name she likes) (insert stuff that he has said about her here), and then make sure you tell her your just trying to be honest with her and not make this guy look bad. Then say something along the lines of "I'm not trying to make myself look good, but I like you, and I don't want to see you get hurt by this guy" and go from there. That should work well.

As for the guy, well, good always prevails. Don't worry about him. He'll fall soon enough.

Not always.

And if you go out with this plan, you need to concider whether or not this guy will appreachiated you sniching to his "summer girl-freind", and more importanlty, can he beat you up?

But if the plan does work out, then not only will you gain a leg up because you just saved her from a horrible train-wreak, but she will know you = good people.

[IAMWILL]

Not always.

And if you go out with this plan, you need to concider whether or not this guy will appreachiated you sniching to his "summer girl-freind", and more importanlty, can he beat you up?

But if the plan does work out, then not only will you gain a leg up because you just saved her from a horrible train-wreak, but she will know you = good people.

I just disagree a little because...

Any mature guy won't beat someone up over a girlfriend unless the other guy cheats on his girlfriend or does something really bad, he'll talk it over. Don't get to stereotypical thinking that just because this guy is a jackass doesn't mean he is all tough and all that and stuff like that, he's probably soft on the inside. Besides, if he is bigger and decides to beat this boy up, there is no shame in flight, and adrenaline will help out.

[Blue63]

"If you love it, set it free"

Well, first of all, you can't do anything to change her attraction. You can try and break them up, but I wouldn't suggest, it's not fair to her.

First, you can tell her the truth, what he says about her, tell her it's not right and she deserves better. Cross your fingers and hope she confronts him and they break up, preferably her breaking up with him. If it doesn't happen, try and have a friend, who may be close to her, tell her the same things. She should break up with him at this point. When this happens don't be the shoulder to cry on, that puts you in the friend category, believe me, it happens. Be a little aloof, send her a text saying something like, "Sorry to hear about the break up, although I think it's for the best, you deserve a lot better," She'll smile, and think of you as a good guy. Then you might want to stay out of the picture for a few days, then try and get close to her, flirt a little. Put the idea that you could be her boy friend in her first, and right off the bat.

Good luck!

[Jack0700]

Thanks guys! I really appreciate your help! I think i will sit her down and talk to her sometime soon, I hope it works! And no bluearmy he cant beat me up and I dont think he would try. I dont mean to brag but im the biggest kid in my class :).