asking her out for the first time

[juggernaut]

well I'm a junior in high school and I really like this sophomore girl

I finally gathered the courage to speak to her one day after school where she waits out in the front, right before she gets picked up, the perfect time because she is usually alone then. This was like a month ago. My heart was thumping like crazy before i went up to her. I just made something up like ''hey did you go to xxxx middle school? i remember you from somewhere'' -- I knew she didn't go to my middle school a few years back, but I just wanted to get a conversation going right out of the blue. After that I was so happy I was able to approach her and actually speak to her. Ever since then, I've been saying hi alot and talking to her here and there.

this school year is almost over (1 month left) and I always ask myself; Should I finally ask her out? Am I going too fast? Afterall it has been a month since I've known her. Sometimes she's talking to other guys (not alot), but it's not like hugging or kissing stuff, she's usually with her girlfriends or friend, that's another reason why it's sometimes hard to talk to her with her friend around

Do you think it would be a good idea to ask her out to the movies? I've waited almost a month now and I tried my best to talk with her and get to know her some more as much as I could. I know that fear of rejection is normal, but I'm willing to take the risk, what do you guys think?

I knew that asking her out right out of the blue before I started speaking to her woulda been a bad idea, thats why I took the time and started talking to her a bit so that she actually knows me.

Any help is appreciated, thanks

[inlove]

lol ok.. well if u dont see her often one time u should just be like i am going to be sooo bored this weekend.. then be like maybe u wanna see a movie or something.. but i would do that or at least get her number some how so u can get to know her not having same classes and all..

-inlove

[IAMWILL]

Hmmm..... okay!

Well, not to diminish your hopes slightly, but the age/social life difference is a big one. Junior high to Sophomore is a big big difference. People act different, there are different trends, and mostly, people are different. As in, in high school, everyones midway through puberty chronologically so people are going to be more/less mature than each other, in the way they act, and in the physical sense.

Otherwise though, its really all about communicating with each other. Now, this doesn't mean just talking, it means connecting about things you might share in common, or disagree on, and stuff you can just talk about. You have to be mentally connected to the person before you can just go out, because one of the main factors in liking one another is wanting one another.

If though, it seems as though you are in a good position (It seems so to me), go ahead and ask her out to the movies or such. Just be ready to be said no too, because there is a big difference. Think about this though. Age shouldn't matter in a relationship, so if she says no but it seems as though she likes you, she may be just not mature enough to not be embarrassed by friends who think dating or going on a date with someone younger than themselves in "stupid" or "uncool", which means, shes probably not the girl for you.

[Eclipse]

Like Will said, there is a big age difference so don't get your hopes up to high. When she is alone, go say something like "Hey, I really like you, and I was wondering if you wanted to go out with me."

[juggernaut]

ok, thanks alot guys, i'll give it a shot

[juggernaut]

alright well im close to it, I waved at her today in the halls (between class periods) and got to speak to her at the end of the day for a quick bit I asked her how her weekend was and stuff before she left.

before I ask her out I just want to make sure I talk to her here and there but sometimes I feel it's just not enough, but how can I? I'm so limited with the class schedules, it's not like I can just go up to her when shes with her friend at lunch, that would be completely awkward and basically scream that I LIKE YOU, BE MY GIRLFRIEND, you know what im saying? Unless I catch her alone (which I try to)

I just wanted to get that off my chest, but I will be asking her out sometime this week to go next weekend, I'm just tired of waiting and I feel i've waited enough

[juggernaut]

ill be asking her tuesday when i see her after memorial day weekend

should I just be cool with it and just be like 'so I was wondering if you wanted to go out to the movies sometime?'

or should I be more specific (like friday night or something), but what if she has something planned on a specific day, I should say sometime then?