I feel alone when my best friend is like this :'(

[kt2369]

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[Aneklusmos]

I'm really sorry to hear that. I hate it when a friend deserts me. But it kinda sounds to me that you didn't mean as much to her as she did to you. Do you have someone else to talk to? Maybe try to absorb yourself in something, like school, to distract yourself from the urge to cut. And remember, every person on VT will be glad to talk to you if you need someone to talk to. That included me.

[Blue63]

I've had it happen, sometimes people begin to drift, I know it really sucks, I'm so sorry it happened to you.

I know there is a lot going on right now, so the best thing might be to give her some space, maybe be casual with her for a week, then a week later text her, invite her to a move, sort of start your friendship all over again. Maybe try and lay off on the hard core asking her for advice for a while, everyone here on VT will be glad to be her substitute for a while :]

The point is she's not gone yet, there could be something causing this that she's hiding from you, so don't blame yourself. Just give her the same space she is giving you, then try and get a little closer after that, just like you would be making a new friend, but all the ground work is already set :]

[kt2369]

thanks. i really thought she cared about me just as much.
i should find someone else that can keep my from cutting, i dont want to go back to the hospital >_>

[Blue63]

thanks. i really thought she cared about me just as much.
i should find someone else that can keep my from cutting, i dont want to go back to the hospital >_>

She could still care for you, I know there are times when I get a little to much of my best friend and have to kind of take a break from him. But he's still my best friend, and I know that, and so does he. How long has she been like that, she may just want a break, broaden her horizons a bit, she's not gone. We Hope.

[IAMWILL]

Wow guys! Great advice! (Rep +!)

I will just add the simple note that people change a lot as they mature, so this may just be something uncontrolable and completely normal.

[kt2369]

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[Aneklusmos]

its sounds perfectly normal. i have friends that i find it hurtful if they hang out with other people. i don't think she hates you. in fact, she probably still considers you one of her best friends, if not the best. as stated before, maybe shes just broadening her horizons. it sounds as if she needs you as much you need her if she gets drunk and high without you.

some people just want to keep it light in their friendships. if i tried pouring my heart out to some of my friends they would just be like, "freak".

[kt2369]

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[Aneklusmos]

Unfortuanetly, a lot of people are gonna find it weird that you cut. But just keep looking for that person who will understand. More support is always good though.

[kt2369]

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[Aneklusmos]

Well maybe thats what your going to have to do with her, if you want to keep her as a friend. Keep it light and happy with her, and if all feels good between you two after a while maybe try and have a heart to heart with her. Maybe. But definitely reach out for some new friends. "Make new friends, but keep the old. Some are silver and the other gold".
I wouldn't suggest trying to bottle all the "depressing" things up. We all on VT are always willing and able to help. Especially our wonderful counselors. And speaking of counselors, some people are adverse to the idea, but do you have one? If you don't, I'll throw out the suggestion. Not all counselors are horrible.

[kt2369]

ok thanks i think i will just talk about the "depressing" things with people that dont mind or i will just talk about it on here(:

[Aneklusmos]

Sounds like a very good idea! Always have somewhere to let it out, thats for sure. :-)