Me and my friend, are we gay? mixed signals?

[JackSecret1]

Me and my friend (we're both guys) are always messing about. Like saying sexual stuff to each other and bending each other over and pretending to fuck each other and sometimes when we're sitting down he shoves my head in to his crotch and tells me to suck it. Our friends are always commenting on how gay we act towards each other. Lately i've realised i have feelings for him (like a crush) and i keep thinking he's giving me signals but im not sure if this is just wishfull thinking. Yesturday we were in the park with all our friends and we got really intimate. He rugby tackled me to the floor and we wrestled playfully for a little bit. But he stayed on top of me for longer than usual. He licked my neck and started humping me. We were laughing the whole time but still holding each other really close. We ended up rolling about on the floor for like 5-10 minutes. I'm really confused because he has a girlfriend but is always really intimate with me. I'm closet bi and often fantasize about us in a relationship. I can't tell if he has feelings for me or if im just thinking too deeply.

I need HELP or ADVICE!!

[nick]

I'm no counsellor, but my instinct tells me that you should be honest with him. Talk to him openly about this and ask him if he wants to take it further. Or maybe not that, ask him if he'd like to come round to your house, anything, just talk to him!

[JackSecret1]

Thanks for your advice,
but I don't feel I can talk to him 'openly' about this.
Anything else that could help?
much appreciated :)

[Zazu]

I'm no counsellor, but my instinct tells me that you should be honest with him. Talk to him openly about this and ask him if he wants to take it further. Or maybe not that, ask him if he'd like to come round to your house, anything, just talk to him!

I agree with Nick, talk to him about it, just be open and honest and see what happens, that's the best way that you can find out imo :)

[byee]

Let me put a different spin on this, tell me how it sounds.

You already have a relationship with him. and, I think it's pretty clear you both like eachother and feel very comfortable with eachother. So, I'm not sure what your issue here is?

A lot of time, people have these feelings about their friends and they somehow judge them (and themselves) as indicative of *something* else, like being bi or gay. Now, it might be that, but then again, it might be that you guys just have a really close, really tight relationship. Guys can like (and dare I say, love) eachother without it meaning much of anything other than humanity and your ability to thankfully have and appreciate these nice feelings. Love isn't reserved for only male-female relationships, not does it mean that when friends of the same gender love eachother they're 'gay'.

You can talk with him about it, although you might want to first ask yourself seriously what the goal is, what you hope to accomplish. Or, you could just enjoy the relationship for what it is, very close and loving.

[Schon]

I agree with Nick, talk to him about it, just be open and honest and see what happens, that's the best way that you can find out imo :)

I'm no counsellor, but my instinct tells me that you should be honest with him. Talk to him openly about this and ask him if he wants to take it further. Or maybe not that, ask him if he'd like to come round to your house, anything, just talk to him!

i agree. just talk to him man, and i know how you feel to.

[JackSecret1]

Thanks guys!
Really helpfull :D

[tomm]

Errm... Can i give yah another advice? xD Don't want to make yah feel confused, but i think yah would apreciate. :3
Yah don't really need to tell him you're atracted for him, but you can tell him you're bi! This really worked for me... When i told some friends i was, some of them <including the one i had a crush xD> said they were to, and that they really wanted to talk to someone about it.
In the case of the one i had a crush, he said he always had the same doubt, and things worked pretty fine until now! ;D
My tip: Tell him you're bi, and let it go... If he DOES have a crush or want something with you, he'll let you know!

Hope i have helped... And Good Luck! =D

[Mattyboi]

well i personally think that he's made the first move and that he's waitin for u to do sumthing. so im not sure what u should do but i think he wants u to do sumthin back.

[MisterMonster]

Yeah, you should tell him your bi and just leave it at that
or maybe you could invite him to your house after school to talk in private and inconspicuously change the subject to gays and stuff. Guage his reaction and THEN tell him your bi. If he smiles and starts snogging you then you know that he's probably gay.

unless you've already managed to wrangle him

[guacamole24]

Yeah, just tell him you're bi to start with.

[Truth]

Sounds like the whole french class in my school, their all that way, but i dont think any of them are gay. But, if your attracted to him, tell him your bi, or ask him his orientation.

[Ender]

Me and my friend (we're both guys) are always messing about. Like saying sexual stuff to each other and bending each other over and pretending to fuck each other and sometimes when we're sitting down he shoves my head in to his crotch and tells me to suck it. Our friends are always commenting on how gay we act towards each other. Lately i've realised i have feelings for him (like a crush) and i keep thinking he's giving me signals but im not sure if this is just wishfull thinking. Yesturday we were in the park with all our friends and we got really intimate. He rugby tackled me to the floor and we wrestled playfully for a little bit. But he stayed on top of me for longer than usual. He licked my neck and started humping me. We were laughing the whole time but still holding each other really close. We ended up rolling about on the floor for like 5-10 minutes. I'm really confused because he has a girlfriend but is always really intimate with me. I'm closet bi and often fantasize about us in a relationship. I can't tell if he has feelings for me or if im just thinking too deeply.

I need HELP or ADVICE!!

It sounds to me like you two are excellent friends. I would just be straight up with him that your bi, I'm surehe wouldn't mind(if he's your true friend), and he might even come back and say "i love you baby". Just be honest, and it should turn out great.

[mynameissam]

i've got a different take on this.. if you're not too keen on the whole coming out thing..
just next time when it's only you and him, and you're being like this, take it a little further, keep laughing like you do but maybe cup his penis, or feel his arse, see how he reacts, if he gets a hard on or if he retaliates by taking it further.. or 'jokingly' say sometihng like don't stop, when he's moving up your leg.. you get the jist.. pretty risk free as if he doesn't react well then obviously it was just a joke..

[kitkat]

im just a girl but my friend caitlin made the first move so i would recomend if he loves u ask him or have him make the first move.

[MichaelAdams1993]

im just a girl but my friend caitlin made the first move so i would recomend if he loves u ask him or have him make the first move.

Umm. It sounds like he has already made his move. But you can't be sure.

Tell him your bi first and see if he goes any farthur. It also sounds like you definatly have a relationship with him (as friends) and that may be all it is but if you feel more you need to talk to him about it. It may be akward but keeping things the same way may be even more confusing and akward.

[JackSecret1]

i've got a different take on this.. if you're not too keen on the whole coming out thing..
just next time when it's only you and him, and you're being like this, take it a little further, keep laughing like you do but maybe cup his penis, or feel his arse, see how he reacts, if he gets a hard on or if he retaliates by taking it further.. or 'jokingly' say sometihng like don't stop, when he's moving up your leg.. you get the jist.. pretty risk free as if he doesn't react well then obviously it was just a joke..

Tried the whole "don't stop" thing and he kept going! he actually rubbed my crotch a little! he also played wiv my ass, squeezing it n stuff. he then climbed off me and we continued laughing for a bit. do you think he 'likes' me then???

[YourFriend]

The chances are that he is in love with you, and if you share those feelings, tell him you do. :)

[The Harlequin]

Tried the whole "don't stop" thing and he kept going! he actually rubbed my crotch a little! he also played wiv my ass, squeezing it n stuff. he then climbed off me and we continued laughing for a bit. do you think he 'likes' me then???

So VERY jealous of you! Lol (X^,
Omg... What I wouldn't GIVE to be in your shoes with at least one of the guys I have a thing for...

[bobbyredsnow]

Thanks for your advice,
but I don't feel I can talk to him 'openly' about this.
Anything else that could help?
much appreciated :)

try kissing him, see what happens

[pkid]

There's a good chance that he does have feelings for you too, or he's just really curious. To find out you should ask him/tell him the truth

[The Joker]

Try taking it further and kinda go like you're going to kiss him. If he goes in for the kiss, then there could be no bigger sign that he loves you, other than him telling you.

[beedubs]

you should ask him if when he does that, is he just playing around or is he serious. and tell him to be honest about it

[mrp1221]

come out of the closet and see what happens