Making a move

[Sugaree]

In November, I'll be taking a few day trip to Kansas City with my church's youth group. Now, there's this girl that I really like, in fact, I've had a crush on her for 3 years now. There have been plenty of opportunities for me to get to know her better and ask her out, but I've been such a fool that I always screwed my chances for it. I know her already and her parents, and both of our families are great friends. The reason I wanted to bring this up, is that I'll be almost 15 and a half while she's 16 and a half, and I'd really want to hook up with her, and I wanted to try and bond with her a bit during the trip seeing as our parents probably won't be around us.

Any help here?

[Midsummer Nights]

If you really like her and you already know her really well, it's time to make that move. In personal experience, I find that it's best to keep good friends as good friends and leave it at that. But it sounds like you are really gunnin' to go for it. The important thing is to be confidant, and be yourself. No girl in the history of this planet will ever go for a guy who is trying to be someone else. You'll just end up tangled in the lies of not being yourself. be honest about your feelings for her, and she'll be impressed that you had the guts to ask her. If she doesn't like you, she'll let you know early, and you should try to stay as good friends. Good Luck!!! woot

[Gumleaf]

well there is no better opportunity then a church youth group trip to bond with people. my first girlfriend and i hooked up after a youth group canp. anyways matt, you just need to be yourself and talk to her. the best way to put yourself into the position of starting a relationship is to start getting to know her better. to do that, you just need to treat her as you would any other new friend. keep it casual and be her friend. by doing that you might be able to pick up on some vibes as to how she feels and if they are good, then ask her out. you might find that she isn't interested, but hey, at least you would still have her as a friend, which would be better then not at all. anyways, good luck with it.