Manning up..?

[dec_1892]

So all of my life I have grown up surrounded by girl cousins and aunts. Very little male interaction, even from my dad, though he was always there. I’m pretty sure that this led to me being able to get along well with girls, which made me have a lot of female friends. I never complained about this, but because of it, I never really had too many guy friends. I never got into sports, or acted the way most guys my age tend to act. Many people thought that I was gay, which I’m not, and that’s what really bugs me. I want to know how to, I dunno, “man up” I guess. Any advice?

[sam i am]

Dude it's ok just don't worry about maning up or what ever ur fine just the way u are...i have a lot of girl friends to and not much guys but it's fine with me if u know what im saying j/k lol but don't worry about maning up just chill and be ur self k?

[Ladysman]

Same here dude im bi tho

[dec_1892]

Thanks guys that's really cool. The thing that I do wish I was better at though was sports. I guess that I did use to be a little more active, and got made fun of so I quit. :\ I'm more into music and band and school and stuff.

[The Joker]

Well, I'm friends with many girls, and I'm not too athletic. It's not really too much of a problem, especially because you are more knowledgeable about girls, and understand them, which can help you get a girlfriend.

[dec_1892]

Ha! I know what you mean! I'm 16, and I got my first gf back in November. It's been going really well too.

[TrekRider0320]

I had the same problem, people calling me gay, having many friends that are girls, I still do, but its more normal now than it was and i dont get harrasesd

[QuickQuart]

Hah I'm the exact same way dude. Seriously just don't worry about it. A friend is a friend regardless of gender. This sounds really cheesy but just be yourself! Obviously all ur female friends like u that way, right?

[pontiacdriver]

So all of my life I have grown up surrounded by girl cousins and aunts. Very little male interaction, even from my dad, though he was always there. I’m pretty sure that this led to me being able to get along well with girls, which made me have a lot of female friends. I never complained about this, but because of it, I never really had too many guy friends. I never got into sports, or acted the way most guys my age tend to act. Many people thought that I was gay, which I’m not, and that’s what really bugs me. I want to know how to, I dunno, “man up” I guess. Any advice?

To be honest, you really don't need to "man up" as you are perfectly fine the way you are. However, I can understand the need for you wanting to have more guy friends just for the simple fact that you want folks with whom you can relate on all levels. The reality is that there can be a slight gap between females and males with some issues. My suggestion is if sports is not your thing, then why don't you join some clubs where there are at very least an equal number of guys and girls? Are there any guys your age in your neighbourhood with whom you can hang out? Does your girlfriend have any guy friends or relatives with whom you can get to know? Do your girl cousins have boyfriends who might want to hang out with you? Also, are there any guys your age at your school bus stop who can get to know? Are there guys you are at where you work with whom you have cordial relations? I think you have a lot of options here especially if your friends and relatives who are girls have guy friends. I think you can use those women as a way to get to know guys your age. Also, have you talked to your Father about your concerns?

[rawsirk]

So all of my life I have grown up surrounded by girl cousins and aunts. Very little male interaction, even from my dad, though he was always there. I’m pretty sure that this led to me being able to get along well with girls, which made me have a lot of female friends. I never complained about this, but because of it, I never really had too many guy friends. I never got into sports, or acted the way most guys my age tend to act. Many people thought that I was gay, which I’m not, and that’s what really bugs me. I want to know how to, I dunno, “man up” I guess. Any advice?



OMG same with me!!! but im questioning if im gay or not aswell now to. lol. im actually going to the gym. Im actually enjoying it. It feels great after a work out and seeing other guys there too...:P

[Lifepulses]

i had this same problem!
but im not gay.
just ignore them, they'll eventually find somethign else to talk about.
like calling you gay isn't at all an insult. its like saying " YOUR TALL" it's not as insulting as people think it is.
just be like okay. being gay isn't a horrible thing, and its not like you get to choose if your gay or not. your just. born gay or not.

[Leprachaun]

i'd say try to make male friends

[IanMilo]

So all of my life I have grown up surrounded by girl cousins and aunts. Very little male interaction, even from my dad, though he was always there. I’m pretty sure that this led to me being able to get along well with girls, which made me have a lot of female friends. I never complained about this, but because of it, I never really had too many guy friends. I never got into sports, or acted the way most guys my age tend to act. Many people thought that I was gay, which I’m not, and that’s what really bugs me. I want to know how to, I dunno, “man up” I guess. Any advice? omg i have the same problem my whole street is girls too...
but i think of it as a good thing because the people who dont walk away are true friends :0
feel free to im me on yahoo you sound almost exactly like me :)