What does "mentally attracted" mean anyways?

[MoveAlong]

Anybody know?

[Underground_Network]

Never heard it before that thread came about.

I always thought there was just "emotional" and "physical" attraction.

I assume you could be attracted to someone's thoughts though. 0.o

That would be kinda weird though. "Ooo Johnny, I'm attracted to you mentally. I just love the way you think. I want to have sex with your brain all night long!"

[ShatteredWings]

I think it's more like real *love* not lust.

we all know what physical attraction is.. so let's ignore redundancies here.

Mental attraction would be more like loving the person.. not for any reason that can't be explained other than 'i just love you'..

[Underground_Network]

^^ But isn't that emotional attraction?

And last time I checked "emotional" and "mental" don't mean the same thing.

[ShatteredWings]

wait what?
okay. i'm stumped then.

[AllThatIsLeft]

misinterpretation.... you can love how smarrt someone is..
that's like likeing the way someone thinks.
compatibility mentally. i think.

[Underground_Network]

In my eyes:

Physical attraction: "Ooo, I want to tap that ass!" <- Sorry, I just had to say that. xD

But yeah, physical attraction is being attracted to someone because of their looks/appearance.

Emotional attraction: Being attracted to someone because they bring on strong emotions/feelings. You're attracted to a girl because of the way she makes you FEEL when you're around her/when you talk to her.

Mental attraction: "Take me to your leader."

I have no idea what that quote has to do with anything, but I just felt like saying that. And at the moment I don't have a definition for this, because I hadn't heard of it up until I saw that other thread yesterday. ;)

[MoveAlong]

No wait because a few years before, on this site people would say "to be gay you have to also be mentally attracted to the same sex". What does that mean??

[nachtspiegel]

I'll explain it from an "inside out" kind of view.
A physical attraction is an attraction to someone's body and their physical attributes.
An emotional attraction is the "love" or "like" part that comes into play.
A mental attraction is when you're attracted to someone's mind, so to speak. To be on the same mental level and to be able to connect deeper than the sex.

[INFERNO]

I believe mental attraction would be along the lines of being attracted to their personality and similar things. This isn't the same as emotional attraction because you're not experiencing intimate feelings towards them, such as love. Physical attraction is simply being attracted to how they look. In a way, emotional attraction can also be seen to be part of physical attraction or possibly also mental attraction. However, they can each be considered separate because you are able to have each of them alone functioning properly.

[Oblivion]

I'm thinking mental attractions are the things like intelligence, interests, politics, etc.
Things that aren't physical that you can pick and say "I like this person because..."
Likewise physical are the things physically you can pick out, like a clean shave, or strong legs, or a nice tan.

Emotional is different, it's more confusing. It's the pure joy, happiness, and love you have for the person/gender, not really something you can just pick out and say "This is why I love them..."

Then sexually... i think we all understand that. :P


Really, to love someone, you need all four. Gender shouldn't really play a part in it, however today we like classifying people, so it ends up playing a huge role.

[MoveAlong]

So mental attractions are interests or intellect or politics etc? Both genders have that and that's unique to each individual person. So that means it can't determine what sex you like, it determines what person you like.

[Oblivion]

In my opinion, yes. It shouldn't matter what gender he/she is. It should be about the attraction to individual people. Why be so quick to classify and judge yourself/others?

Although you can use generalizations to help you, something like girls are generally seen as "less perverted" or guys are generally seen as more sports oriented. If you like people who enjoy watching sports, you could say it would be leaning towards men. Of course that's extremely unpredictable and generalizing, it could work I suppose.

[MoveAlong]

Now that makes the most sense out of what I've heard so far. !

[Sapphire]

In my opinion, yes. It shouldn't matter what gender he/she is. It should be about the attraction to individual people. Why be so quick to classify and judge yourself/others?
I agree with this unreservedly.

Attraction isn't wholly sexual/romantic. We are attracted to people as friends as well as boyfriends/girlfriends.
Friendships can be built purely on mental attraction ("I like the way you think and it matches my logic") or emotional attraction ("I care about you and you make me feel good") without the need for the other types.
While I like to think that all three (physical, emotional and mental) are involved when in a romantic relationship. It wouldn't last if the relationship were based solely on one type of attraction as you have to feel drawn to that person in their entirety.

[MoveAlong]

Attraction isn't wholly sexual/romantic. We are attracted to people as friends as well as boyfriends/girlfriends.
Friendships can be built purely on mental attraction ("I like the way you think and it matches my logic") or emotional attraction ("I care about you and you make me feel good") without the need for the other types.
While I like to think that all three (physical, emotional and mental) are involved when in a romantic relationship. It wouldn't last if the relationship were based solely on one type of attraction as you have to feel drawn to that person in their entirety.

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