i'm pregnant.

[sienna.]

first of all i don't know how this happened.
doctors said they are suprised, but they sy it's not impossible.

I'M PREGNANT!!
and the baby isn't matts.(my boyfriend.)
it's coops.(his best friend.)

what the hell do i do????

matt will kill me.
i am scared to think what he will do.
and what he will do to coop aswell.

and to make matters worse,
when coop came over yesterday to comfort me and then we kissed.
he came back later.
and we slept together.

i think i am falling for coop!!

someone tell me what to do!!
please.
i'm going out of my mind!!
:(

[ShatteredWings]

How are you pregnant?....
Physically.

[Sapphire]

I'm with Gwyn on this, how can you be pregnant?

[Sazcazam]

@ Sienna... why is it impossible?? Are you too young? Do you have your periods yet? I'm confused. I think you should tell Matt everything.. it's not fair on him what you're doing.. and it's not right that he would think the baby is his

[BuryYourFlame]

@ Sienna... why is it impossible?? Are you too young? Do you have your periods yet? I'm confused. I think you should tell Matt everything.. it's not fair on him what you're doing.. and it's not right that he would think the baby is his

sienna is 19 (i think), her boyfriend abuses her, and he cheated on her. there is a lot that you dont know about her situation...but i guess that is why you are asking...well...hopefully that answered some questions...

[phish]

first of all i don't know how this happened.
doctors said they are suprised, but they sy it's not impossible.

I'M PREGNANT!!
and the baby isn't matts.(my boyfriend.)
it's coops.(his best friend.)

what the hell do i do????

matt will kill me.
i am scared to think what he will do.
and what he will do to coop aswell.

and to make matters worse,
when coop came over yesterday to comfort me and then we kissed.
he came back later.
and we slept together.

i think i am falling for coop!!

someone tell me what to do!!
please.
i'm going out of my mind!!
:(




Well to start with, you should not have slept with ether of them if you can't handle a baby and being on a teen site I would not think you are.

And maybe you should not have slept with coop if you did not want your boy friend to find out.

Step up and tell your boy friend and anyone else(parents) who needs to know.

[byee]

C'mon, guys! Remember the Facts of Life? Basic sexuality? People who have unprotected intercourse can get pregnant. Actually, at some point, they usually do. Sienna has had sex (and as we now learn, unprotected sex), so she got pregnant. What's hard to understand about that?

Sienna, your story here just get's worse and worse, and this is a major complication emotionally, socially, and medically. You need to tell some adult and find out what your options are. Skip the teen drama for now with Matt and Coop, you need some facts and you need some help and support sorting all this out. If you cannot tell your folks, call Planned Parenthood (or the equivalent) and make an appt. it's free and confidential, and the counselor will help you understand all your options and assist in making the best choice for you.

[Sapphire]

C'mon, guys! Remember the Facts of Life? Basic sexuality? People who have unprotected intercourse can get pregnant. Actually, at some point, they usually do. Sienna has had sex (and as we now learn, unprotected sex), so she got pregnant. What's hard to understand about that?We aren't stupid, thank you very much.
Her eating disorder actually stops it being as simple as that.
Eating disorders affect menstruation and often stop the girl getting periods. Taking this into account, a female who has a one night stand while struggling with an eating disorder is much less likely to get pregnant than a perfectly healthy female. Even perfectly healthy females will not definitely get pregnant after a one night stand so someone with an eating disorder getting pregnant from a one-off is most improbable. Also, the likelihood of having a positive pregnancy test today (8 days after they had sex) is unlikely.

EDIT
http://pregnancy.lovetoknow.com/wiki/How_Soon_Can_I_Take_a_Pregnancy_Test
http://www.eatingdisordersadvisor.com/pregnancyandeating-disorders.html

[ShatteredWings]

Sienna, i hope you come back and clear this up
This post is in general a little fishy

Most people know that if you're as severly underweight as you've said, you shouldn't be able to phyiscally get pregnant, because your body can't support itself, let alone another life.
Something's up.

and how are you in the hospital, yet somehow managing to have sex with different guys?

[IAMWILL]

Well actually, if you have read or replied to any of her other threads, this makes sense!!!

And to be honest, I'm scared. Being pregnant with a man other than your boyfriend/husbands kid is just fucking scary; mentally and physcially. Now, I'm not gonna go into facts here (I'd write a book), but I'll go into the physcological side. This is going to definetly be one of the hardest physcological times in your life, and you'll need to make some really crucial deciscions. I mean really crucial. Dont worry about other people though, you really need to get away from people, including Matt and Coop. In fact, stay away from Matt! He's gonna need some time to cool off, because he'll be pissed, so you'll need to sit him down and give him a mature serious talk about actually how you feel. Then you need to talk to Coop... Just say exactly how you feel about the situation, and what you think needs and must be done.

[sienna.]

that's what i said.
i am not that underweight.
i now weigh 43 kilos.
and i have gotten my period back.

i told the doctors that i had unprotected sex and whatever.
and i was worried about being pregnant because i had the same symptoms the last time i was pregnant.
the doctors said that it was unlikely, but they will test me.
and the test came back positive.

doctors say that my body is jus good at getting pregnant.
but because of the state my body is in, it is highly unlikely that my baby will survive.
he said that i should expect to miscarriage very shortly.

any way....
i told coop today.

also....
i am not in a normal hospital.
i'm like in a inpatient treatment centre, but the hospital side of it.
so i have like my own room, with a bed and a TV.
it's not a normal everyday hospital.
and it's espically for eating disorders.

[ShatteredWings]

Em..
even if you did put that much weight back on
you're still underweight.
[did a conversion, that's 94 pounds guys]

Remind me how this is possiable again?

[AutumnDae]

Okay, 94 pounds, and you are....how tall? That is still severely underweight. And since the doctors have told you that you are most going to miscarriage, then you need to be prepared for that. Have you told Coop that piece of the news yet?

[Sapphire]

As has already been said, 94lbs is still really underweight.
The likelihood of you having got pregnant from a one night stand is ridiculously low.
And what symptoms were you experiencing a couple of days ago that made you so certain?

[AllThatIsLeft]

Okay everyone BACK OFF!

if she's pregnant, she's pregnant. STOP questioning it!

Now, it is possible to be pregnant with 94 lbs. It's not unheard of.
Yes, it is extremely unhealthy, and unlikely, but i've heard worse.

It is probable that you will miscarriage, and i don't think you can do anything about it.
i don't think you want to do anything about.

A baby will seriously complicate things in your life. and no i'm not saying that losing is the best option.
I hate the loss of life, but i am still pro-choice. Nothing to do with this, but just making that point clear.

When you tell Matt, HAVE SOMEONE WITH YOU. I really don't want to see you all beat up again.

Think, reflect a lot.

Is what your feeling for Coop at your best interest?
Will Coop put you before Matt?
IS Coop anything like Matt? (abusive wise)
Have you talked to Ryan?
What does he say?

GET HELP! You don't have to do this alone, and i don't mean doctors. I mean people that care about you, and only have the best intentions.
That's not your girl best friend, and not Matt.
Talk to Ryan!

[Rutherford The Brave]

Its not impossible, if shes fertile she can conceive. Yet, keeping the child under such conditions are well, unlikely. If she is really pregnant its not a question if she can or not stop her eating disorder, she has too she needs to gain weight.

[Kaleidoscope Eyes]

You said you'd been pregnant before. How did that end up? Did you miscarry then, too?

If the baby is not going to survive (and may well be born with complications), you may be considering abortion. I'm not saying that's what you should do, and I don't know if you're pro-choice or pro-life. All I'm saying is that, if you terminate the pregnancy you won't have to deal with a likely miscarriage later in the term. If you do consider it, just remember that it's ok. It's not an excuse for having unprotected sex ("Its ok, I can always abort"), but I believe it's an option in cases where continuing the pregnancy would be harmful to you. Especially with an abusive boyfriend. If you feel you can deal with carrying the baby full-term (assuming you don't actually miscarry), there's nothing wrong with that either, but you'll have to think about if you'll keep it or give it up.

I know you've heard this before, but I really think your best option is to get free of Matt NOW. If you end it in person do it in a relatively public place, where there are people nearby, and have support with you. You don't have to tell him you're pregnant. It's so early in the pregnancy that, if he later finds out, he won't have to know you were pregnant when you broke up; you could have conceived later. Especially if you don't want to abort, you need to consider that he may hurt not just you, but the baby. Even if a miscarriage is likely, it's still going to be an emotional issue and if he beats you until the baby dies it'll be even harder. I know it's the worst-case scenario, and may not even happen, but please don't let that happen to you. The other option is to tell someone in a position of authority. Without physical proof they can't just go out and make an arrest, but if you tell them you're afraid for your well-being and want to get out of the relationship, they can get you the help you need. You were able to tell us; now it's time to tell someone who can help you to do something about it. :)

Coop sounds like he's pretty supportive, and like he actually cares for you. After-all, he came by to comfort you instead of denying that it was his and making a run for it. He also hasn't told Matt, even though they're good friends. I say stick around with Coop for now, don't lose your support. Does he know how bad things are with Matt? Is he willing to stand by you if you end things?

I've never been through this myself, but I'm always here if you need someone to talk to. I hear I'm a good listener. :) :hug:

[ScotsGirl]

Woweee, Im sorry about your situation and the problems you have to deal with but I really have to say....protection??!
I mean, seriously... sure everyone makes mistakes but what are you doing having unprotected sex? Whether you have periods or not, you should still be using protection...
And if this has happened before, why would you let it happen again?

I know the last thing you want right now is for people to lecture you... but I cant help but feel it had to be said...

Don't forget there are things in your life that are within your control that you can do to help yourself. Just because other areas of your life arent going so well, doesnt mean you have to make everything stressful.
But it's something you have to do for yourself...



someone tell me what to do!!
please.
i'm going out of my mind!!
:(

You have to decide for yourself the best way to go. That way, it is something that you want and not another thing that is outwith your control.
Everyone on here is available to help you along the way of course, but youre the one who has to want to improve things and not keep complicating matters. If you are in a hospital then I suggest you talk to the people around you. Its surprising how much they can understand when you tell them.
I suggest you leave the boys for now until you sort yourself out. Dont depend on other people being there for happiness, find it in yourself :-)
Goodluck sweety! :hug:

[sienna.]

Well my problem of being pregnant is over now.
I’m not pregnant any more.

Last night when coop came to visit me, matt came aswell.
And I asked coop to wait outside so I could talk to matt.
So coop waited outside my room.

I was so nervouse to tell matt I was pregnant, you have no idea.
So I pretty much told him that I was pregnant, but that coop was the dad.

He got so mad, the look on his face, I was soo scared.
He walked up to me, and just punched me in the stomach, the pushed me so hard into the wall.
It hurt so much, I coulnd’t breathe.

Coop must have heard a noise or something,
Because he came into the room and pulled matt away from me, then he hit matt.
I couldn’t’t move, I was in so much pain.

The doctors came in and pulled matt and coop away from eachother.
And took them out of my room.
The doctor picked me up,
And they did some scans and tests and what not
And I have 3 broken ribs.
And I am no longer pregnant..

So I guess that issue is no more.

They gave me some sleeping pils or what ever it was, to put me to sleep.
And when I woke up, I woke up to coop in my room.
I was so shocked, I thought he would have just bailed for sure, (that is what matt would have done)

Coop told me that the hospital called the police and they took matt away.
But that is what we know for know.

That is the end of matt.
I promised that he only had one more chance, and he blew it.
Even though I am so upset, I know it’s the right decision.

Soo yeah….

Now I don’t know what to do about coop.
the other day he told me that he was falling for me...
and he can no longer not act of those feelings.
he said that he wants to be there for me.
with everything...
my eating disorder, anything.
he said that he hates the way matt hurts me and he can no longer sit by and just tell matt to stop.
he said he will do anything to see that i no longer am hurt.

he said he wants to be with me....

[RaeNose]

Oh. my. God.
Honey, are you okay? That story just made me cry!
That Matt character is a jerk and I hope you get a restraining order and make sure that he can never harm you again.
That poor child....

But on a similar note, at least you have someone who'll make sure you're taken care of.

I hope you are, physically, emotionally, and mentally okay. You are beautiful and some stupid punk has no right to do that to you. Ever.

Please be safe.

[sienna.]

yeahhh..
i'm alright.
i'm sore and upset.
but i'll survive.
thanks.
:)

[Sapphire]

Why tell them both when you knew it was only really a matter of time until you were going to have a miscarriage?

[IAMWILL]

Howabout we all stop questioning the fuck outta her? Seriously people, it happened, through whatever odds, it ended, and now were done with this.

Accept the facts and move on.

[pcd31]

I'm so sorry to hear about this. Matt got what was coming to him. And Coop sounds like a really nice guy. Now you know there's someone that really cares about you.

[xSayyx]

I think that the best thing to do is just come out and tell with Coop, tell Matt everything. Otherwise it will hurt everyone in the long run. Including the child.

After you tell Matt you need to talk to your parents and see what your plan is for having and what you're going to do with the baby.

[Aηdy]

I think as it turns out, in the circumstances the end result is the best that could have happened. Matt needs locking up. He doesn't deserve you. And I think Coop can change things a lot for you. Good luck.

[sienna.]

i told coop because it accidently came out.
he was saying all these things about how he wants to be there for me and how he is really falling for me.
and before i knew it, i was telling him i was pregnant!!

and i told matt, because 1. i can't lie to him! i hate doing it, and i am not very good at it.
i wanted to be honest.
and second of all i wanted to find out how he really felt about me.
i honestly didn't think he was going to him me in the stomach then break my ribs.
but he did.
which gave me my answer!!

[Truth]

Congradulations; matt's gone and it's obvious who cares about you. Your probably going to do alot better from now on, but im sorry to hear your ribs got broken and baby killed. =/. Hmm, i wonder if you still hate me for insulting matt and telling you to dump him? (I'd like to know, honestly.)

[Sapphire]

He's been abusive towards you on a number of occasions and you didn't expect him to be abusive towards you for being pregnant with his best friend's baby?

[sienna.]

well to be honest.
i thought this time would be different!!!
so get off my back about it all.

[Sapphire]

Lol.
Of course you did...

[Rutherford The Brave]

well to be honest.
i thought this time would be different!!!
so get off my back about it all.

If I remember correctly, that Noor at the time when she conceived was about 130 pounds. You were 90 some odd pounds, Which I find very odd, and rather discerning if you will. I'm having a terribly hard time believing this, I mean Its not to put your and your character down in anyway yet.....I'm just not seeing it, I've really never heard of a babe being literally "Beaten" out of some one, or you killing, I am unaware of how it happened. Sadly, I am not fully on board, I hope I can have a change of mind.

[Zephyr]

You guys, the purpose of the site is to help people, not doubt them profusely. Just try your best to help and move on, not attack people because you think they aren't being truthful.

If I remember correctly, that Noor at the time when she conceived was about 130 pounds. You were 90 some odd pounds, Which I find very odd, and rather discerning if you will. I'm having a terribly hard time believing this, I mean Its not to put your and your character down in anyway yet.....I'm just not seeing it, I've really never heard of a babe being literally "Beaten" out of some one, or you killing, I am unaware of how it happened. Sadly, I am not fully on board, I hope I can have a change of mind.

It's possible to have a miscarriage due to a good blow to the abdomen. If I recall about 4 years ago, my friend Jessica was pregnant. When she told a friend of hers, that friend punched her in the stomach. The next morning she woke up with blood on her sheets, and tested no longer pregnant. It is possible.

Best of luck to you though hun.
Maybe Coop will live up to be the boyfriend that Matt couldn't be.

[Dannnn]

;512587']How are you pregnant?....
Physically.

Lol, well you can't get pregnant mentally can you? :P

[lesher]

That Matt is insane! Punching a pregnant woman.... THAT'S JUST PLAIN CRAZY!!

[qoute]That Matt character is a jerk and I hope you get a restraining order and make sure that he can never harm you again. [/quote]
I agree with this!

Hmm... Even though Coop looks very nice (and hopefully will always be). Just in case, always take care. Glad you're much better now

[Eagle1]

while this all sounds a little fishy it is possible and if it is true I am sorry for what happened im not going to ask you any questions Coop sound like a nice guy but you might want to tell him that he can't talk to Matt as long as hes with you. Oh and good luck

[PrincessSarey]

Sweetie, I'm so sorry for what has happened.

*gentle hugs*
We're here for you.

&everyone... GET OFF HER BACK. This girl has been through A LOT, she does not need this. She needs support and comfort.

[RaeNose]

Sienna, you ARE beautiful.
Don't ever forget that.