cutting used as emotional blackmail? don't know what to do

[sorrowfull]

i went out with this girl for a few days and then she dumped me (this was months and months ago)

after this i went out with another girl, and the original one who dumped me then text me saying she had cut herself and it was my fault (and later on a picture of her cut arm aswell)

a few days later she said she loved me and i said i loved her, but then a couple of months ago (about one month after she said she loved me) she just turned around and said she didn't love me any more

i then told her i was sick of her messing me around and didn't want to be friends anymore, but then a couple of weeks later showed me and all our friends her cut wrists, exclaiming how it was my fault again for hating her

shes been cutting herself now for a couple of years, but i just dont understand it - she screwed everything up, and cut herself and blamed me; and then did it all over again

surely this is just emotional blackmail and just a pathetic attempt to make me forgive her? or i am being a harsh prick for thinking this?
but i just really don't get it, but i kind of feel bad for being responsible for all the times she has cut herself, should i make up with her or somthing?

[Sapphire]

Self harming is an action that only the individual who does it has control over. No one can make someone hurt themselves and no one can stop someone hurting themselves. It all comes from within.

Do not accept the blame for something you have no control over!

You aren't being a harsh prick for thinking that this is emotional blackmail because it is emotional blackmail. No one deserves to be treated like this.
You making up with her is what she seems to want and so to go ahead and do it would be tantamount to saying "If you emotionally blackmail me then I will always come back".

You don't deserve to be blamed for things you have no control over and emotionally blackmailed.

[byee]

You are not responsible for her actions.

Cutting isn't rational behavior, afterall, it doesn't really make 'sense' the way you and I think about it. It makes sense to the cutter, of course, but that is part of the problem.

So, without much ado, I'd dismiss the 'rationality' of her behavior, the excuse/justification she's offering, and focus instead on the behavior itself, which is self destructive. And, the responsible thing to do when you find someone to be self destructive is to tell someone in a position to intervene and (hopefully) stop it, like your parents or hers.

She doesn't need your attention or pity. She needs some help and protection here. Get that for her.

[Truth]

No, because she could have cried, cutting is ones choice. Her fault, but i do suggest getting her help even if you dislike her, and DONT hate anyone. The word hate is useless.

[dizzydinosaur]

It's not your fault :)

Personally I'd slap her or kick her ass

Just ignore her, don't make friends, but be civil whenever she's around
That way she sees you are mature and she will be seen as the immature one

I've been blamed before by one of my best friends
We're friends now, but no where near as close

Get her help from professionals
But please don't tell her parents
Keep them out for as long as possible
I know from experience that parents knowing makes it worse and less comfortable at home