Smoking Friend

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[bussitbabydoll]

tell her mother.
thats all you really can do.

[Synthslave]

well.if it really means so much to you try with an ultimatum.if she doesn't stop you won't hang out with her anymore or something like that.then you'll see if she really takes you as a friend.or throw away her cigarette everytime she lights up one.

[Koman]

If it makes her happy to smoke, who are you to take that from her; nomatter how bad it is for her.

[Nihilus]

If it makes her happy to smoke, who are you to take that from her; nomatter how bad it is for her.

Tell her parents and hopefully they will help her stop. Koman it is illegal for her to smoke until she is 18. sufc695 help her in whatever way possible.

[Antares]

Interesting. Well smoking is obviously bad. It leads to all types of crap that she doesn't want to run into. So I advise her quitting like you are trying to do. She knows that it is bad for her yet she does it for...stress, or at least I think. Some people do it for the "cool factor" but that doesn't sound like her. I suggest you try to help her find other ways to cope with her stress. THen help her automatically go to that coping method. And then have her stop. Cold turkey. She hasn't been smoking long enough to come entirely dependent on the things and you don't want her to get to that point. After that, it is one of the hardest things to do in the world for some people.
So find an alternate stress reliever, then tell her that she needs to stop otherwise she is going to lose everyone around her. And tell her that she needs to go to that alternative method to relieve stress and that you are here for her when she wants to have another.
I hope that helped. Good luck

[Koman]

Tell her parents and hopefully they will help her stop. Koman it is illegal for her to smoke until she is 18. sufc695 help her in whatever way possible.


Going .0000001 mph overthe speed limit is illegal but millions of people do it every day. It is illegal to download music over the internet but millions od people do it anyways. Because in some form it makes them happy. You dont have to rat people out. Millions of people under 18 smoke everyday, it makes them happy. It doesnt hurt you in anyway.

[Callwaiting]

If I were you I'd give her a bit of time, then try to bring it up again. For her sake you really don't want to wait until she IS addicted, that'll make it a thousand times harder.

When you talk to her you might want to try to find out why she wants to smoke in the first place; does she do it to be seen as cool, to relieve stress etc.
This can indicate how hard it may be to stop smoking, and help you to convince her that it's not worth it.

That's pretty much all I have to say on that, just make sure that you don't seem pushy when she doesn't feel like talking at that time, and let her make her own decision based on what you've discussed with her (don't tell her to do anything). As a friend you're more influential than you may think, so use that power in a positive way.
Also it might help talking to her face-to-face or even over the phone instead of on MSN - it seems a lot harder at first but it can really help a lot.


Going .0000001 mph overthe speed limit is illegal but millions of people do it every day. It is illegal to download music over the internet but millions od people do it anyways. Because in some form it makes them happy. You dont have to rat people out. Millions of people under 18 smoke everyday, it makes them happy. It doesnt hurt you in anyway.

TBH this seems like a very wrong attitude to hold on a friend..

Going over the speed limit can and will hurt people.
Downloading music/movies without paying for them costs the film industry a lot of money, which means hard working people lose their jobs and the ability to provide for their families.

Smoking is obviously harmful. It kills, plain and simple. The reason you aren't allowed to smoke when you're under 18, apart from the terrible health problems it causes(which *should* make smoking at any agee illegal) is because at that age you generally aren't mature enough to make an informed decision.

Just because something doesn't affect you personally, there's nothing to say that it doesn't hurt others immensely. Furthermore if you have the power to stop a friend experiencing this, then why wouldn't you?

[miusha]

walk to her talk to her and tell whay yuo want her to stop let music flow through the room that youo two are in and talk about it get a song that shows meaning to what your talkignabout hug her and say if you can't stop then you will and walk out the door ans=d say youll be at your place when shes ready to change!

[alexjblock]

Despite my interest in a health career, I have to agree with anyone here who has said that it's her choice, and that you shouldn't really stop her. She'll only quit if SHE wants to, and I'm guessing from her behaviour she doesn't
Giving her an ultimatum, telling her parents or refusing to hang around with her is a little harsh IMO. At the end of the day it's a legal substance, she's technically doing nothing wrong. I'm a heavy smoker myself, and a lot of my friends were against it at first. It sounds strange, but it becomes just another part of you and your persona, I don't think it should be something that is constantly highlighted and wronged. In any case, you'll just upset her and stress her out even more.

[Koman]

Despite my interest in a health career, I have to agree with anyone here who has said that it's her choice, and that you shouldn't really stop her. She'll only quit if SHE wants to, and I'm guessing from her behaviour she doesn't
Giving her an ultimatum, telling her parents or refusing to hang around with her is a little harsh IMO. At the end of the day it's a legal substance, she's technically doing nothing wrong. I'm a heavy smoker myself, and a lot of my friends were against it at first. It sounds strange, but it becomes just another part of you and your persona, I don't think it should be something that is constantly highlighted and wronged. In any case, you'll just upset her and stress her out even more.



my views 100%

[karel]

You don't have to loose trust on your friend..All you can do is give her advice, and share those time that make her happy..Whenever, she tries to smoke..don't discourage her..Just tell her the solution to the problems lies within us...You don't really need to rely on some addictive things and even others..You are worth while and you can break this cycle..yet tell her about smoking addictions and how badly it turns out in terms of health disasters in long run, whenever she is not feeling stressful..and tell her how it effects you socially and mentally to tackle difficult situations. I hope this site gives you bundle of information on Teens Smoking Addiction (http://www.teendrugabuse.us/teensmoking.html)..
Best Wishes...

[A.J.]

Whatss wrong with smoking (that is if you can support your own habit)? If smoking helps her relax is it really harming you? Don't let her get worked up and think its a big deal when it really isnt. She could be doing drugs but its just smoking.

[Agent]

Yes, but it doesn´t change the fact that smoking is unhealthy.

You should try to make her stop, if you really want to(I wouldn´t because it´s her choice, even thou he is not an adult). Don´t tell her parents, that will just make her loose trust on you and she will be in trouble.

[Truth]

Whatss wrong with smoking (that is if you can support your own habit)? If smoking helps her relax is it really harming you? Don't let her get worked up and think its a big deal when it really isnt. She could be doing drugs but its just smoking. Cancer, addiction, allergies, how much money it will waste. I've known acouple girls that got addicted, very sweet girls turned into giant bitches. Couldn't even stand to talk to them on msn.

[Nihilus]

Going .0000001 mph overthe speed limit is illegal but millions of people do it every day. It is illegal to download music over the internet but millions od people do it anyways. Because in some form it makes them happy. You dont have to rat people out. Millions of people under 18 smoke everyday, it makes them happy. It doesnt hurt you in anyway.

Yes but it destroys there lives.

[AllThatIsLeft]

People treat smoking like it's the end of the world.
You cant do anything to MAKE her stop, you can only advise her and hope she does.
Smoking won't change her as a person.
yes it will screw her health, but everything does nowadays.
Don't tell on her, because that just low.
Just keep persisting that she should quit, and that it isn't too late.

[Commander Thor]

Going .0000001 mph overthe speed limit is illegal but millions of people do it every day.
Not permantly harmful to your health, can't cause cancer, can't cause a build up of tar in your lungs, can't decrease your lung capicity, can't weaken your immune system, ect.

It is illegal to download music over the internet but millions od people do it anyways.
Not permantly harmful to your health, can't cause cancer, can't cause a build up of tar in your lungs, can't decrease your lung capicity, can't weaken your immune system, ect.

Because in some form it makes them happy. You dont have to rat people out. Millions of people under 18 smoke everyday, it makes them happy. It doesnt hurt you in anyway.
It doesn't make them happy, everyone I've EVER known that smokes cigarettes, smoke to feed the addiction, not to make themselves happy. EVERYONE that I know would stop smoking in a heartbeat if it wasn't for the addiction.

Oh and by the way, second-hand smoke hurts me...
Quite literately too, just walking by someone who is smoking a cigarette causes my nose, throat, and lungs to burn like hell.

[Toilet Water.]

One thing I hate is when friends get mad at me or try to make me stop doing shit I do.

I know you're concerned, but it's her choice to smoke or not.

But if she's willing to quit, tell her to count how much cigs she smokes one day, then smoke one less every day. She may have cravings for it, tell her to wait a bit and maybe drink a glass of water.

I smoke occassionally, it's hard not to; I started when I was 11 or 12 then stopped after a year. I started again but I only smoke sometimes. I'm not addicted, just need that cig maybe once a month, every two weeks or soemthing.

[Master_Miyagi]

honestly the best you can do is advise her of what will happen if she didn't quit, (e.g. cancer, lung complications, bad breath :P ect.) but if she doesn't stop that is her choice, if she knows what CAN go wrong but still chooses to do it, there is nothing you can do really

[rubidoux]

Her dad's a smoker and doesn't notice she's taking them? That's really weird, smokers generally keep track of how many cigarettes they have left.

And to XBox whatever, I actually smoke because I like to. A lot of people like it. And I know you're going to say that I'm addicted, but I know that I'm not because I can go months without one with no problem.