Do I need help?

[Smoke20]

I go to high school, and I'm really good friends with this boy. He is so cute, and I don't think that he's even been through puberty. He's 16. But I have thoughts of like having anal sex with him. And doing oral with him. I'm afraid that I'm going to snap one day. And do something sexually to him, that I'm going to regret. He's just that cute. Does anyone think that I need help for this? Alot of posts are welcome!


~Thanks

[username1]

no, just try to control what you say. I'm sure most people have those sort of urges at some point :)

[Paladino]

just try not to say it

[grafty99]

just don't make any advances, whatever you do don't say anything!

[nick]

There's nothing wrong in fancying him and having fantasies about any kind of sex you can imagine, but you cant confuse fantasy with reallity here just keep those things apart. If you were to touch him against his wishes that would be abuse.

[ThUnDeR]

your fine but ..him if he hasnt started puberty yet there is a problem
jus if you cant stop fantasizing bout him and you want him to stop think of somthing that might turn u off bout him .. or u can just try nd do stuff with him
good luck on anything

[Konnor]

I feel the same way sometimes about a guy

[Smoke20]

your fine but ..him if he hasnt started puberty yet there is a problem
jus if you cant stop fantasizing bout him and you want him to stop think of somthing that might turn u off bout him .. or u can just try nd do stuff with him
good luck on anything

I don't think that he's started puberty. Because he doesn't have any hair on his face or arms. And he is short. But he is just so cute! I can't help but to think about him. Btw, he doesn't know anything about this. And he wouldn't agree with doing stuff with him. Even though I'd love to!

[guacamole24]

I go through situations like that a lot, but they pass. And although yours seems a little more long-term, I can relate. Sometimes there's just people in life you can't have.

If you really wanna get into this though, first, you've gotta really figure out if he would enjoy it. How you would do this, I'm not sure. i've never made it that far. For all most people know, I'm straight.

But, if you feel like its not gonna happen, I think its best to let it go and find someone else. Sorry.

[inlove]

if he is sixteen he has surely already at least started pueberty?? and idk you could try to masterbate to the thought of sex with him.. helps my urges to do stuff with my girlfriend...

[pontiacdriver]

I go to high school, and I'm really good friends with this boy. He is so cute, and I don't think that he's even been through puberty. He's 16. But I have thoughts of like having anal sex with him. And doing oral with him. I'm afraid that I'm going to snap one day. And do something sexually to him, that I'm going to regret. He's just that cute. Does anyone think that I need help for this? Alot of posts are welcome!


~Thanks

There are a couple of issues here, and I will try to break them down.

If your issue is that is there something wrong with you for liking boys who are not entirely developed and does liking such a boy making you a pervert, then I would say no as you probably just like guys who are not very developed. Body hair and full bodied men are probably not to your liking at this time, and you just prefer folks who look younger. That is fine as long as you are sticking with folks in high school (assuming you are 16 also) or folks around your age who look young. The problem develops is if you are going after younger boys (junior high and younger), and you don't want to go down that road. However, as for liking your classmates who might be underdeveloped there really is no problem with that really.

If you are having an issue with being gay in general, then just remember that sexuality is something that is not chosen and is something that born with us. You cannot rationally choose what turns you on sexually anymore than choosing the colour of your eyes or other genetic characteristics.

If your issue is liking a person who cannot possibly reciprocate your love, then that is a big issue. Love is a weird thing as Cupid's Arrow makes us fall for all sorts of folks sometimes for folks who cannot love us back in the way we want to love them. If this kid is clearly straight, then you need to respect that just as you would expect others to respect your sexuality. I suppose you can always admire his body, but you need to be realistic and realize that you can never be anything more than an admirer to him and that you two can never ever become boyfriends.

My final word is the most you can do with this guy is become his friend. However, don't become his friend for sexual reasons, and become his friend because you like him as a person and not for his body. If you cannot do that or keep a boundary between your desires and a potential friendship, then keep a distance for your sake as well as his.

[The Boy Genius]

probably just hormones. I am not very horny... yet.

[Smoke20]

There are a couple of issues here, and I will try to break them down.

If your issue is that is there something wrong with you for liking boys who are not entirely developed and does liking such a boy making you a pervert, then I would say no as you probably just like guys who are not very developed. Body hair and full bodied men are probably not to your liking at this time, and you just prefer folks who look younger. That is fine as long as you are sticking with folks in high school (assuming you are 16 also) or folks around your age who look young. The problem develops is if you are going after younger boys (junior high and younger), and you don't want to go down that road. However, as for liking your classmates who might be underdeveloped there really is no problem with that really.

If you are having an issue with being gay in general, then just remember that sexuality is something that is not chosen and is something that born with us. You cannot rationally choose what turns you on sexually anymore than choosing the colour of your eyes or other genetic characteristics.

If your issue is liking a person who cannot possibly reciprocate your love, then that is a big issue. Love is a weird thing as Cupid's Arrow makes us fall for all sorts of folks sometimes for folks who cannot love us back in the way we want to love them. If this kid is clearly straight, then you need to respect that just as you would expect others to respect your sexuality. I suppose you can always admire his body, but you need to be realistic and realize that you can never be anything more than an admirer to him and that you two can never ever become boyfriends.

My final word is the most you can do with this guy is become his friend. However, don't become his friend for sexual reasons, and become his friend because you like him as a person and not for his body. If you cannot do that or keep a boundary between your desires and a potential friendship, then keep a distance for your sake as well as his.

U are so right! That I do like boys that are not very developed through puberty. Alot of the boys that I do like are that way. I just think that it's cute that boys are my age and are not very developed. He is just so cute! I am friends with him. And I've even thought of asking him if I could come up to his house and spend the night. And maybe asked to j/o with him?

[pontiacdriver]

U are so right! That I do like boys that are not very developed through puberty. Alot of the boys that I do like are that way. I just think that it's cute that boys are my age and are not very developed. He is just so cute! I am friends with him. And I've even thought of asking him if I could come up to his house and spend the night. And maybe asked to j/o with him?

I really think asking to masturbate with this guy is a really bad idea unless he has given a strong indication that he enjoys doing sexual stuff with other guys. None of us know this guy or can read his body language, and I would tread very, very carefully with this fellow. My thinking is that you want to be more than friends with this kid, and if that is the case, then you have to be honest with him. There is no sense being his friend if you really want to be in a relationship with him and he does not feel the same way back. I think the mutual masturbation idea should be off limits until you can figure out how this guy feels about you and if he is really close with you to the point that he is all right being naked with you. If he is not comfortable doing so, then I would remain platonic friends and try to find someone else who fits your criteria of attractiveness and who would be willing to do stuff with you.