Need Advice - 17yr old Virgin

[AnonKid]

Hey everyone I'm new to the forum, I've registered here since this place looks very nice and welcoming and I would like to ask for some good advice from fellow members. I'm a 17 year old male virgin and yeah this indicates that I've never had sex before. I always thought that the best time to have sex for the first time in your life is when you find the right person (virgin girl) who you will love and be forever because this would be special since you would save yourselves for each other. But I have recently come up with a conclusion that life is short as it is and everyday is a day less in our lives therefore we should have as much fun and pleasure from life as we can. And there's this thing that goes around for quite a long time now in my head, well it's to have sex with an older girl because I find that it makes me horny when I think of having sex with an older girl then me. Anyway I know this 22 year old girl that I want to have sex with and she's fine with it she's patient and basically since you should fully enjoy your life I want to have sex with her and I was wondering if I should do it with her or if I should wait till I find the right virgin girl? The pro's of the 22yr old girl is that she is experienced, she could teach me and it could be fun, cons, she ain't a virgin.

I need some good advice! Should I wait or have fun with life? :cool:
PS. I've also added a Poll to help me decide. :)

[nachtspiegel]

If you want to do it, go on ahead. There really isn't anything wrong with it as long as you can be completely sure that you're ready to take that leap. Just make sure that you use protection.

Oh, and, so you know, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at seventeen.

[AnonKid]

If you want to do it, go on ahead. There really isn't anything wrong with it as long as you can be completely sure that you're ready to take that leap. Just make sure that you use protection.

Oh, and, so you know, there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at seventeen.

Thanks for the advice and I know that there's nothing wrong with being a virgin at my age but I just kinda want to have it now especially because I'm young and doing it with an older girl kinda turns me on. :)

[nachtspiegel]

If that's what you want to do, go for it bud. Life only comes once.

[AnonKid]

If that's what you want to do, go for it bud. Life only comes once.

True say and that's what kinda puts me back because I could just wait for the virgin girl but I'm not sure. :confused:

[nachtspiegel]

Does it mean a lot to you for you to have your first time with a virgin?

[HelloWorld123456]

For me virginty means a lot ... if i were you I would wait until io find the right virgin girl ! Besides since the older girl is not a virgin she might be infected with std or sti ... so becarefull a lot ... If i were you i would wait :D You have a whole life time infort of you to have sex

PM if you need to talk

[Sapphire]

Why is it so important for them to be virgins?
Is it some faulty way of thinking that everyone who's had sex is infected with an STD or that they are less pure or what?

[AnonKid]

I don't know, I always used to think that virginity meant a lot but now, I'm not to sure about it since it's not about the past but about what's now.

[george17]

if youre comfortable with it i cant see a problem. i can see what you mean when you want a virgin girlfriend to because i was wanted the same as you but if you feel ok with it and so does she, i cant see the problem

[AnonKid]

True say, what about all them diseases like STI's and STD's? Sounds kinda scary but if a condom is used that should stop these types of things? Plus what worries me most is how to not get an STI or STD while doing oral sex? For example a cunnilingus?

[Sapphire]

True say, what about all them diseases like STI's and STD's? Sounds kinda scary but if a condom is used that should stop these types of things? Plus what worries me most is how to not get an STI or STD while doing oral sex? For example a cunnilingus?
You can't get an STD from someone unless they have one already. Ask her is you are this worried. But if you are still in any doubt use a condom and don't perform oral sex.

If this is why doing it with a virgin is so important to people then God help us!

[AnonKid]

You can't get an STD from someone unless they have one already. Ask her is you are this worried. But if you are still in any doubt use a condom and don't perform oral sex.

If this is why doing it with a virgin is so important to people then God help us!

Nah that wasn't it, it was something else. XD
But thanks for your great advice. :)

[ackmedsgirl666]

its your choice
if u wanna do it go for it
but if you wait then thats your choice too
if i were u tho i wud wait

[trenton.g]

go for it get freaky :0

[AnonKid]

LMAO and how to chose? When one person says go for it and the other says wait?? XD

[rivermaya]

Go with what you feel is right. Don't do it just because someone told you to do it.

[AnonKid]

Go with what you feel is right. Don't do it just because someone told you to do it.

I don't know what's right. I want to go with the 22 year old though to have some fun. :)

[Stevo 69]

Don't worry mate, I'm a 17-year-old-virgin too, no biggy, I'm just waiting for the right girl.

Just because others are having sex and you're not doesn't mean you have to. It's up to you when you are ready to have sex. Don't feel pressurised!

Your time will come

[AnonKid]

Don't worry mate, I'm a 17-year-old-virgin too, no biggy, I'm just waiting for the right girl.

Just because others are having sex and you're not doesn't mean you have to. It's up to you when you are ready to have sex. Don't feel pressurised!

Your time will come

I know it's the fact that I don't know why but I really want to have sex with an older girl but want to keep my virginity and not sure about it. Let me ask you a question, do you get the desire for sex very often? Do you feel horny often? And do you look at porn? If no I guess it's the right time for me to have it. :)

[narniafoxx]

go for it...why not??
is she hott??

[AnonKid]

go for it...why not??
is she hott??

Yeah, she is.

I really want to have sex with an older girl but want to keep my virginity and not sure about it. Let me ask you a question, do you get the desire for sex very often? Do you feel horny often? And do you look at porn? I guess these mean that I should do it because I'm ready or is it because I'm just horny?? :what:

[Sapphire]

I know it's the fact that I don't know why but I really want to have sex with an older girl but want to keep my virginity and not sure about it. Let me ask you a question, do you get the desire for sex very often? Do you feel horny often? And do you look at porn? If no I guess it's the right time for me to have it.
Every teenager gets like that. It's hormones combined with curiosity.

What is your reason for not wanting to lose your virginity and what is your reason for wanting to lose it?

[Flutterfly]

I think you should wait, it'll be more special.
Doing it now with someone you aren't in love with and aren't going to stay with is like you're saving up for something really big but you keep buying stupid little things that make it harder when the time is right.
You gotta think about how you'll feel if you do it now and than later find that specialy someone. Will you regret it?
You can't take it back, so think hard.

[Sapphire]

I think you should wait, it'll be more special.
Doing it now with someone you aren't in love with and aren't going to stay with is like you're saving up for something really big but you keep buying stupid little things that make it harder when the time is right.
You gotta think about how you'll feel if you do it now and than later find that specialy someone. Will you regret it?
You can't take it back, so think hard.The first time you have sex is not the only time sex can be special. Candles, music, emotions, the person you are with. These make sex special as well. In my experience they make for a more special experience than the first time.
How does having sex make it harder when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with?
If anything it will make it easier because you will be able to gauge your sexual compatibility by knowing what you like/dislike and you will have built up a knowledge base as to what feels good for the other person.

[AnonKid]

Every teenager gets like that. It's hormones combined with curiosity.

What is your reason for not wanting to lose your virginity and what is your reason for wanting to lose it?

I don't want to lose virginity because I always thought that it would be special to do it with a virgin girl you love because we could then experiment together and we would just be for ourselves and we would never have any sexual contact with anyone else except for ourselves which would make it special. And the fact that I wouldn't have to think that someone else had gotten to the girl before me and had sex with her before me. :( Basically that's it, I think it would be special.

I want to lose virginity for fun to explore and get some experience. I've always wanted to stay virgin to keep it special but recently I've been having thoughts that I mite not get a girl that's a virgin and then in the end I'll end up thinking that I should of lost virginity back then. I also think that we only live once and we should enjoy life as much as we can and I kind of really wanna have sex just for the fun of it, not because of friends or because other's say they have had sex, I wanna lose it for fun. And plus I get really horny over older girls.

So yeah that's it, some of this may sound stupid but that's what I think and that's what's been on my head. One of my very good mates said I should go for it too so I think I will just go and have fun. :) And plus I think that if you really love someone the past won't matter much or even at all since you never knew that person back then and it could be easier to lose virginity earlier because then you'll be more experienced for the future. :)

[SlightlySane]

You can only give away your virginity once. I believe that you should wait till you have found the right person, not meaning that they are a virgian just someone who you want to be with forever. Yes, sex is full of pleasure, but you will expierence so much more than pleasure having it with someone who you truely love.

You are still young, don't grow up so fast...

[AnonKid]

You can only give away your virginity once. I believe that you should wait till you have found the right person, not meaning that they are a virgian just someone who you want to be with forever. Yes, sex is full of pleasure, but you will expierence so much more than pleasure having it with someone who you truely love.

You are still young, don't grow up so fast...

Well to be honest here how can a 15 year old judge on such a topic when they themselves have not had the experience? :) If love is love then no matter what happens I think that if you really love the person you will still get as much and even more pleasure then if you were a virgin from what some people are saying.

[SlightlySane]

Well to be honest, how can you stereotype. Just because I'm 15 doesn't mean I can't be mature. I have a lot more knowlege of people than you would expect.

If love is love, is in no way a proper explination of weather or not you will get pleasure out of this. He never said he loved her like that. It sounds like he wants to have sex and she is willing to have it too. That's not love that's hormones. You truely know you love someone because you experience a feeling that you can never explain. Even if you aren't a virgin when you married having sex with someone that you truely love and want to spend the rest of your life with can bring a whole knew feeling to it.

AnonKid just because I'm 15 doesn't make me arrogant as you. Smart people don't stereotype.

[AnonKid]

Well to be honest, how can you stereotype. Just because I'm 15 doesn't mean I can't be mature. I have a lot more knowlege of people than you would expect.

If love is love, is in no way a proper explination of weather or not you will get pleasure out of this. He never said he loved her like that. It sounds like he wants to have sex and she is willing to have it too. That's not love that's hormones. You truely know you love someone because you experience a feeling that you can never explain. Even if you aren't a virgin when you married having sex with someone that you truely love and want to spend the rest of your life with can bring a whole knew feeling to it.

AnonKid just because I'm 15 doesn't make me arrogant as you. Smart people don't stereotype.

I wasn't saying your stupid or anything, your probably more clever then I am and your 15. :P I'm just a lazy person but anyway back on track, is it that bad to have sex just because of your hormones?

[Sapphire]

is it that bad to have sex just because of your hormones?
Only you can answer that question.
Asking us you are going to get some saying yes and some saying no.
Answer it yourself and that is the path you should take.