Rumors Hurt...The things People Don't Realize

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Today a rumor was spread around the school about me. A rumor that I cut. Yes, it's true, but it hurts...random people kept coming up to me and pulling up my sleeves...they would laugh behind my back...one person said..get her role up her sleeves...when they rolled up my sleeves thought they found nothing...because fortunately I cut on my legs...not my arms( which is the first place anyone would look) Even though I do cut...it hurt today...especailly since I had only told two of my friends and I told them not to say anything...but obviously they didn't listen or no one would have found out and started spreading rumors about me...Now I feel like I can not trust anyone...So thanks to all those spreading rumors about me I am just going to hide things even more when I am at school and keep all my feelings locked inside...grrr...I am not sure what to do though...should I still be friends with my friends...or not..I feel like they betrayed me...and it just seems like one more reason not to be friends with them..It's just hard to think about leaving them because I know we used to be such great friends.I don't know what to do anymore

[Miss Punk]

I'm sorry to hear this has happened, nobody should have to put up with that from people :(
It seems like maybe you should have a word with your friends, because if they were the ones who told, then that really cuts down the number of people you have who you can really talk to, which really doesn't help you at all. It's hard when you find out you can't trust someone, I'm kind of in a similar position at the moment so I don't really know what you can do, but definitely reassess whether you still want to be around these people, and maybe talk to them about it, let them know how they've made you feel. Best of luck x

[Bluearmy]

It was bound to happen.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

To be honest I really wasn't expecting there to be any rumors...I have never had a rumor spread about me before. NEVER...because I am seen as the "nice girl, the goody good" ya know...I get good grades in school... I give people respect...so if any rumors were spread around before it's that I am nice...it's never been anything really bad...of course everyone at school pretty much knows I am emotional...and sensitive...that's why it kind of surprises me that they would do this...I'm sure they weren't probably spreading these rumors about me intentionally but they just do it...out of habit ya know? This has really made me think hard about my friends and whether or not I even want to be friends with them anymore...I know I can't trust them now...so that does cut down the people I can talk to now when I am having a bad day..hmmm...I'm not quite sure how I am going to address this issue though to my friends..because I think if I just straight out asked them, that they would lie...hmmm...lots of things to think about..no wonder I don't get hardly any sleep...

[ErykaInspire.]

Hun, NEVER keep your emotions locked up. It causes problems physically, mentally, AND emotionally. It makes you physically shutdown, mentally paranoid, and you become moody and have mood swings. I don't want you to have to go through that. PM me if you ever need to talk about ANYTHING, I'm here for you.
As for rumors.. they're impossible to avoid so just show people that it doesn't bother you (even if it does). It'll all be over in a week or so. Keep your head up and fight back. Show people that it's a part of who you are and those arrogant asses can't change that.
The fact of life is; people're cruel. My [ex]boyfriend tried to rape me and I only told ONE friend. Three days later the whole school was saying how i'm easy, i let people do whatever they want, i LET my boyfriend rape me NUMEROUS times.
I ended up overdosing, passing out in the halls, going bulemic again, and giving up. I skipped class and cried in the bathroom for hours. One day I was passed out on the bathroom floor and a teacher found me.. they got the office to call my mom (who knew nothing about the Attempted Rape) and took me home..
I still have to face him everyday but letting it ruin my body like that wasn't worth it. I went into school a week later with my head up and a Fuck-You attitude. People stopped saying shit because I got right in their faces and told them flat out what happened..

(Sorry, I rambled)
BUT! The thing is, you gotta keep going. You can't give up on yourself just because what other people say. PM me. I can help if you need it <333
xxx

[Miss Punk]

Rumours aren't always intentional, and it only takes one person to let a secret slip and suddenly everyone knows. I think if your friends really understood though, they would have been more careful about opening their mouths. Don't worry about it though, now they've seen your arms are clean, everyone will probably dismiss it as made up, and by next week someone else will be the focus of attention. And I know what you mean... to ask someone straight out is always hard. I'm not sure what to suggest, but yeah I would say think about it, because you know them better than we do,, so it's your choice to make now whether you want to stay friends, or confront them, or do nothing. I really hope you are okay x

[Bluearmy]

Hun, NEVER keep your emotions locked up. It causes problems physically, mentally, AND emotionally. It makes you physically shutdown, mentally paranoid, and you become moody and have mood swings. I don't want you to have to go through that. PM me if you ever need to talk about ANYTHING, I'm here for you.
As for rumors.. they're impossible to avoid so just show people that it doesn't bother you (even if it does). It'll all be over in a week or so. Keep your head up and fight back. Show people that it's a part of who you are and those arrogant asses can't change that.
The fact of life is; people're cruel. My [ex]boyfriend tried to rape me and I only told ONE friend. Three days later the whole school was saying how i'm easy, i let people do whatever they want, i LET my boyfriend rape me NUMEROUS times.
I ended up overdosing, passing out in the halls, going bulemic again, and giving up. I skipped class and cried in the bathroom for hours. One day I was passed out on the bathroom floor and a teacher found me.. they got the office to call my mom (who knew nothing about the Attempted Rape) and took me home..
I still have to face him everyday but letting it ruin my body like that wasn't worth it. I went into school a week later with my head up and a Fuck-You attitude. People stopped saying shit because I got right in their faces and told them flat out what happened..

(Sorry, I rambled)
BUT! The thing is, you gotta keep going. You can't give up on yourself just because what other people say. PM me. I can help if you need it <333
xxx

I keep my emotions locked up.

[ErykaInspire.]

I keep my emotions locked up.

You shouldn't... PM me to vent, I NEVER judge anyone.
If anything, i've done everything you have; 3times as bad.
PM me if you ever need to talk<3

[ShatteredWings]

It was bound to happen.

be supportive or get out.


Heidi, rumours SUCK, we all know it *hugs*

The only really decent thing i can think of is that this proves who your *true* friends are.
Mabye you can tell a teacher about the harrasment. No one should be allowed to phsically pull your sleeves up

[Truth]

Ill be honest; who gives a shit? What random people doesnt matter, nor does 'friends', your true friends wouldnt do that. Im called emo, people look at my cuts and scars, they say 'Dont do that you emo.' Etc. I dont care, cause true friends care about me.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Well I would like to thank you guys all for your input. I really don't care what people say about me anymore. I don't really feel like I can really trust any of my friends any more with serious stuff...I have kind of just been ignoring what people say about me for the most part. I try to. I was just really shocked at first to this whole thing...I teacher came up to me yesterday however, he asked me if what he heard was true. So I told him it was..and we actually had this really good conversation about what is going on in my life...and what I can possibly do to deal with things. He was very nice about all of it though and didn't judge me when I explained things...so even though people are finding out it hasn't been a totally bad thing either...Right now I am actually pretty happy...I haven't really been hanging out with my friends but I am okay with that right now.

[Miss Punk]

I'm glad you're okay, and if you talked to that teacher then I suppose something good came out of this as well! I think you're probably right not to trust those friends with serious stuff again. All the best x

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Yes, I am doing okay...and there are good things coming out of this. Things will get better. Good things always come out of bad things....sometimes it doesn't seem like it but it always does. I am still not sure what I am going to do about this whold friends issue...but we'll see...it's almost summer...who knows what will happen then...

[Beautiful Obsession]

im glad your feeling better babe:)
and your friends arnt obv good friends or they wouldnt have betrayed you like that.
but all thats up to you to decide!

good luck bbe:) x

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Well to make situations worse....my best friend moved without even telling me...she didn't even say goodbye. I am so pissed right now...

[sam i am]

ik how u feel rumors and all that stuff i went through the same thing the day i came out to the whole 8th grade that i was bi some people(mainly boys) just looked at me in a weird way. Besides it ok every thing is ok babe just don't worry about the rumors just stay strong iight ik it's hard and im still trying too but when u get at the end of the rope tie a not and hold on and if u let go i'll be holding u on to on my rope( pause lmao)....and i don't trust people to anymore i got hurt to many times and i never learned but i do now and even my ex fucking hates me because i don't open up but i just can't it's not easy any more i got hurt so many times and im sick and tired just like that song from the white tie affairs lmao XD im weird ik but hey i still get love

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

It is hard...all the whispers behind your back..I mean how do you just ignore that? It hurts...to hear all that...