I'd rather not be but i think i am

[MisterMonster]

Right. As you can probably guess from the title, i think i may be gay. I feel sexually attracted towards men, i even fell for a couple of guys. I watch gay porn aswell. I'm only 14, and i know it might be a phase, but if it is a phase then it's been mighty long. I've had these feelings since i was 12.

However, there are two things that may stop me jumping to this conclusion.
1) Just a few weeks ago, i thought i was bisexual. I wanted to do girls ASWELL as boys. Its been on and off like this for a couple of years

2) My parents are both religious (especially my mother) and very homophobic. I can't help but think I was made this way just to get back at my parents (which sort of makes me laugh, to be honest)

I know perfectly well that to be gay instead of curious you have to have an emotional attraction to someone aswell as a physical attraction and i've tried to look on this as a third person, so i can give myself advice. The only advice i know works for tolerant parents. I'm British (or at least i live in britain).

I don't want to be gay, but if i am, i know i can't help it. Thanks for listening.

[Silent]

Well you may or may not be gay that's all up to you.

It takes you to be physically attracted and emotionally attracted to same sex to be gay.

Watching a certain kind of porn does not determine sexuality either its just what gets you up "if you will".

As far as you being 14 and it being a phase it could be or you really could just like the same sex, that's when curiosity comes in. I personally have had all these since I was 12 and I'm 16 now. So I don't know.

You very well could be bisexual because you like girls and boys as you say.

As far as the parents thing goes I'm in same situation so your not alone. There is not much you can do when they are like that tho.

Hopped this helped in some way.

If you need to talk or whatever feel free to pm me.

[Oblivion]

You have a good basic understanding of how sexuality works, so really we can't help much.
My main advice would be to wait until you are at least 16-17 before making any decisions, and definitely before coming out to parents.Maybe try different things, and see what you really like. Over time hormones, and emotions can easily change, especially during puberty. They flux, and cause confusing thoughts. For me, it feels weird because like you I'm 14, and it feels like I have control over my hormones, thoughts, etc. and I feel like how I am now won't change, but I would guess I really don't have as much of a grip on what will happen, so in the end we both will end up having to wait. Otherwise we will be guessing, which really doesn't help anyone, and it actually makes life harder.

Good luck, and I hope for your and every other possibly/definitely homo/bi sexual person that the world becomes more tolerant. :clover: