How do you stop verbal Abuse?

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Guys I need help here...how do you escape verbal abuse...my mom verbally abuses me...and I don't know how to make it stop...I can't take her verbal abuse anymore...I can't...how can I heal from everything else when I have all this abuse on top of it...

[Truth]

Guys I need help here...how do you escape verbal abuse...my mom verbally abuses me...and I don't know how to make it stop...I can't take her verbal abuse anymore...I can't...how can I heal from everything else when I have all this abuse on top of it... Ignore it. What people who insult you say doesnt matter, because the people that care about you wouldnt say it. Just ignore.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

So my mom doesn't care about me...my siblings do not care..then why am I still living here? I can't stand it anymore but I can't really escape it either

[Paladino]

i suggest maybe going into care to escape all this

[TigerLily]

Heidi.. speaking from someone who suffered verbal, psychological and emotional abuse (with some neglect added in for good measure) at the hands of my mother, I know exactly what you're going through.
All I can say that worked for me, was standing up for myself. And letting other people in my family know (ie my dad - he never knew the extent of the abuse until a very, very long time after it had been going on, but once he knew he made it so that she wasn't living with us anymore and life has been so much better since).
I honestly don't know if your abuse is as serious as mine was, but if it is, please, just tell somebody. Get help. Do something about it.
You don't want to know what happens when you let it continue, let it haunt you, let yourself be reminded of it day after day, night after night...
I don't want you to go through what I did, Heidi.
Please, do something about this now, because you don't want to let it continue, trust me.

[byee]

*Sam notices that Rachel gives consistently good advice*

Heidi, you cannot necessarily control what others do (unfortunately), but you can stand up and protect yourself. Simply put, this means telling *whoever* is abusing you to stop.

Although this sounds a bit naive, a lot of otherwise well intentioned people are truly unaware and quite clueless about their own behavior and the effects it has on others. sometimes, by pointing out your experience of their behavior they can get better control over themselves. It's worth a try, and it's a first step.

[NeoKitai]

You have a few choices, but it's more limited.

Ignore it
Tell a profesional
Listen to NerjaSunsets.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Well I have already tried confronting my mom about this..I told her that it hurts me and she hasn't stopped. It's bad but I don't really know if I need to tell anyone about it..I guess if worst comes to worse I can tell my counselor...


I am so sick of this! I can't take this anymore...She makes me feel so awful...

[livin4him]

I probably didn't have verbal abuse as bad as some of you guys. But my mom definitley did verbally abuse me. I thought I might share some of my story and it might help you guys to figure out what to do.

I'm actually an Missionary Kid in PNG (now don't blow me off because I'm "one of those strange kids") and I think one of the things that bugged me the most was that to other people, my mom acted like all was fine and dandy in our house. She basically ruled the house though. My dad didn't have any say in what we did, and if he did state his opinion he got yelled at by my mom. All of us kids had to go around trying to say the exact right things so she wouldn't get angry. When she got mad she'd go on and on in a rant about us... "You treat me like ____... you are a lazy person who doesn't do their work! You have a ___ attitude!" Like someone said before, I learned to tune it all out, not belive it. What hurt the most though was when she called me something new... It was like it went through my protetive sheild... and it was a few days before I could become immune to that new name too...

I basically had a miseralbe life. But one day (don't blow me off because I say something about God) I knew that God wanted me to forgive my mom. For the past few years I had been angry with her for what she'd made all of us go through. But somehow I knew that I needed to forgive her for all that. Belive me, it wasn't easy, I wanted so bad to be mad at her, I thought she deserved that. And I didn't see how it would help any to forgive her. But somehow I did it. And it was amazing how different I felt. I felt a real sense of peace. And this might not happen for all of you, but things started to get better around the house. At first it was really hard, 'cause my anger was like my protective sheild to my mom's words. and when she yelled at me, it hurt so much worse. Yet it slowly began to get better.

I still have to keep forgiving my mom each day. But let me tell you, it helps a lot.

I totally think that some people need real help, someone to step in and make a change in things.

But I also think, that no matter what happens, even if your parent moves out. Don't give up on them, they are a person too.

[georgiamay]

Please don't bump old threads, this is nearly a year old. :locked: