What would you classify me as?

[doonr]

Lately I've really begun to doubt my sexuality. I guess you can say I'm "straight", but I'm not really too sure about that.

First off, let me explain a few things about myself. :P

I'm 15, not a macho boy, but I'm not really that feminine. I think the farthest I'd go with the feminine is my love for Britney Spears; plus, the fact that I'm old-fashioned. Anyway, I don't mean this in a joking or conceited matter, but I am what you would consider handsome - I'm not hot tamale, though! :P

Here in Miami, most girls my age are interested is these muscular, macho man, monsters. I, as you can probably tell, am not one of those monsters. So I've never really been the "ladies man" because most of the girls picture me as their brother. That results in me not really thinking about girls in a sexual way. I mean, I think there are some really beautiful girls out there, but I wouldn't go far enough as to want to do anything sexual with them. Because of that, I geared more towards having an attraction to guys, but I wouldn't call me gay just yet. When I mean attraction, I don't really mean sexually, sexually - I kinda mean sexually. :D I just think a guy is cute, etc.

But lately there's been this guy who keeps looking at me whenever I pass by him, especially in gym since we have the same period, not class though. I think he's cute and I can tell he has an "interest" in me, even though he has some sort of boyfriend or something (oh, yeah - he's gay). So about two nights ago I had a dream about him. All I can remember is me laying on his chest and him petting me (not like a person pets an animal, haha - more like a massage). Sometimes I even see myself kissing him. But I don't really picture myself as gay, even though it's starting to sound like I am.

Most of my gay friends (I have, like, four :P) are really girly but I'm not like that. Is there such thing as a gay guy that doesn't necessarily act gay? Anyway, to get to the point (sorry for typing so much, I have the habit of doing that unfortunately), would you really consider me gay?

By the way, I have a mental attraction to girls, but not physical. Like, when some of my lady friends ask me to touch their boob or butt, I'm all like, "Ew..."

So another question: if you're a gay/bi guy, from your point of view, what would you consider me? And before everyone starts posting that the only person who knows is me, I'm just really curious about what others think. I've NEVER told anyone this...so yeah. I think I'm more in denial, really. I guess I'm just afraid of the outcome of me, if I am, "coming out". Plus, I've defended myself for years now when people call me gay, so everyone would laugh at me. Anyway...sorry for ranting :P

Thanks! :)

P.S. I'm a 10th grader.

If you need any information, just ask.

[nick]

You could well be gay or bi, I know you said not to answer this way, but you have to find that out for yourself. However...

You asked can you be gay without acting gay.

Thats a wrong sort of question. Not everyone that is gay is camp or a flamer. In fact many gay and bi guys are not all "gay" in that way. I'm bi and would be horrified if I thought anyone could tell that from my outward manerisms etc.. So you dont have to want to wear make up or carry a handbag to be gay.

Experiment a bit if you get the opportunity, that will help you to be sure.

[Rutherford The Brave]

Its really not for us to say. I mean we can give you our opinion yet, what we say isnt exactly true. It is up to you to decide whether or not your gay or not. I think your curious personally, and thats ok. So think it over yourself, and the answer should come to you.

[ThUnDeR]

thats hard to tell i would say you are bi or bi-courious
i am starting to "like" a boy too im starting to think i might be bi so idk
ur prob bi

[mr.sexy_bomb]

not every one who is gay has to be a flammer and you can be what ever you wanna be, you can be a total flammer like me or you can be a normal gay guy who is just like everyone else is up to you, and what you like best.