Can't "finish the business" during intercourse

[Necroxfiendx07]

I'm 16, and since I was 13 I have been masturbating by myself. Recently I got a girlfriend, and we've been having sex. I was a virgin before then, and i've only had sex with her (or in general) 3 times now. I still cannot ejaculate inside her (using a condom of course) I have no problems finishing myself, but I feel its disappointing her because she feels it's her fault. I'm very attracted to her, and she turns me on very easily. So what's the problem? Is it my nerves? Or am I so used to using my hand? Please help!

[byee]

There's no truth that porn interferes with sexual performance. Rather, I suspect that it's anxiety that's interferring here.

It takes a while to feel comfortable and relaxed enough to ejaculate while inside another person, it's a very intimate, very personal thing! And, with many/most personal things, they're very emotional, it takes a while to feel comfortable with them. And, just b/c you're having sex doesn't necessarily mean that the emotional components required for sexual completion are present. So, although your body might respond Ok for a while, your brain isn't quite ready to let go.

Maybe you got a bit ahead of yourselves here by entering into a sexual relationship, and you need to take a step back from it for a while. Work on feeling close emotionally for a bit longer, let the relationship grow and develop for a while more

[nick]

Its almost certainly nerves, and of course the more you worry about it the worse that makes the nerves. The condom reduces sensitivity too. I'm not for one minute suggesting going without it, but it could be a factor. Go for the featherlight type.

I'm going to get shouted down for this I expect, but have you tried having a glass of wine or something to help you relax. Not too much, that wouldnt help and might make you careless. Also, have you tried different positions. pm me if you like.

[timster]

I agree very much with IAMSAM. You are probably scared inside that the condom wont work and you will get her impregnated.

[digzchickz]

Yeah, nervousness usually shows up in a couple of ways, either cumming too early, or not at all. Trying to relax will help, and maybe you could try to get you gf to take a more assertive role, such as having her on top, or maybe even try stepping back a little and having her give you a bj or a handjob or something... that way you aren't putting as much pressure on yourself, because she will be more in control.

[Hoshwaa]

How long have you gone each session? Maybe you're lucky and last for longer and just don't know it :P

Otherwise yeah its pretty much what everyone else has said

[NeoKitai]

If you are nervous, try to be a bit more brave. Don't think bad thoughts, just have sex and you should cum. Nervousness stops it.

[Necroxfiendx07]

Thanks a lot guys. I'm slowly becoming less and less nervous :)

[The Joker]

Good, congratulations!