Talking To Guys

[bri-]

well, i already have a different thread with how to get a boyfriend but i decided to go a bit more basic.... talking to guys
i'm a horribly shy person. i can't even figure out how i have all the friends i do. but, i can't talk to guys for anything. and well, i really want to find a boyfriend so i have someone in my life who supports me. i have an extremly rough family life and my life basically sucks so, any advice is great...:(

[IAMWILL]

Well... I know exactly how you feel!

I'm order to have friends you must be friendly, in order to be friendly you must be calm and comfortable with people, and so technically, it's all about comfort. Why are you friends with so many people? Because you trust them and feel comfortable around them. You simply don't have a boyfriend because you are not yet comfortable around other guys. It's totally normal. Your shy, and don't have a lot of confidence. Let me say this. With time comes confidence, with confidence comes trust, and with trust comes love. Think about that, and you'll get better.

[bri-]

hmm, i don't think there is any "getting better" for me. i've been in one relationship and that pretty much solidified the fact that i'll never have another. he was a drug addicted jerk that still runs my life... so.. i don't know

[IAMWILL]

So you're believing that you'll never have another relationship with a guy because your ex is a drug addict and had an impact on you? Honestly that just doesn't make sense.

You have friends, and with friends you can get through anything.

[bri-]

My friends think I'm stupid for going out with him in the first place.. But I still love him

[IAMWILL]

Your friends don't hate you for it, they just disapprove of one of your deciscions, not you. It's fine if you still love him. "Love can find anyone, and love can do anything" -William Shakespeare.

[bri-]

but i STILL love him... and he has a girlfriend... =[ and he wants to kill me. it's unrequited and i know it but i still do...

[goin to work]

if he wants to kiil you and he says it then id tell some one hes a drugy hes unperdictable for your safety id steer clear of him and tell some one he has made threts(if he has) and about you still loveing him im in love with my ex and shes dateing another guy and it hurts and i kno you still love him but you have to slowly let go remember when one door closes another one opens
hope all goes well ill pray for you

[bri-]

i've told my parents and he's made numerous threats. i have 50+ texts he sent me threatening me, bashing me, etc...

[Bluearmy]

So you love a guy, who wants to kill you?

Exuse me but I can not comprehend this, just like you can't comprehend my spelling!

How could you possibly love this dude if he wants you dead!?

[bri-]

Well I'm not sure of be wants to kills me but he does hate me. But the fact of the matter is I love him... Actually, the fact of the matter is I wanted advice on how to talk to guys. Not to be critizied on who I love.