may seem a bit farfetched...

[gookmique]

well, i'm a 19 year old American male living in China. i've lived in China for about 3 1/2 months now. while staying here i've encountered many girls that have seemed interested in me, relationship wise. i've either blown them off, or lost interest with them mid-way through pursuing them. however, about a week and a half ago, i met the one.

she's 22 years old. we both feel pretty hard for one another. with in one week we were making out; and, as of last night i am official not a virgin anymore. for some reason this relationship doesn't seem fast paced to me. i feel like the speed of which our relationship has developed was meant to be this way. my past relationships i had in America were completely different. i was always nervous with American girls, but for some reason i felt natural with my new girl friend.

what do you guys think? does this seem like a decent relationship?

[Maverick]

Its really hard to say... time will tell. New relationships can seem really perfect at first because you're in the beginning of it because you're overcome with lust. Its often called the honeymoon phase.

Once you get to know her more and been with her long enough to finally notice the imperfections and reality sets in you'll know if there's any substance in the relationship.

[Θάνατος]

Hey it sounds awesome.

I always tell myself to follow what your heart tells you to do.

When you find the right person it should go as fast as a pace as you feel comfortable with.

Well good luck and keep us posted on how it is going.

[Strength]

well, i'm a 19 year old American male living in China. i've lived in China for about 3 1/2 months now. while staying here i've encountered many girls that have seemed interested in me, relationship wise. i've either blown them off, or lost interest with them mid-way through pursuing them. however, about a week and a half ago, i met the one.

she's 22 years old. we both feel pretty hard for one another. with in one week we were making out; and, as of last night i am official not a virgin anymore. for some reason this relationship doesn't seem fast paced to me. i feel like the speed of which our relationship has developed was meant to be this way. my past relationships i had in America were completely different. i was always nervous with American girls, but for some reason i felt natural with my new girl friend.

what do you guys think? does this seem like a decent relationship?

She just wants a mill ticket back to the US. Don't be fooled or you WILL seriously regret it.

[gookmique]

She just wants a mill ticket back to the US. Don't be fooled or you WILL seriously regret it.

ouch, man, do you really think so?

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i forgot to mention that occasionally when we're together her ex-boyfriend calls multiple times, and harasses her. the Chinese men/boys think it's unethical to see a foreigner dating a Chinese girl. by no means am i saying that this example is wrong, but it's similar to a black male dating a white female in the deep south (alabama / mississippi region) of north america.

she has asked me what she should do about him. i simply said don't answer his calls anymore. she then said that he will still call, and the constant phone ringing will start to annoy her. i don't know what to tell her? there's not much i, myself, can do. if we were in the US, i would most certainly take it upon myself to solve the issue. but, alas, we're in china. the rules are different here, and i am not going to jeopardize my visa, nor my relationship over some nimrod.

ugh, this is retarded.

[Nihilus]

With time you will know if it is a decent relationship.

[INFERNO]

About the ex-boyfriend calling, tell her to block his number. Most phone plans, at least in North America, allow this. You may need to call the phone service provider and inquire how to do it. The only way for him to get around this is to get a new number, somehow have you or her unblock it or contact via a different method.

Take into consideration how Chinese males and females adopt their gender roles. Men tend to be more dominant, and you being an American may not be very welcomed, especially to the ex-boyfriend.

As for your relationship, it's too hard to tell: you're new together, you did the mattress mosh and so you're all happy. Does this mean it'll continue? Don't know. If she starts making advances about wanting to get out of the country and go to the USA, then I think it's time to reconsider your relationship.