was it right?

[EverlostPoet]

ok, i have been depressed lately cause my love of my life died Saturday along with my two best friends. I was invited to a party yesterday,i went not expecting to do anything. I ended up with my friend, Vanessa, she is another close friend. She kept trying to try to cheer me up. later that night we got closer, and had sex. Now i look back on it and feel Guilty of cheating, which i have never done. Even tho she is dead, i still feel Guilty of doing it. Was it right to have sex with her?

[tunacake]

it is perfectly fine. you must be very confused and upset right now, and feelings of confusion can lead you to do things you wouldn't otherwise do. And sex (or any gesture of love) means nothing if you do not actually love the person.

[EverlostPoet]

yeah, i don't really want a relationship right now but i might like her. but yeah i very confused and everything is a blur right now.

[tunacake]

you should have the right to be able to take as much time as you need to feel ok again and think about what exactly you want. Vanessa and anyone else should understand this

[byee]

Jake, I'm really sorry for your loss here. You must feel awful.


I give you a pass on this one. Very often, when people are in shock they reach out to others and do things in order to soothe themselves and feel better. Personally, I think it's sorta self protective, it's instinctual. You're questioning what you did b/c it's not typical for you, but it's important to remember that the kind of sudden, shocking grief you're experiencing isn't 'normal', either. People do extreme things under extreme circumstances, you're vulnerable here b/c of how shocked you are.

Give yourself some time here, take some time to grieve and deal with the loss. Surround yourself with poeple who can support you and understand the depth of your emotional loss. With time, you'l, regain your perspective and begin acting (and feeling) the way you're accustomed to.

[EverlostPoet]

Jake, I'm really sorry for your loss here. You must feel awful.


I give you a pass on this one. Very often, when people are in shock they reach out to others and do things in order to soothe themselves and feel better. Personally, I think it's sorta self protective, it's instinctual. You're questioning what you did b/c it's not typical for you, but it's important to remember that the kind of sudden, shocking grief you're experiencing isn't 'normal', either. People do extreme things under extreme circumstances, you're vulnerable here b/c of how shocked you are.

Give yourself some time here, take some time to grieve and deal with the loss. Surround yourself with poeple who can support you and understand the depth of your emotional loss. With time, you'l, regain your perspective and begin acting (and feeling) the way you're accustomed to.
thanx, Vanessa gave me some space, i still feel like a cheated tho.

[NeoKitai]

Did you say that she is dead? That's what I read. Yes, it says that she is dead, and then you say she's alive... huh?

[EverlostPoet]

Your Confused, the love of my life, Adrianna is dead, then another girl, Vanessa xD

[ILOVEYOU]

Oh Dude i'm so sorry about your Love, i Love a girl now, and when i imagine to Lose her, omg dude i cant.., btw, it has happened to you, so you have to deal with it somehow, try to have fun with others as IAMSAM said. try to see new people, you know, maybe you see another girl, who's just like Adrianna, or something, btw if you think Vanessa can bring you out of it, so you can always tell a girl how you feel, then she'll help you somehow. and about the cheating stuff, its not cheating, because she's not here, and she's ok with it now, i mean adrianna. So, just try not to think about this anymore, it has happened, and you gotta find your way again. in this Fu**ing world, the only interesting part is being Loved, or Loving someone, so, Go for it, you can Love another one, and dont worry again, its not cheating, i hope it helped btw. :)

[MysticalBurrito]

Jake, I'm really sorry for your loss here. You must feel awful.


I give you a pass on this one. Very often, when people are in shock they reach out to others and do things in order to soothe themselves and feel better. Personally, I think it's sorta self protective, it's instinctual. You're questioning what you did b/c it's not typical for you, but it's important to remember that the kind of sudden, shocking grief you're experiencing isn't 'normal', either. People do extreme things under extreme circumstances, you're vulnerable here b/c of how shocked you are.

Give yourself some time here, take some time to grieve and deal with the loss. Surround yourself with poeple who can support you and understand the depth of your emotional loss. With time, you'l, regain your perspective and begin acting (and feeling) the way you're accustomed to.

:( I'm so sorry about your loss I think Sam said it all

[EverlostPoet]

Thanks Everyone, i am a little better now, still in shock, but Vanessa is helping me get through it.