I Need Help

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Got any advice on seeing a counselor for the first time??? What not to do... maybe some questions I should ask??

[BuryYourFlame]

you dont need to worry about a thing, as my understanding goes...for the first time at least...the counselor is the one asking the questions...;)

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

That's good because I do not need one more thing to worry about right now.

[abc1723]

i agree, try not to worry about it, the first session will most likely be getting to know each other a bit and build some trust
good luck!

[Triceratops]

There really is nothing to worry about.
The counselor will ask you questions about yourself and all you need to do is give them details and an insight to your life and the worries and fears on your mind as such.

Honestly, it will be fine.
Good luck with the sessions.

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

Well I went to counseling and everything went great and I am much happier now that I am getting help. She is helping cope with some of the stress and she is working me through the grief process....yes, the first session is mainly introductions and just telling her my worries and fears. There were things that I didn't even realize I was afraid of until I went to counseling. It's definately a good thing that I am going. The counselor wants me to come once a week for about 10 weeks...She also assigns homework almost all sessions..or at least gives me something to work on throughout the week. This week she has assigned me to write or draw for 30 minutes everyday. So it's fun homework...something I can look forward to everyday. So I am excited to get back to being me. I had a speech I also had to give last night at church and it was on grief..and at first I wasn't to sure about speaking because grief is just such a touchy topic for me. But the speech went really well...everyone said I was a very good speaker....and when I went back to my seat after speaking I noticed my mom was crying and she said she was proud of me. She doesn't really say that to me usually...I was a little nervous speaking but everyone said that I didn't look nervous at all...everyone said that I looked like I had been speaking in front of groups all my life. That surprised me...so it made me realize even more what God's will is for my life...and I really think He is leading me to go into youth ministry and be a youth pastor. I am good working with children of all ages...and I really like to help people come closer to God and grow spiritually.

[abc1723]

im glad it went well for you =]
i hope you manage to get a lot out of the sessions with her.
and well done for doing that talk at your church =]

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

I have a feeling that things are going to be quite different this week when I go to counseling...now that I have gotten to know the counselor ........the harder questions are going to come. Last time it was a lot of surface questions...we didn't go too deep...but I have a feeling that it is going to go much deeper...I am scared to go too deep because...I don't know what she will find....I don't know what I'll find in myself the deeper I go.

[Antares]

My advice would be to just be honest. Have an open mind. Speak your mind. Don't be shy or nervous. Let the counselor learn as much as they can about you. That way they can effectively take a plan of action to get you better. There really isn't anything you shouldn't do...maybe don't fart? But as far as words go, just be you. The whole time.

Good luck :D

[STAYING_STRONG4HIM]

An open mind is always good