Am i phisically Ready??

[inlove]

I am 14 years old.. i have a girlfriend named haden, me and her have been discussing sex avidly... i really love her, and i want to have sex with her, i am just not sure if i am physically matured enough to do that.. i am only about 4 inches erect... :( i can ejaculate and all that good stuff, but am i big enough to fit a condom? and is it ready?

[The Joker]

To my knowledge, condoms can actually fit many sizes well. Go for it, man.

[Gumleaf]

moved: teen sexuality >>> relationships and dating


mate, just make sure you are both mentally and physically ready before taking that step. i can't really come out and say you shouldn't because i had sex for the first time at 14, but just be sure that its what you really want and be prepared for the consequences that sex can bring.

[inlove]

moved: teen sexuality >>> relationships and dating


mate, just make sure you are both mentally and physically ready before taking that step. i can't really come out and say you shouldn't because i had sex for the first time at 14, but just be sure that its what you really want and be prepared for the consequences that sex can bring.

thanks.. ill be sure to give it tons of thought before making that step.

[Zazu]

I agree with Stephen; it's not just if you are pysically ready, it's if you are mentally prepared aswell.

It doesn't sound like you are, but don't rush into it, make sure you and your gf make sure it's the right thing to do.

[byee]

You have to be a minimium size for the condom to fit without sliding off, they're designed to fit an adult penis. So, eventhough there's an elastic band at the bottom to keep it firmly in place, it will scrunch down only so far, and if you;re not close to 'grown up' size, it might not fit as securely as it needs to. Before you go any further with your talks with Haden, I'd strongly recommend you go try one on and see if it fits properly.

Aside from the physical readiness, there's the emotional readiness to consider. For most people, sex really changes the intensity of the relationship pretty considerably. And, if you don't have a lot of experience with relationships in general, that new intensity can be pretty powerful. This is especially true with the 'First time', since there's the added element of too. And, the younger the person, the less developed that part of the brain is that deals with emotional maturity and the ability to cope with intense emotions is. So, there's a lot to consider, other than the physical abilities (or urges) to have sex.

[inlove]

You have to be a minimium size for the condom to fit without sliding off, they're designed to fit an adult penis. So, eventhough there's an elastic band at the bottom to keep it firmly in place, it will scrunch down only so far, and if you;re not close to 'grown up' size, it might not fit as securely as it needs to. Before you go any further with your talks with Haden, I'd strongly recommend you go try one on and see if it fits properly.

Aside from the physical readiness, there's the emotional readiness to consider. For most people, sex really changes the intensity of the relationship pretty considerably. And, if you don't have a lot of experience with relationships in general, that new intensity can be pretty powerful. This is especially true with the 'First time', since there's the added element of too. And, the younger the person, the less developed that part of the brain is that deals with emotional maturity and the ability to cope with intense emotions is. So, there's a lot to consider, other than the physical abilities (or urges) to have sex.
thank you.. i have alot to put into consideration.. i appericiate the advice

[Oblivion]

Remember, sex isn't the point of a relationship. And physical readiness is hardly the majority of when you're ready for sex. Emotional readiness is key, it's the most important part.
Plus, regardless of if you're ready, think about it. It feels good, yeah, but really you're taking life long risks for that small amount of pleasure, lasting maybe an hour. Think about whether your ready to handle the consequences, if they do arise.

[Spunky]

To be honest, physicaly you probroly are ready because you can cum and have an erection and you have the sex drive for it. But I really don't think you may be mentaly ready because you ate still very young. I'm not saying if you do it you are going to go and have mental problems, I'm just saying theirs a good chance that you are going to have differnt feelings about it after it's been done insted of the feelings you have now. Also one of the most important things to remember is if you do go threw with this are you ready for the possable out come? Dude you are only 14, I don't think you are ready to be a father yet. Because if one chance out a million that condom breaks or something goes wrong and one little guys gets threw... hello your a dad. And their goes your fun teenage years. Sorry if it sounds a little blunt. Hope that helps

[inlove]

thanks spunky.. no need to rush things... lol..
thanks to all for opening my eyes..