Transgenders.

[MiserableTeen]

I am a transgendered teen myself and am quite desperate to get to 18 years old so i can have the required surgery to make me feel "normal" and in happy which i am far from now.

Anyway i have a couple of questions for you:

1. To me sexual pleasure is a big part of life so after surgery would i still be able to feel pleasure?

2. My parents don't know how i feel. Is it worth telling them my struggle or better to keep to myself? My dad has a bad perspective of gays so im not too sure how he'd react to this.

3. Are there any problems that could occur during surgery?

4. Would the "genitals" resemble the "real" female ones and would they have the same functions?

Thank you for your time.

Also hello VT. It'll be my pleasure to meet you all.

Michael

[byee]

Hi Michael,

I'm no expert on transgender issues or the surgery, but I have studied a bit of it, so I'l share what I know.



1. To me sexual pleasure is a big part of life so after surgery would i still be able to feel pleasure? The surgery involves using as much of the original penis as possible in creating an internal, artificial vagina, but I suspect that most of the feeling that now accompanies the penis (or a 'natural' vagina) are significantly changed, if not completely lost. Most people who decide on the surgery are doing it primarily for emotional reasons, so the sexual component isn't the prime consideration.

2. My parents don't know how i feel. Is it worth telling them my struggle or better to keep to myself? My dad has a bad perspective of gays so im not too sure how he'd react to this. This is a tough one. First, being transgender is NOT the same as being gay, and you do not have to be gay to be transgender, they are two distinct things. So, your dad's reaction might be different (although if he is unaware of your struggle, we can assume he'll have a reaction). If you plan on having the surgery, I suppose you'll tell him (or he'll see), unless you plan on never seeing him again. So, the issue is when you'd tell, and that's determined on your readiness to share not so much the decision, but also the reasons why, as well as your readiness to deal with his reaction.

3. Are there any problems that could occur during surgery? As with any major surgery, there are always risks.

4. Would the "genitals" resemble the "real" female ones and would they have the same functions? Male to female typically has a better cosmetic result, although they wouldn't function the same as a 'natural' vagina, although I understand intercourse is possible.

Michael, I would stongly suggest you find someone very good to talk with about all this, not only the medical implications of the surgery, but the massive psychological ones, too. The issue is the way you see and experience yourself, and although you have the right to be who you are and live (and look) the way you want, it's a good idea to have this all sorted out before you commit to something that will permanently alter your appearance and function as totally as transgender surgery.

Good luck.

[MiserableTeen]

Thank you Sam.

Much appreciated.:)