How do I get her back?? Should I even bother??

[peaceloverugby]

Ok, some of you may have read my blog; if you didn't, well i think it says it better there b/c it was heat of the moment.

Anyways, someone (who I used to trust a lot) told my girlfriend that I'm bisexual and that I cut myself (which hasn't happened in a week or two). They told her this last night (28 may) and she called and woke me up at 6 am to tell me that we are over unless I see a counselor about my bisexuality. If you can't tell, my girlfriend's VERY religious and I suppose that's why she freaked. now she won't answer my calls or texts

So, my question is, how do I get her back? I pretty much need her to live: one of my triggers for cutting is when we have arguments. But I really don't want to see some counselor who's just going to tell me that all gays go to hell or whatever they believe.

Question two is, should I even bother trying to get her back? Is it over? I don't want it to be over, and I don't think she does either.

[IAMWILL]

Well, just setting something straight here, counselors don't think that all gays should go to hell or anything like that, so scratch that, and also, there are two friendships you need to deal with here.

Okay, well I'll start first with your girfriend. Now there are two parts to this. The first part was a mistake by you by not telling her you were bisexual before you went out with her, because that only makes it 100% worse when she finds out from someone else, it's a loss of trust. The second fault comes from her reaction and her, because obviously a good girl shouldn't care about your sexuality to a point, as long as she's your only sexual partner. Because you didn't tell her you were bisexual in the first place, you wouldn't know if she's fine with that before you too went out, therefore worsening and abusing the point of this relationship because there was a lack of trust between you two in not telling each other things that matter before you went out. (sorry if this is confusing, it's hard to word). So really, you need to adress all this, and make your deciscion. Either apologize meaningfully to her and try to make things better, or forget her and move on.

Moving onto your friend. Considering your friend told your girfriend something very very personal (although once again you probably should have told her in the first place [not trying to be mean]), without your permission, he, in my mind, has immediately lost my trust in him as a friend. Now, people do make mistakes when under pressure, so you should forgive him if he's going through hard times right now (ie parents divorcing, mental troubles, physciatric stuff). If he did it though with full recognition of what he was doing and some intention, your friendship might be over. This is your deciscion though, and remember, no one can control your life, they can only influence you.

[peaceloverugby]

first off thnx for the reply

the counselor isn't a normal counselor, it's a religious counselor from her church

i totally understand the "shes pissed for not telling her" part, and i still don't know why i didnt. i guess just b/c everything was so perfect, i didnt want to throw any challenges in there

and i just found out who told her, as far as i know he's not going thru ne thing rite now. he might have some physical problems if i see him saturday, i already told that motherfucker what he has coming. fucking cunt, i should've known he would tell her

[AnonKid]

and i just found out who told her, as far as i know he's not going thru ne thing rite now. he might have some physical problems if i see him saturday, i already told that motherfucker what he has coming. fucking cunt, i should've known he would tell her

LMAO hahahaha lool sorry but that was just pure funny. :P