Can She get pregnant if…

[Specter]

Hey Everyone its just me again.

Ok how do I start this, basically I’ve been seeing this girl for about a month, Anyways last night we had sex for the first time, however I’m a nut bar, I always imagine the worst.

We had sex for an hour, after which I still did not “blow” “Cum” you get the idea, The only reason we stopped is because she started to feel pain.

Now my question is, is there any chance she could get pageant, Keep in mind the condom did NOT brake nor did I “Blow” I know this sounds stupid but I’m a nut :P, to be honest I like having sex but the pleasure isn’t worth the worry. Also keep in mind that she’s not on any kind of birth control or anything like that.

One last thing I feel bad because she really likes me where I like her as well just not in relationship kind of way, I just like messing around and doing shit. But she wants more, and its freaking me out.

Now that we’ve had sex I’ve got the feeling she’ll get attached, witch I don’t want.

Thanks for your advise, I love you virtualteen! :yeah:

-Specter

[Reality]

Did you pre-cum? That's got a tiny proportion of sperm in it.

[Atonement]

Pre-ejaculatory fluids contains small amounts of sperm. If you used a condom, if she's on the pill, its unlikely she will get pregnant.

But for future reference...

THERE IS ALWAYS A CHANCE OF PREGNANCY WITH SEX!

[Specter]

Shes not on the pill however, I used a condom.

[byee]

If you used a condom correctly, it's highly unlikely she's pregnant.

[ErykaInspire.]

You should NOT...EVER... mess with a girls emotions like that! Girls don't just give themselves away... it takes alot of mental motivation. Expecially is she's interested in the guy she's having sex with. When a girl has sex, she's risking EVERYTHING. She knows she's at risk of pregnancy, STDs, or a brokenheart. She basically sets herself up.. if you have any feelings for her whatsoever.. you wouldn't put her out after taking everything from her. It'll scar her for life.. and every guy she meets she'll think is just like you. and she wouldn't know how to trust if it hit her inbetween the eyes.
How do I know? How do you think?
there's ALWAYS a chance that she could be pregnant.. condom or not. You put her at risk. and you don't even want a relationship?
I'm sorry, but.. that severally pissed me off :/

[Specter]

Sorry, I'm sure you'll get over it.

[ErykaInspire.]

Wow..

[MysticalBurrito]

You should NOT...EVER... mess with a girls emotions like that! Girls don't just give themselves away... it takes alot of mental motivation. Expecially is she's interested in the guy she's having sex with. When a girl has sex, she's risking EVERYTHING. She knows she's at risk of pregnancy, STDs, or a brokenheart. She basically sets herself up.. if you have any feelings for her whatsoever.. you wouldn't put her out after taking everything from her. It'll scar her for life.. and every guy she meets she'll think is just like you. and she wouldn't know how to trust if it hit her inbetween the eyes.
How do I know? How do you think?
there's ALWAYS a chance that she could be pregnant.. condom or not. You put her at risk. and you don't even want a relationship?
I'm sorry, but.. that severally pissed me off :/
She is right and i agree with her thats just not right to have sex with a girl
who you dont like, She might be thinking wow he might be the one and you go and use her for sex thats just not right



Sorry, I'm sure you'll get over it.
:mad:

[ErykaInspire.]

Ha, yeah. He told me to grow up xD
I'm far more mature than girls my age. My familys problems had me basically raising myself at age 7 up until now.
You need to realize that girls arn't toys.
In a way.. I hope she is pregnant. You need a good smack in the face like that.
But in another bigger way. I seriously hope she isn't. She'd be a single mom and she'd have to fight lifes biggest battle on her own... keeping another life alive.

[nick]

On the technical side, you should always put the condom on before any sexual contact otherwise precum could cause a pregnancy. If you stick to that rule and the condom doesnt break you should be very safe.

On the personal side, if both of you are having sex for fun thats fine, but if you're leading her on just to get off with her then sorry, thats just being a bastard.

[Specter]

Ha, yeah. He told me to grow up xD
I'm far more mature than girls my age. My familys problems had me basically raising myself at age 7 up until now.
You need to realize that girls arn't toys.
In a way.. I hope she is pregnant. You need a good smack in the face like that.
But in another bigger way. I seriously hope she isn't. She'd be a single mom and she'd have to fight lifes biggest battle on her own... keeping another life alive.

Don’t get me wrong I’m really not an asshole, try not to see me in the wrong light. At first I thought she was using me for sex, but now when I talk to her she’s getting all lovey and to be honest its scaring me away.

Try to understand that even though you think lowly of me, you really shouldn’t throw around such condemning comments not knowing each corner of the story, I understand you have some issues with this topic and I respect that, but please relax, sorry for my comment earlier, I was frustrated, perhaps its my fault I didn’t not explain the situation correctly.

Trust me I understand that girls are not toys nor are they disposable, however I can’t change my feelings I do not “love” her, I’m sorry I just don’t. I want to be with her in a sexual way if that’s what she wants.

At first she was all about the more sexual aspect of the relationship, but I think now she didn’t only to grab my interest. I understand I fell into a little trap here but I’m not sure what to do, she’s starting to make comments like “We’d be a good couple” and I just got confused.

I’m sincerely sorry for coming off as an asshole earlier, I hope you understand.

Specter

[ErykaInspire.]

Just explain to her that you arn't ready for a relationship..

I accept your apology but I still don't have alot of respect for you :/
Sorry if I seemed like an ass..

[Specter]

I can’t ask for respect, I can only earn it. ;)

Thanks for the advise. :)

[ErykaInspire.]

No problem..
I'm just really hard on this subject :/
My highschool sweetheart tried to rape be just because I foreplayed with him..
It kinda :/ idk.. ruined me. in a way.
So i really am sorry for being a dick.

But if you ever need help to understand what she's thinking, just ask.

[ScotsGirl]

Specter, I feel like you know the answer to your own questions... or at least in your post you highlight them.
No ejaculation and a condom = very low chance of pregnancy
She makes 'couple' comments = she has feelings for you

As for her feelings, like you said you noticed her making the 'couple' comments... I agree with Micki, you need to tell her it not going to happen. It's probably not the best idea for you to keep the casual thing going because...well it isnt casual for her.
She might try and keep it going, but most of the time when that happens, its because the person who is emotionally involved tends to take whatever they can get in the hope the un-attached person will become attached... if that makes sense? :P

Goodluck :-)
xxx

[pontiacdriver]

Putting aside the moral issue for a moment, the short answer to your question is that it is very unlikely that you had gotten your girlfriend pregnant. The advice above has more or less hit the nail on the head. The only thing I can add is that keep in mind that if you using condoms as your sole method of birth control, then that is a good start. However, to be absolutely safe your girlfriend should be on some sort of birth control prescription and have access to a gynecologist. Especially in light of her pain issues your girlfriend really needs to be able to talk with a doctor when and if she has issues. Also, your girlfriend should know where to go if the worst should happen in terms of your condom breaking and where to go for emergency contraception if necessary. If neither you nor your girlfriend have access to sexual health providers if either of you should have a problem, then you really should re-evaluate having sex.

As for having sex without wanting to be in a relationship, I would be really careful. Women and men view sex totally differently with women viewing it as an emotional connection whereas men have more emphasis on the physical side of it. In my view there is no such thing as sex without strings attached unless you have a strictly economic transaction with the other person such as prostitution. It really is not fair to have sex with someone especially if they want a relationship and you do not want one. Just be careful in this situation and be honest with yourself and the girl.

[Specter]

Thanks for your advise everyone, I really appreciate it. If a Mod sees this please lock my thread.

Thanks

-Specter

[Natoja12]

im like you, i kiss a few guys and i think i may get herppees on my lips lol. it horrible and annoying. anyways chances are she isnt pregnant, but be careful with her. she may like you enough to stay with you but just dont use her. :)

[Gumleaf]

Thanks for your advise everyone, I really appreciate it. If a Mod sees this please lock my thread.

Thanks

-Specter

locked as requested. in future, just report the post so a mod can act on it quicker. thanks.