Coming Out

[owenza]

I really want to tell my friend that I'm gay. However, he says he has a really anti-gay view and thinks it's disgusting. Although he frequently pretends to have sex with boys (by pretend I mean with all clothes on), so I am a bit confused. Can anyone offer me some advice? Also, one person who said he was gay was made fun of for ages, but not my friend.:confused::confused:

[guacamole24]

I have a similar situation. My friend claims to have very anti-gay views and says that gays should burn in hell. But on the other hand, he grabs peoples' body parts and says homosexual things all the time. Possibly your friend's afraid to admit that he gay, so he tries to deny it?

[rainebg]

Maybe he does have some confusing feelings but i see this at my school too. Most of the time they do this to mock gays and stuff. Even though it only makes them look gay them selves. I have a "friend" like this and he draws penises all over my things then claims to hate gays so i don't know. I'd say that if you told him he'd react badly because he could feel threatened. Especially if he feels he may be gay but doesn't want to show it. Hope all goes well.

[Sceneboy612]

This is just a thought, but he could be gay, and so full of himself, that he wants people to think he is straight, and the best way is to trash the people who are gay.

And other than that little rant, it is your secret. you might want to tell him, but if he is anti gay like you said, it is a bad idea. All it will bring along is the common "dont check me out", and those kind of things. It could also possibly ruin your friendship if his anti gay views are very strong.

So i would recomend that you dont tell him, when i came out thought, i was finally happy, and the one person that i told is fine with it

[chris__robin]

its your life and your personal issues so if you feel like he's really your friend and can handle it or at least keep it to himself if he's not okay with it then you could tell him.

coming out is difficult and for some people they do lose some friends over it. but if your friends can't accept you for who you are then theyre not worth your time

[Ladysman]

Dude dont steal this page so dumb guacomole make ur owndude

[ErykaInspire.]

If he's a true friend, he won't trash you just because of what sex you're attracted to.
Lay it on the line for him. Let him know that you don't like HIM (but if you do.. don't mention it. Let him take in one piece of information at a time).

There IS a possibility that he's gay.
There's a guy in my school that acts exactly like that but he told my brother he's bi and doesn't want anyone to know.

Follow your heart and do what you think is best.
If you need someone to vent to, PM me.

[jocklin]

the guy is just afaid 2 admit that he is gay

[sweet]

if you think is best you should be.