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ShinigamiMaiden
May 23rd, 2009, 04:01 PM
OHMYGOD!!!
my best friend and the guy i love just found out that i self harm :(

WHAT SHOULD I SAY NOW!!!???

what if he tells somebody O_O what if he hates me now!?

ohhh this is badddd :(
Sunshine Girl
May 23rd, 2009, 07:03 PM
ahh im sorryy.
what about talking to them about it?
try to let them understand?
i dont know, no one has found out about me.
Project Delta
May 23rd, 2009, 07:05 PM
Jeez sorry to hear about it.
Try and explain it to them so that he realizes why you do it etc.? maybe, if he loves you back he should understand (most likely not instantly but eventually) therefore he will understand and then try to be there for you more?
Just a thought
byee
May 23rd, 2009, 09:51 PM
Lucy! What a glorious opportunity for you to make a commitment to yourself (and them!) that you will no longer cut yourself!

People are often able to do things for others that they cannot do for themselves, often it's easier to commit to others than onesself. Consider this one of those times and make lemonade out of lemons here.
ShinigamiMaiden
May 24th, 2009, 11:09 AM
he said that, if it was anybody else he would have not talked to them the same way. he said to just pretend our conversation never happened, and i promaced that for him i would never cut again.
ShinigamiMaiden
May 24th, 2009, 11:11 AM
but sometimes i cut BECAUSE of him ... i dont know what to do :/ ill try not to but at least i have a reason not to cut now.
kt2369
May 30th, 2009, 01:16 AM
if they really care about you they shouldnt tell anyone. this happened to me but my friends didnt say anyhting, they knew i was embarrassed by it and that i just didnt want people to know, its my business.
this could be a sign that you should stop. do it for them, the people that care about you, and just to show yourself some respect(:
SingASadSong4408
May 30th, 2009, 05:28 PM
1.) If he doesnt accept you for who you are, then he's not worth it.
2.) This is a great opportunity for you to stop cutting. A lot of the time its easier to make and keep promises of self-renewal to others then to yourself.
3.) If he said that if it was anyone else he would have stopped talking to them, does that mean he's a judgemental person? Because even if he likes you enough to pretend it never happened, he can still judge, and you might end up hurt, which none of us here want to happen.

just be careful, and if he says something that hurts you, slap him. :)