sooo, things are getting worse

[Gumleaf]

i saw my therapist today and at the end of our session she told me she wants to talk to my parents because she is concerned about me because our sessions right now don't seem to be helping me. she has suggested that i go on some anti-depressant drugs, and if they don't help me she would suggest i see a phycologist. the thing is, i don't want any of these things. i don't want drugs or a phycologist. i don't need them. so, yeah, it might help i suppose, but still. its not like i'm ashamed or anything, but its more that i don't want to go on drugs because i don't want to become dependant on drugs and i don't want to open up to a complete stranger. that wouldn't work. i struggle to open up to people i know. anyways, i don't want this to happen, its only going to make things worse. stupid me.

[xGreenling]

I totally hear you on both counts. I'm on antidepressants, and I loathe it - I have control issues, so the idea of needing medication is distasteful to me, not to mention that I get some of the more annoying side effects (basically, my attention span is FUBAR). But at the same time, the drugs do a lot of good things. What helps me is to remember that you only really use the drugs for a short time, to get over a rough patch or to make it easier to deal with what's causing you problems, and then once you've got your feet back under you and you really can fight back on your own, you can ease off them.

And psychologists... Yeah, I've been through a couple switches in my time. It's really hard to get to be open with a new person. But it does happen in time. It's totally okay to tell your psych that you're nervous and not sure you're ready to open up. It's perfectly reasonable to ask them questions and get to know them a little bit first.

Your therapist has your best interests at heart.

Good luck, and I hope you're successful. You deserve to be able to be happy!

[Unown]

When i see my Therapist, it almost makes me feel worse. Try studding some budist teachings of emotions, it explains everything, even our sex drive

[NightFighter]

Im neither on medication or speaking to a professional and im not going to pretend to understand what you're going through.

However, i will offer a view of the situation from an outside perspective.

I know that therapists are trained, professional and have seen many cases similar to your own. Therefore, yours should know whats right for you. You need to trust him/her.

Medication. It isn't for life. You won't be on it forever. I dont see the harm in trying it out if nothing else seems to be working. I know its serious business. Medication isn't distributed to just anybody which i why the reason your therapist is suggesting it is important. You might just need that extra assistance to get better. There's no shame in it, thats why its there. If you have the option for extra help that your therapist is suggesting i dont see the problem in accepting it. You do want to become healthier, afterall.

As for speaking to a psychologist, whats the problem? I know, i know, they're a stranger. But isn't the VT community full of strangers? And you can speak (as far as i know) openly to us. We, like a psychologist, are stranger, can offer non-judgemental and confidential advice purely because we dont know who you are. That's not a handicap.

It'll take a while to trust a new person with your innermost secrets but when you do who knows how much benefit you'll gain?

Maybe that leap of faith is just the one you need to take in order to become healthy.

You're in control here. You need to make the decision.

Do you care enough about yourself to make help work?

[ImCoolBeans]

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