Really big father help!!!plz

[sam i am]

Ok.. well i think my father is cheating on my mother again. There's this girl that's keep calling him and he's like on the phone 24/7 He's like old,but not to old. And sometimes when he goes out i ask him where is he going he says nothing back. Face it i never really trusted my dad at all. He's a fucking player. He has 9 kids and been with 5 girls including my mom. Four boys with my mom and 2 kids with another lady and 2 with some other hoe XD but the last one died at 14 so i can't say anything. He only talks to 2 of his other kids but not that much. I remember i went to the hospital (got cancer) and my mom told me when she got back from home that my dad was crying. I really couldn't believe it because what about your other kids they have no father and u just left them i felt so disgusted and blessed too but i really wish my dad could be there for them just as he been there for me. I don't even know the other 2 names or gender. It's so sad. Ok let me get straight to the point how do i really know for sure my dad is cheating on my mom again? And if so how do i come out to my mother and tell her?

[Truth]

The only way you can know is to just get to the point and say "Dad, are you cheating?". Nothing else will ever get you the answer.

[sam i am]

That's the thing it's not easy to ask that and me and my dad don't have a strong relationship

[byee]

Hiya Sam from NY,

As you've pointed out, your issues with your dad might be influencing your judgement here. So, you need to ask yourself what the point of all this is, and what's the best way to address it. Methinks it might be best to address the underlying issues with him: Your lack of trust, your feeling neglected by him, your disappointment and anger, etc., rather than making an accusation which basically is unfounded at this point, and isn't really one that's totally your business.

In the absence of that, if you decide to NOT find a way to sit down with him and attempt to address all the other issues, you should tell your mom about your concerns and let her address it with you, or him, if she so chooses.

[sam i am]

Excuse me it is my business because i my mom got hurt by him once and i remember how that was for her and i hate to see that again doesn't matter forget i ask im going to try to close this post