My best friend... tried to... gjsdskgjfk

[TigerLily]

Today... I found out... fuck, I can hardly type it, never mind think bout it...
Last year, she.. tried to.. slit her wrists... and she's only told anybody about it now..
I don't know what to do, I know it's in the past but still... i love her so much, and this is scaring the hell out of me...
And I'm so pissed at myself, at the time, I had no idea.. I should have known, then I could have tried to help her or get her the help she needed.. maybe then this all wouldn't have happened?
The circumstances behind it.. are.. hazy. I know some of the situation, but hardly much.. and that's only from stuff she's told me recently, rather than at the time... back then, she told nobody and no one was any the wiser..
She was all alone, and in so much pain...
She says she's not feeling anything like that now, and that she'll never do this again.. but I can't help being scared for her.. this is killing me...

[ErykaInspire.]

Just try to help her stay happy. Write her a note telling her how much you love her (and DON'T mention the cutting thing or the problems she's going through.)
Make her know that she's loved. If she's gone this long without cutting, it doesn't mean she won't relapse. I've gone 10-11 months w/o cutting and I still have burning urges to.
I suggest you try not to worry about it to much. If she's telling you that everything is fine, believe her. Even if she's lieing, she'll eventually tell you.
Best of luck, if you have ANY questions about the mind of a cutter, but PM me. I'd be more than happy to help you understand.
I went through two years of chronic depression so i'm pretty educated on the subject. Heh.

xxx<3

[TigerLily]

That's the thing, she's not a cutter
She just tried to... commit.. suicide... once, but she doesn't self-harm
And thanks for the advice Eryka :hug:

[ErykaInspire.]

I can't say that I know her thoughts, but I do have a feeling that she's okay now.
Try not to stress yourself to much.

And you're very welcome(: You know i'm here for you if you need anything.

[TigerLily]

I really really hope she'll be okay.
She is such an amazing person, she doesn't deserve any of this... no one deserves to feel like she did...
And I'll try not to worry too much, but I can't help it. I mean, last time, I had NO idea, so now I keep thinking... if she went back to that state, would I even be able to tell?
I'm scared.

[byee]

It's often shocking finding out friends we really care about went thru really hard times. But, try to keep some perspective here: She really must trust you and care about you and know you'll tolerate this bit of self disclosure, otherwise she wouldn't have told you. Also, remember it's in the past, she's talking past tense. It's not current. Everyone has a history, sometimes it includes nasty stuff. As long as it's in the past (and stays there!) it's OK.

Be supportive, recognize that her telling you this reflects on her trust in you and your ability to not have it change anything. You can let her know how bad you feel for her having been that desperate, and relieved that it's over. Then, try to move on and stay focused on the present.

[TigerLily]

Thanks Sam.
Past tense.
You're right.
I'm just worrying.. and I probably shouldn't be.. idk

[ErykaInspire.]

I agree with Sam one hundred and fifty percent.

[TigerLily]

It's just..
She was going through a really tough situation at the time..
It's now looking like that same situation... could be making a comeback
I know she is most likely not going to react in the same way, or at least I really really hope not... she seems so much better than before, and I believe her when she says she is ok...
I just love her so much, too much to think rationally atm, to realise that I shouldn't be worrying...
Thanks again guys :hug:

[CestDan]

I think that what she needs is some happiness, so you can tell her about it. Convince and make her see that life is the greatest gift and it needs to be lived as happy as possible. Now, if she doesn't change her mind, you probably need to give her some time alone so that she can reflect about what and why she is/was doing. Perhaps after that, she can change her mind and be happy with herself.