Just needed to let it out.

[clr9823]

Well, sorry in advance if this turns out into a rant.
Anyway, I am 15, male, Scottish and Bi-curious but this is subject to change. Well, I love this guy, one of my closest friends anyway. I would say (hope?) that we have more than just a friendship. It's the little things: the way we make eye contact, our conversations, our openness etc. Oh, and last time I checked, he was curious too.
Well, I took the plunge about a year ago and came out to him and told him I fancied him. He took it well, but politely rejected me cause he didn't want to risk our friendship. I was cool, but asked him to be honest and just say that he didn't fancy me. He just repeated his original statement (does that mean he does fancy me, or just being polite?).

Anyway, that was about a year ago and we've changed quite a bit since then. We're still tight friends, and I think he has forgotten about it. But I've found me spending every waking moment not occupied by school work fantasizing about him, so I want to bring it up again. I'm not confident about doing this cause I REALLY don't want to make him feel uncomfortable and ruin our friendship. I was thinking about inviting him over to mine for a sleepover, taking it easy and just seeing how the night goes (not pressuring him at all). How does this sound?

Eurgh, it's just so annoying! I mean, being bi/gay is cool with me, but this is really annoying. Plus, I can't really talk to any of my family about this cause I am not ready to come out to them yet cause I ain't sure yet! Plus, my other friends accepted me, but they don't really understand. I need a coping mechanism!
HELP!

[byee]

Somehow, I doubt he's 'forgotten' your disclosure of last year. Rather, he's probably taking it in stride, and realizes that your friendship means enough to him that he can tolerate this difference between you. Bringing it up again might risk this.

There are many levels of intimacy, you know. The sexual part is only one piece of it, you can be tight with someone and truly love them and cherish them without the sex. I'd enourage you to focus on that part of the closeness, and if his feelings change and he want more, he'll let you know. Until then, don't think your urges or needs or feelings are more important than his, b/c it could mean the end of what sounds like something very special, even if it's not 100% of what you want.

[bmanster]

to help u out:
i belive that what you plan sounds good. just dont push it at all.
after a while try to talk to him about you feel, but dont push it that night.
let it hang in the air with him for a little while to not ajitate or offend him E.T.C.
and have a fun time, if all things go well still take it slow....
if you do or just concider this i belive you will have success

[clr9823]

Somehow, I doubt he's 'forgotten' your disclosure of last year. Rather, he's probably taking it in stride, and realizes that your friendship means enough to him that he can tolerate this difference between you. Bringing it up again might risk this.

There are many levels of intimacy, you know. The sexual part is only one piece of it, you can be tight with someone and truly love them and cherish them without the sex. I'd enourage you to focus on that part of the closeness, and if his feelings change and he want more, he'll let you know. Until then, don't think your urges or needs or feelings are more important than his, b/c it could mean the end of what sounds like something very special, even if it's not 100% of what you want.

TBH, I'm not even sure if it is a sexual relationship I want, maybe just to be more intimate with him. I mean it's just so annoying fancying someone you can't have, made even more annoying cause were so close if you see what I mean.

[Leprachaun]

I think you should ask him and have a good chat about it about, but make sure he is comfortable talking about it. Just explain how you feel about him and make sure he understands what your going through.

[byee]

TBH, I'm not even sure if it is a sexual relationship I want, maybe just to be more intimate with him. I mean it's just so annoying fancying someone you can't have, made even more annoying cause were so close if you see what I mean.

It sounds like you already have an 'intimate' realtionship with him, if it's emotions and closeness you're talking about, right? If it's not the sexual piece, what's missing? Maybe it's that nagging sense that he doesn't 'know' how you feel? What makes you think that?

There's a lot of different ways people are 'intimate' with eachother, and although there's a certain straightforwardness in telling someone (and perhaps as importantly, them acknowledging the same), words are sometimes really overrated. As they say, actions speak louder.

If he's been with you for this long, if you feel your relationship has gotten stronger, that you guys are closer, than you are, and putting words to it runs the risk of making it awkward, of bringing up that sexual piece, which you say isn't really the issue.

think about just enjoying the realtionship and him without necessarily needing to put words on it. I know that sounds contradictory, we always talk about 'talking abiut your feelings', but in this case it just seems to me that the words will get in the way.

[Schon]

TBH, I'm not even sure if it is a sexual relationship I want, maybe just to be more intimate with him. I mean it's just so annoying fancying someone you can't have, made even more annoying cause were so close if you see what I mean.

i dont know what TBH means, but i totally agree, i am in the EXACT same position you are, i think about him all the time, and i just cant stop, but i cant get the courage to tell him my feelings toward him. imma closet bi. i havent come out to anyone, but i just need to get it off my chest, but cant.

[clr9823]

i dont know what TBH means, but i totally agree, i am in the EXACT same position you are, i think about him all the time, and i just cant stop, but i cant get the courage to tell him my feelings toward him. imma closet bi. i havent come out to anyone, but i just need to get it off my chest, but cant.

TBH - To be honest.

I've came out to him, and he was so gd about it. Well, maybe I've got a chance. Can't really tell u about it, just got to see how it turns out... Wish me luck!