So, a friend of mine cut's herself..

[underageflyklub]

I'm not entirely sure what to do about it.

Let's call her Fee. Now, Fee has been cutting herself these last few months. She kinda understands it- (You know the way you only understand it when you first start to cut? Talking from experience.)- but I don't think she believes the way the scars really will stay put, or the fact that it can lead to addiction, etc.
I think Fee cuts as a cry for help.. she does it to help her, but she flaunts her scars a bit, she will talk, if people ask, about them.. don't get me wrong, she isn't attention seeking, but she wants help and someone to notice. But she doesn't want to accept the help yet? Mind torn two ways, kinda?

She only cuts just to break the skin, as far as I'm aware. Nothing too deep.

She is unhappy, I know.. she has extremely low self-esteem, she has a lot of troubles with boys, she's worrying about exams, she's falling into depression and is sometimes suicidal (but.. I don't think she would do it. You know? Idk.)

I'm just wondering what to do? I've encouraged her to seek help, and give her complete support with everything, and she knows I used to cut and I think that helps sometimes, I encourage her to clean out her wounds and everything. She has sort help, but nothing major.
But she isn't stopping cutting, and is clearly unhappy.
I'm reluctant to get her into trouble..

tl;dr- A friend of mine is extremely unhappy and cutting herself, and I'm not sure what to do, as she is resisting against my support.

Thankyou.

[Miss Punk]

Keep being there for her, it sounds like you're really helping her already, and she may not be ready to want to stop doing it yet, but if you keep encouraging her and supporting her, and maybe explain to her how you feel about this, you could help her make more progress. I think she really needs to speak to someone about this, so maybe you could suggest it to her and see what she thinks? Well done for being a good friend, not many friends are as understanding as this, best wishes xx

[Truth]

Keep trying to help her, it's something that would obviously help her stop, and do it before she starts to cut deeper then 'breaking the skin', bleeds horribly when you cut the vein.

[Project Delta]

I agree with truth, try to make her feel as good about herself, try compliments etc. Girls love that :P
And just be around her lots so that if she needs to as a question she can get it answered.

[underageflyklub]

Keep being there for her, it sounds like you're really helping her already, and she may not be ready to want to stop doing it yet, but if you keep encouraging her and supporting her, and maybe explain to her how you feel about this, you could help her make more progress. I think she really needs to speak to someone about this, so maybe you could suggest it to her and see what she thinks? Well done for being a good friend, not many friends are as understanding as this, best wishes xx

I'd like to think I am helping her a bit :\ I don't think she is ready to stop yet, but if I at least let her see that she can also have help without stopping (just yet, anyway..)
I think I will suggest it to her- I have before, but I think you're right.. I just don't want to push her into anything, you know? I need her to see for herself :\
Thanks for your reply, it's been very helpful :)

[underageflyklub]

Keep trying to help her, it's something that would obviously help her stop, and do it before she starts to cut deeper then 'breaking the skin', bleeds horribly when you cut the vein.

I agree with truth, try to make her feel as good about herself, try compliments etc. Girls love that :P
And just be around her lots so that if she needs to as a question she can get it answered.

I think you're right, and I need to act kinda quickly before this gets out of hand :/

& I think that is a good idea, girls do love compliments :)
I try to be with her as much as I can, without smothering xD

Thankyou very much, both of you :) You've been most helpful.

[Project Delta]

Its fine, i will be glad when you get to talk to her and are able to help her, that will make me smile and you can do it mate! she is lucky she has you, you seem awesome :)

[underageflyklub]

I really hope I can be of some help to her.. she needs, and deserves it :/ She's really lovely and always doing things for others.. she deserves the same back.

There are never enough smiles in the world :)
& Ha, thankyou.
:)