Best Friend's Boyfriend sexually abusing/raping me

[brownsugga.xx]

My best friend and I have been best friends since kindergarten, and now we're in grade 10, she has a current boyfriend, who's totally sweet to her, and me, but only when she's there, when she's not there, he slaps my butt, and he's also grabbed one of my breasts before.
This weekend, we all (me, my BFF, my BFF's BF, and my best guy friend and NO parents) went to my best friend's cottage, and when my BFF was in the bathroom, and my best guy friend was making us brunch, me and my BFF's BF were watching TV, and i was wearing my bikini because were going swimming after brunch, and he kept staring at me, and then all of a sudden he just quickly walked up and pulled the string on my bikini so the top fell off and he squeezed my bare breast REALLY hard and and wouldn't let go. I yelled at him to stop, my BFF couldn't hear me screaming because the bathroom was outside, but my best guy friend, Nathan, heard me and he came and punched my BFF's BF while i tied my bikini back, my BFF walked in and yelled at my best guy friend for punching her BF, and she doesn't know that her BF did this to me, even though me and my best guy friend are dating now, she still doesn't talk to him,but she talks to me and i don't know how to tell her that her boyfriend sexually abused/raped me, especially because she's still with him.


help pleasee ? :)
thanks.P.S sorry if this is in the wrong thread, there were alot of categories of problems in this but abuse was the main.

[Jman35]

Well, I know it will be hard to tell her, but you obviously need to, and to convince her that you are not lying, sometimes girls like to believe their BF over their friends, in fear of losing them.

You need to not joke about it, explain what happened that day, then tell her everything that happened in the past, and if you can, give proof.

[byee]

This is just terrible, not only b/c he took advantage of you and overpowered you and violated you, but also b/c it could do it to someone else, like your BFF.

Just tell her what happened, the events themselves are graphic enough and complete enogh for her to draw her own conclusions. Just tell her the facts.

[BuryYourFlame]

you reeeeaaallllyyy need to tell your friend about this, no matter how hard it may be. she doesn't deserve to have to be with someone like him...you will be doing her a favour, i promise. you need to also get the police involved. he needs to be put away.

[Sapphire]

First of all, he didn't rape you.

Secondly, just tell her. There's no way you can word it so that it's less painful for her or anything. Just tell it how it is.

[Truth]

Tell your friend! And try to tell the police, im sure you dont want him to do something to another girl. It would help her and you.

First of all, he didn't rape you.

Secondly, just tell her. There's no way you can word it so that it's less painful for her or anything. Just tell it how it is. It was sexual assault, which is rape. Read the definition of rape, please.

[Sapphire]

It was sexual assault, which is rape. Read the definition of rape, please.Oh God...Does ignorance know no bounds?!
I don't need to read it. I know what it is. I know what it is like.
Why don't you read it's definition? Might cure you of your ignorance. Though I don't hold out much hope.

Rape is forcing someone to have sex with you.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/surgery/body_mind/everyone/rape/

[Truth]

Oh God...Does ignorance know no bounds?!
I don't need to read it. I know what it is. I know what it is like.
Why don't you read it's definition? Might cure you of your ignorance. Though I don't hold out much hope.

Rape is forcing someone to have sex with you.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/surgery/body_mind/everyone/rape/ The US Code, at Title 18, Part 1, Chapter 109A (2007), ¶2242 defines sexual abuse as:

"Whoever ... knowingly causes another person to engage in a sexual act by threatening or placing that other person in fear (other than by threatening or placing that other person in fear that any person will be subjected to death, serious bodily injury, or kidnapping); or engages in a sexual act with another person if that other person is incapable of appraising the nature of the conduct; or physically incapable of declining participation in, or communicating unwillingness to engage in, that sexual act."

Yes, it might not be rape exactly but it's sexual abuse, which still is rape in my opinion.

[BuryYourFlame]

ok people. this has to stop. now.

we are not here to argue about what constitutes rape. we have enough information that we do not need to further argue the subject. please get back on topic, and back to helping the OP.

[brownsugga.xx]

thanks everyone, i will definetley tell her , this was a great help : )

[Sapphire]

Yes, it might not be rape exactly but it's sexual abuse, which still is rape in my opinion.
Rape is a form of sexual abuse but it is not the only one.
It is wrong to say that any case of sexual abuse = rape.

[NeoKitai]

One. He did not rape you.

Two. Tell your friend.

Three. It's Sexual Abuse, so this does go in the right topic.

[Eagle1]

Id tell her then call the police this is not right and he needs to be punished for what hes done god knows how many people hes done this to but it needs to stop. Hope that helped

[Filipe]

Pepper Spray.

[Sheiuni]

Tell your friend! And try to tell the police, im sure you dont want him to do something to another girl. It would help her and you.

It was sexual assault, which is rape. Read the definition of rape, please.

im trying not to be rude here, but actually YOU need to read the definition of rape. sexual harrassmant is fondling of the body or touching innapropiately or forcing oral sex or mutual touching, while rape is only considered as forcing of SEXUAL INTERCOURSE against one's will

[Music.]

you need to tell her before he really does harm to you or the people around you.

[Antares]

Please don't post in old threads.

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