Help! The love of my life is about to kill herself!

[Littleman]

Please help! i dont know what to do! she keeps telling me she is going to kill herself. She does cut so im taking this very seriously. (she showed me a picture) She is only 14! and she wants to kill herself! I have tried telling her that death is not the anwser and i have even told her that i loved her (first time) She doesnt believe me and says shes either going to 1: Jump off her roof 2: Stap herself in the heart 3: slit her wrist and bleed to death :(

Please help! i dont know what to tell her!

[Truth]

Phone 911, right now. She needs to be put into a hospital, and do it.. unless you want to see her in a coffin; pale, and frozen.

[Oblivion]

Calm her down, keep talking on the phone.
Talk about how so many people care for her, and would hate to see her go.
Maybe go and see her if you can.
Talk about fun things, maybe suggest she takes a nap, or watches TV for a while.
Help get her mind off cutting/suicide.

If none of that works, call 1-800-SUICIDE (784-2433)
Talk to the specialists there.
While she's/you're talking to them try their website (http://www.hopeline.com/).

[Littleman]

Phone 911, right now. She needs to be put into a hospital, and do it.. unless you want to see her in a coffin; pale, and frozen.

I dont want to call 911, but i will if i must. Please i need another option

[Littleman]

Calm her down, keep talking on the phone.
Talk about how so many people care for her, and would hate to see her go.
Maybe go and see her if you can.
Talk about fun things, maybe suggest she takes a nap, or watches TV for a while.
Help get her mind off cutting/suicide.

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I have tried to calm her down, i am not sure if i made any progress. We cant talk on the phone but we can txt (thats what ive been doing)

I tried to tell her that so many people love her and care for her to much to see her dead, but she didnt believe me.

She keeps going back to talking about suicide if i try to talk about fun things.

Last time i suggested a nap (qoute) Me: "Look maybe you should get some rest, you seem really stressed out" Her: "...Eternal rest..."

Im trying my best but i dont know if its working.


I would go see her but im not aloud to leave the house


Edit: I also forgot to ask and metion--- Whoever believes in prayer please pray for her, she needs it

[Truth]

I dont want to call 911, but i will if i must. Please i need another option Ill be honest, if she's suicidal and you don't; you will have a guilty concious when you find out you couldve kept her alive, trust me, i was the one to try and call 911 when my dad did it, if only i couldve saved him, but i couldnt.. you have the chance to; take it or leave it, or as i said.. you'll see her put under in a coffin, lying there pale and frozen.

[Oblivion]

What about the suicide hotline?
That could help. Or try calling her.

If nothing works call her parents/tell your parents/call 1800SUICIDE or 911.

[Littleman]

What about the suicide hotline?
That could help. Or try calling her.

If nothing works call her parents/tell your parents/call 1800SUICIDE or 911.

Aye, i shall try calling her if she says anything more about taking it any farther.

She said that she would talk to me again later, she is trying to ride home in the car with her parents and doesnt want to snap (she gets really suicidle)

[Truth]

Aye, i shall try calling her if she says anything more about taking it any farther.

She said that she would talk to me again later, she is trying to ride home in the car with her parents and doesnt want to snap (she gets really suicidle) Hmm, you made it seem more serious.. Well, i do suggest to phone the hotline instead, only phone 911 if she starts to try and commit suicide.

[Littleman]

Hmm, you made it seem more serious.. Well, i do suggest to phone the hotline instead, only phone 911 if she starts to try and commit suicide.

The worst part about calling 911 is i dont know her adress... i know the street but not the adress

[Oblivion]

They can look her up in the phone book/other records.

[Littleman]

They can look her up in the phone book/other records.

Good point, im just hoping that i can calm her down. I dont want to betray her trust to the point where she hates me :(

[punkjake]

Truth is right call 911:( write now or you can take your chances and calm her down if she calms down and stops cutting herself than yes call but if she does try to get her some help ,good luck and God speak

[Viral Death]

Just ask her that if she leaves then she will never get to see you or see her family anymore! If that dont work then call the hotline

[Littleman]

Aye, i tryed talking about fun things and that sure worked! So now im going to go see a movie with her on monday (Star trek 2009 second time for me first time for her) and she has been planning some stuff for us to do over the summer. Woohoo!

She is in a sorta nutral zone right now, I told her i loved her again and that she is like a little sister to me (she is only 2 months younger then me) that really boosted her fealings. Thanks guys! I will keep you all updated on our progress. Hopefully we don't have another repeat


Almost forgot, if anyone actually prayed for us, may God Bless you. Good night

[Viral Death]

I think God answered my prayer! Thank you God I love to see people happier than me!

[Spin]

I'm really glad everything worked out, and Star Trek was awesome! : D

[ackmedsgirl666]

talk 2 someone
if u love her u will not let her suffer and watch her talk this way
if u trust someone tell them
or take the other ppls advice on here and call 911

[bill]

ok last guy who comented, already over... also i prayed but it was already over...so

[Littleman]

ok last guy who comented, already over... also i prayed but it was already over...so


keep praying, we still need it. it might be a while before she fully recovers

[HelloWorld123456]

and they say god does not exist ... GOD IS ALWAYS HELPING US ! IT IS US THAT WE DONT SEE WHAT HE IS DOING FOR US


Thanks you GOD ... How many times do you say it in a day ?

If you dont pray say this simple sentence ...


Thank you Good Lord and Forgive me my lord

[kt2369]

thats great that things worked out.
its horrible when someone you love says they will kill themselves.

[Beautiful Obsession]

Glad everythin worked outt for uu and her bbe; if this happend to happen agenn hough call 999.. and ifnd out her house number lol. xx

[Pirate]

I know how she feels.
The most I can say to you to do, you're already doing. Keep in contact, make sure if she texts/calls you're there. It can be tiresome, but if she starts to feel that you're slipping away or getting bored then she may snap. I know I did.

Like I said though, it seems like you're already doing these things, so I wish you both the best of luck!

[dstnyisurs]

Im glad she's okay...
Things like that may and probably will happen again...
In such a situation, the best thing to do is to try to be on the phone to her or in communication with her constantly. You need to talk her down from whatever feeling she's stuck on, tell her you love her, and try to distract her from whatever is plauging her inside her head. Talk to her as much as you can, just talk to her. Just be there for her. Never stop talking to her. If she becomes too serious like she may really do it, call either 911 or a suicide hotline. But only if she is going to do it.
If you need help with what to say or so on, feel free to PM me, or instant message of some kind. Anytime.

[Littleman]

Thanks for all the advice. I really need it, she is starting to talk about it again. I told her that i loved her, the amout of sadness and sarrow would be over welming, and i would be alone. (qoute from txt message) " =) atleast someone cares..." so she seems to be doing better. She considered telling her parents but we both decided to keep it between us and that i would try and help her out.

We just got back from seeing star trek, she really had alot of fun. (seems i did everything right, bought her ticket for her, bough her popcorn etc.) What surprised me the most is she started leaning into my direction toward the end of the movie, like she wanted to be closer. What surprised me even more, she started talking to me about past relationships and friends.


One last side note, Shortly after i orginaly posted this thread (when i went to bed that night) i had 5 dreams, 3 with better out comes and the other 2 depressed me. (im fine now btw) If you guys want, ill post what the dreams were (pretty much based around my whole situation)

Im off to bed, Thanks again guys,

Ryan (A.K.A Littleman)

[Truth]

Thanks for all the advice. I really need it, she is starting to talk about it again. I told her that i loved her, the amout of sadness and sarrow would be over welming, and i would be alone. (qoute from txt message) " =) atleast someone cares..." so she seems to be doing better. She considered telling her parents but we both decided to keep it between us and that i would try and help her out.

We just got back from seeing star trek, she really had alot of fun. (seems i did everything right, bought her ticket for her, bough her popcorn etc.) What surprised me the most is she started leaning into my direction toward the end of the movie, like she wanted to be closer. What surprised me even more, she started talking to me about past relationships and friends.


One last side note, Shortly after i orginaly posted this thread (when i went to bed that night) i had 5 dreams, 3 with better out comes and the other 2 depressed me. (im fine now btw) If you guys want, ill post what the dreams were (pretty much based around my whole situation)

Im off to bed, Thanks again guys,

Ryan (A.K.A Littleman) I hope you can help her, cause if you guys ever break up, i hope she wouldnt still be suicidal (Yes, it's obv, and not saying you will, but meh.)

[Littleman]

Yeah, this whole ordeal is starting to seam like a roller coaster. Nice, steady ups with fast and terrifing downs

[dstnyisurs]

and they say god does not exist ... GOD IS ALWAYS HELPING US ! IT IS US THAT WE DONT SEE WHAT HE IS DOING FOR US


Thanks you GOD ... How many times do you say it in a day ?

If you dont pray say this simple sentence ...


Thank you Good Lord and Forgive me my lord

Really? I don't know how much this will help. It's not going to get her out of the funk she's in when she's feeling suicidal.

[Littleman]

Ok, guys, she is cutting herself again, i had a good long talk with her about not killing herself, and she called me, we just spend an hour on the phone and she cut herself on her knees 13 or so more times, totaling it up to about 25 cuts, some deeper then others. I really dont know what to do now, i tryed talking to her, but she still kinda snapped (i could hear her crying) so i tried to comfort her, i think i succeded but she went to say goodnight to her parents. so now im here, asking for advice on what to do, please help

[Viral Death]

Just pray to god and he might help! I dont believe in god so I would just pray. Just tell her she gets no where in life if she cuts. And just tell her that there are people out there that love her and you love her tons. Maybe if you or her have dogs you guys should go walk the dogs and spend time with her.

[Project Delta]

I hope the best for you, and its great to hear you had a good time watching Star Trek. I would go see it but i'm too lazy :)
Well done on keeping her here with us, and keeping her from becoming just a statistic (harsh but true)

[dstnyisurs]

Just talk, let her know you love her.
One tactic that can work is telling her that it hurts you when she cuts because you don't like to see her hurt. It can work, or it can't work. If it doesn't work she may feel guilty that she's hurting you and feel worse, or it could get her to stop which is why you need to be careful with it.

[Littleman]

Just talk, let her know you love her.
One tactic that can work is telling her that it hurts you when she cuts because you don't like to see her hurt. It can work, or it can't work. If it doesn't work she may feel guilty that she's hurting you and feel worse, or it could get her to stop which is why you need to be careful with it.

I tried telling her i dont like seeing her hurt, ever. no matter if its physicly or emotionally, and now she is really comfortable talking to me about why she cuts.

Its cause when she needed the attention the most, it was all being givin to her sister, who was depressed at the time. She was shuned by her parents and everyone around her. (at the time, we had just about started are relationship and i knew nothing about any of this) she actually started crying (which is unusuall, she is very tough) Later that day i asked her if she was crying, she said yes and she said she was angry that she cryed on the phone, infront of me. I told her that it was ok that she cryed, she was expressing her emotion, and that i was prefectly ok with that. One day after this, she addmited that she likes me again. and that she had tried to sab herself 3 days before, but the knife didnt break the skin. :what: So, the girl of my dreams is still here, with us on this damned planet. She is showing signs of improvement, but im still not sure. I talked with her about some other things today (like how i was sexually harrassed by one of my old girlfriends) and about some other things, she is becoming really comfortable talking to me. I told her she can come to me with anything, cuz she cant go to her parents cuz they wont listen. I told her i wouldnt make fun of her or judge her. and now im considering asking her this weekend if she would like to be my girlfriend :wub:

[dstnyisurs]

Good Plan. =) Thatt would cheer her up!
It's so awesome you guys can be so open with one another and that you're really listening to her, because it sounds like that is what she really needs right now.
Keep us updated!

[Rockin Rolla]

My Ex did this to me bro.. i loved the girl with all i had and she scared be a few times.. she also cut herself, and it could get pretty nasty.. Honestly i cant tell you what to do.. after about the third time she called me crying and saying all her random suicidal things i got to the breaking point.. i was a real jerk in all honesty.. i told her that i couldnt take it anymore and that everything was always about her. i told her to grown the hell up , that she isnt the center of the world. she got pretty upset. but after that day it never happened again, and i noticed that there was no new scars anywhere on her body.. my aproach could be dangerous, but in my case it worked.. good luck man i hope nothing bad happens.

[Littleman]

Quick update: She is kinda at a stand still, not improving, or getting worse. Today in church she was gonna show me this spot on her back where if she ever had an asthma attack (yes she has asthma, so do i) it helps her breathe. We never got around to seeing it, but we are going on a church picnic tomarrow. I planned on seeing it there, and giving her a sneak back rub :D i asked her how she would like that, she said "i dont know" and she said if i had done that to her today, she would have almost defently fallen asleep in my arms.

God, i love her.

She openly showed me her cuts today, she hasnt made any new ones, and her old ones are healing up.

In the past week, she has talked about killing herself and how she isnt worth my love (and so forth) so, i called her. And now every time she gets that way i call her and just talk for a while, i actually got her to leave the knives in her kichten, all but one, which was too dull to do anything.

I believe im making progress, but idk. '

(also, i need some advice on asking her to be my girlfriend and giving her a back rub. If anyone can help, please, either PM me or post here)



Thanks again everyone, we need it



Ryan (A.K.A Littleman)

[dstnyisurs]

Okay, asking her to be your girlfriend.
Just spit it out. You can try to make it all romantic and special, but sometimes the best way to do so is to just tell her how you feel and asking her.
The backrub? Massageeee her back. Basically, that's all there is to it. If you're feeling adventerous you can make it sensual and/or sexual (I trust you have ideas enough about how to do that), but basically, it's a sweet thing and simply meant to make her feel relaxed. Try doing what feels good to you in a backrub or massage, unless what feels good to you is wierd and out of the ordinary, because there is a chance that she likes it too. Also, she'll have grounds for how to go about giving you a back massage too if she ever does. :)
You're making tons of progress. It sounds like you being there for her is exacty what she needs. That's amazing she isn't cutting.... kudos to her. :)
Keep us updated. Good luckk! :3

[Littleman]

UPDATE: Well, i got her to talk a bit more, she said that she feels that she needs to be punished, and that she deserves death. I told her that she DOES NOT deserve death (exact words) but she wont tell me why she feels she needs to be punished.

I went to the park with her last sunday, we went and walked on one of the trails with her older sister. We eventually ended up right on the bay (Chesapeak) and there was a small beach (this park is right on the bay) and so forth. So she climbed up, and sat on the rocks, and i joined her. We both just sat, side by side, looking out into the Bay. It was wonderful. I told her i loved her for the first time in person (txting and on the phone the times before) and i came really close to putting my arm around her. but her older sister was sitting on the beach behide us, so i didnt. She admitted last night to almost giving me a hug (she was stress and needed a hug, i felt like crap and needed one too) and, after much convicing, i got her to take some pictures for my phone of herself (just her face) so i can have something to look at whenever i miss her :wub:

[dstnyisurs]

AWW! (: Thats so adorable!
Keep being patient. She'll open up to you eventually.
The truth many be she may not know WHY she deserves to be punished. She may just feel it. But you'll know sooner or later why. It takes time to open up like that.. because sometimes it takes the most terrible things to drive someone to depression.
And sometimes the most terrible things are nothing at all but thoughts.
Don't worry. Be patient. You're already doing her lots of good.

[Discomposure]

aww, keep it going, your saving a life here god bless you :)

[Natoja12]

Please keep me updated. U could write an inspiring book with this... Goodfor u!