Annoying questions.

[Sceneboy612]

Well, at the end of april, i came out to my friend, and since then, nothing has changed, but today, she decided to do the "how do you know that you are gay", and the "why are you gay", with the "what made you gay" things.

Does anyone who has come out to someone have these kind of problems?

And how do you "nicely" tell them to stop asking things like this?

[ErykaInspire.]

Tell them that you're just attracted to the same sex. There's no reason WHY you're gay, you just ARE. And just tell her.. i've always been gay. Girls have never been as appealing to me as men. Tell her "I'd appreciate it if you stopped asking about it. It's who I am, accept it and don't think of it as a question.. think of me as your friend, regardless. Okay?"
Or something like that.

[guacamole24]

I haven't really come out to anyone, because I'm really unsure of my sexuality, but anyway...

There doesn't necessarily have to be an answer to those sort of questions. I believe homosexuality is something your born with, and you have to live with. That's just the way it is.

[Sceneboy612]

oh, i know that, and thanks for the advice btw... she accepts how i am, i mean we were just talking about boys =p, but she does not know... How i am gay guess

[byee]

You didn't mention why you're 'annoyed' by these questions. They seem kinda understandable, given that you've told her about your sexuality, you volunteered this info. People often are curious about new info after they think about it for a while.

Without holding you up as an example, I would say that disclosing anything really personal about yourself always carries the risk that the other person might have a *reaction*, and you should be prepared for it before you make the decision to go ahead and self disclose. In your case, the reaction seems fairly mild, just some curiosity. Although it might seem somewhat intrusive, because you volunteered it, you should also be prepared to discuss at keast a little bit, and if you're not entirely comfortable with what might happen after you tell, then maybe it's a sign that you shouldn't be sharing this in the first place just yet.

For now, you might want to share with your friend as much (or little) as you feel comfortable, and then politely let her know that you're not ready to say more.

[chris__robin]

answer her question with another question:
"how do you know you are straight?" "why are you straight?" "what made you straight?"
it might sound stupid but its something to think about.

and if your friend replies that everyone is straight and they turn gay ... well thats just ignorant.
otherwise explain what you believe i.e. i was born this way its who i am etc....

[Sceneboy612]

You didn't mention why you're 'annoyed' by these questions. They seem kinda understandable, given that you've told her about your sexuality, you volunteered this info. People often are curious about new info after they think about it for a while.

Without holding you up as an example, I would say that disclosing anything really personal about yourself always carries the risk that the other person might have a *reaction*, and you should be prepared for it before you make the decision to go ahead and self disclose. In your case, the reaction seems fairly mild, just some curiosity. Although it might seem somewhat intrusive, because you volunteered it, you should also be prepared to discuss at least a little bit, and if you're not entirely comfortable with what might happen after you tell, then maybe it's a sign that you shouldn't be sharing this in the first place just yet.

For now, you might want to share with your friend as much (or little) as you feel comfortable, and then politely let her know that you're not ready to say more.

Haha, well the thing is that she knows it and understands it, we have already talked about guys who are cute, and all that stuff, but she is asking these questions now, and i thought that it would be kinda obvious the whys and evertthing