Parents Isolate you from the society

[idk4]

Hi everybody

I'm sorry for bothering you so much, but I wanted to know if this happens to other persons of my age.

I am 14 and I'm in eight grade. My parents don't allow me to be outside my home without an adult. They don't allow me to go to a friend's home or even to walk to school if I'm alone. They never let me go outside and hang out with friends because they are always saying that it's too dangerous. The problem is that I'm isolated from the society because my life is just school and home. So I was wondering, does this happen to other people or are my parents weird?
and how can I make them change their opinion, because every time that I tell them that all of my friends do that, they tell me that they love me way too much and they just want to protect me.

[Bluearmy]

What you have is what some people call "Helecopter parents". They are way to overlly protective and they think you couldn't handle yourself by yourself. They like to have control of you. They are worried that you might end up hurt or mentaly influenced a way they don't want you too. They personally think your weak, and they don't want you to lessen out of there control.

But what they are doing is slolwy driving you to escape, and slowly making things worse. If they didn't make such a big deal about it, you wouldn't long for it so much.

Did you do something in your lifetime that would have made your parents dis-trust you or allmost got killed or lost or something? Things like the second one can scare some parents so much that they go into a "Total must protect my baby!" mode.

Ussually, there is one parent hosting this action. Try to find the one that is less for this, and talk to that one about how you wish to have freedom, maybe that parent might soften up. But be sure to do it alone and somewhat repeteldy. If the other one is there, (the aggressive one) then the ressesicve one that you are trying to lossen up might not listen due to fear. And if you do it too repetitivly, then the lesser one might just totally lock down and never listen to you again.

Personaly, I could never image a life of just restraints.