Need Help - How to be mature?

[AnonKid]

Well I'm quite mature in a way that I know what's right what's wrong etc. but I have these feelings that I just don't know how to get through them like let's say for example if I had to move out of my house I would be thinking about my family all the time and maybe feel lonely and well I'm 17 and I can act mature I'm usually mature but when it comes to home I'm quite immature, ask stupid questions etc... and well compared with other boys my age I'm kind of like a little sissy or more a person where everything needs to be clean otherwise I won't touch it etc... basically I want to become mature like the other guys my age and be a man not a sissy boy. Also I don't hang out much with other people because I'm quite shy and usually I don't know what to talk about I can't really seem to make a convo with a bunch of new people that I haven't ever met before or people that are still new to me, in primary school I used to talk to everyone be more fun and enjoying life now I feel miserable like a loser.
I don't hang out much with people because most of them I don't know what to talk about and well I mean I know ways of keeping up a convo but I just don't know how to put it all together since the questions usually end up closed one answer ones or if they are open then after the discussion is finished once again silence comes up and nothing to talk about. I also find it a lot easier to talk to people when there's just 1 person not a group (same goes for girls). Overall I'm shy I don't think I know how to get along with people. But when I get to know someone quite well I can go on and on talking about everything even stupid things that don't make sense and I'll just talk and talk.... lol I need help I want to be more masculine. :what::what::what::what::what:

[DrkZ90]

well, I'm exactly like that... used to be different back in primary school too, are you sure you are not me? :yeah:

anyway, I don't know what you could do besides going out more, getting some hobby and people who do it too so you have something to talk about even though is someone you don't know or something... that could help...

[AnonKid]

well, I'm exactly like that... used to be different back in primary school too, are you sure you are not me? :yeah:

anyway, I don't know what you could do besides going out more, getting some hobby and people who do it too so you have something to talk about even though is someone you don't know or something... that could help...

I dunno man, it's kind of hard, when I was back in primary school I would just chat up random people and it would be fun. I remember I was on the bus once and there were these hot girls riding a car and they were riding right next to the bus and I just started sending kisses to them and waving they laughed and waved back I used to interact with people a lot more now I'm stuck in my room with a whole load of school work. I dunno why it is as it is right now but I think it might be the computer and the Internet that made me how I am now, but I can't really use that as an excuse because I've got loads of friends that use the internet daily and they still have fun and hang out with loads of people, I just don't know what happened to me. :(

[DrkZ90]

Something bad happened to you??? dunno, but I can recall something bad that happened to me back in 2002.... (Don't wanna go in details here), but that's pretty much the reason I stopped being talkative and all... and no, it's not using the PC or the Internet, that's for sure, since I didn't even had Internet access when in Highschool, in fact, I got Broadband in 2005 lol, and a somewhat-good PC in 2006, and finally an awesome gaming one in 2007...

So, do you have or are interested in any hobbies that could be done socially? that will help for sure, it does help me :)

[AnonKid]

Something bad happened to you??? dunno, but I can recall something bad that happened to me back in 2002.... (Don't wanna go in details here), but that's pretty much the reason I stopped being talkative and all... and no, it's not using the PC or the Internet, that's for sure, since I didn't even had Internet access when in Highschool, in fact, I got Broadband in 2005 lol, and a somewhat-good PC in 2006, and finally an awesome gaming one in 2007...

So, do you have or are interested in any hobbies that could be done socially? that will help for sure, it does help me :)

Yeah there's loads of stuff, games(outdoor), etc... but the thing is even if I'm there I just won't talk to anyone because I don't know what to talk about and I'm shy and I'll just be silent like a loner because I don't know anyone or something, which is quite annoying.

[Sage]

lol I need help I want to be more masculine. :what::what::what::what::what:

Go watch some Clint Eastwood movies and then go camping in your back yard.

[DrkZ90]

do what I do... talk about what you are doing at the moment, just something like "cool" or "good game, huh?" or something to try and spark a conversation... that will surely help, and will be easier to just say it out of the blue...

[AnonKid]

do what I do... talk about what you are doing at the moment, just something like "cool" or "good game, huh?" or something to try and spark a conversation... that will surely help, and will be easier to just say it out of the blue...

What if your walking down the park?? lol

[DrkZ90]

dunno, I don't usually walk down the park lol, but commenting on the weather, something nearby, or someone passing by could work