Help me......

[mr_smite1]

First of all i think its gr8 that there is a site where i can ask 4 help. I am rele annoyed, i have not had a gf for about 1 1/2 years now and im getting fukin fed up :( why do i always have 2 listen 2 my m8s and their succeses, even sum piccys ov them 2geva! How the fuk can i get a gf, i would like 2 make love but i really want a gf to wine and dine, and for there 2 b someone that i can love and cherish? PLEASE HELP ME! :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!: :!:

[redcar]

i know this is going to sound so much like a cliche but, the right girl will come along, you just need to remain patient. she will come along trust me! all you need to do is keep being yourself, and she will fall for you!:D

but in the meantime enjoy single life, cause its not the worst in the world being single.

[mr_smite1]

so if i am myself the rite girl will come along? Well, there is this one girl i like atm and i am quite close, but she has a bf and im not sure of how her reaction shall be. How can i check her answer without being blatent?

[redcar]

yea i think that if you just need to keep being yourself. there is no point pretending to be something your not to get a girl cause that never works out.

well u could tell this girl how you feel, however that could do something to your friendship. i am not sure how you could go about telling her without being blatent u could ask her would she ever go out with one of her friends? see what she would say. thats one way u could see if she would.

[kolte]

meh, that still makes it sound obvious. *cracks open book on dating written by yours truly n.n* well lets see now, you have got be be less desperate. you need to relax, women don't like really desperate, nervous guys. they want sombody whos smooth and confident. so when your around this girl, flirt a bit, compliment her, weather you be complimenting her shirt, or hair, or shoes, shoes are good, girls are obsessive about shoes (cant quite figure that one out) and just be polite, but not over polite. let her win in about 80% of all discussions you have, buy her a drink at lunch, but don't make it seem to obvious that you did, just be like, "hey, I had a bit extra so anyone want a drink, and then give it to her instead of your other friends. ask her out not blatently. somthing like "hey, me and so and so are gonna run to the movies on saturday. and then if she gets there, just be like "so and so couldnt make it so its just us" tahts a good one. anyway, don't change who you are, but try to be mature about this. hope I helped

[mr_smite1]

ye that did thanks, but im not rele sure about summat. I feel quite "aroused" by this girl. But she is in a realtionship with someone who lives 120 miles away from her, whilst i live 2 streets away! How can i "persuade" (lol) her 2 sort of get rid and get wid me!

[r0x0row3nd]

every1 has there own speed its not ur fault u dont have one u just havent swam by the right fish in the sea it takes time for some and others it doesnt its just nature workin its course ull get ur turn and its not that bad 1 and a half years some people havent ever had a gf (not me ) and dont complain so it takes time dont rush it or ull get slapped in the face ive tried it take my advice

[dude101]

u need to have a positive attitude about it as well . otherwise your just gonna defeat your self thinking negative thoughts. She will come along and when she does u will be happy

[forestfire20]

good edvice every1 but mr smite remeber if u trash her boyfriend rite now she will never like u ok?

[Webbeardthepirate]

What is wrong with being too obvious or blatent. She may have a boyfirnd 120 miles away because she doesn't really want to have a boy friend at all and this is how she drives others away. Subterfuge is a way to avoid your friends mocking your efforts. They will mock them anyways, its what they are there for, keeps you from thinking your better then you are. Well, your only as good as you are. All you can do is be an alternative to a dude 120 miles away. If she don't like you, you won't change her mind.

And don't ever write "'aroused'" with the quote marks again. You might as well have written "my penis becomes engorged with blood" Settle for you think she is fine, you find her atractive etc. I mean seriously, ick.

[WelshLad]

I'm feel exactly the same but you can't just sit around waiting for something to happen. You gotta make something happen. Get out there! I've always been afraid of asking people out because of rejection - but then i realised, if you don't ask you'll never know. If they do say no, oh well shit happens, try someone else.