I don't even know,

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

I don't know where to put this, what this is, or what's wrong with me.

I have a girlfriend, and we've been going out for nearly nine months, and over the course of those nine months, we've gotten into fights, as in any relationship. No big deal.
But today, something different happened. I didn't see her yesterday or today, because we were both busy, so I called her today and spoke to her for five minutes. It was the most awkward conversation I've ever had with her,
Mostly consisted of her saying hi, I replying, me saying how are you, her saying good. Ending the call with "I love you" and "bye."
And generally she replies, but she just said "okay, bye."
Which at the time I just thought, "Oh, maybe she's next to her parents."

So, I got home later, and I texted her, telling her that I missed her, in which she said "Awesome." That gave me the hint that she was angry at me, so I asked her if she was going to tell me why she was mad at me, in which she replied 'No.'

So me, frustrated just said, screw that, and went to sleep, as I was tired, now I slept until nine, which is the time I call her at night, I called her, and she didn't answer. So that's great, she's mad at me for something I don't know about, not the first time. But now I can't fall back asleep, but I am so tired. Now it's haunting me, I feel like I've never felt before, and I feel utterly horrible. A million thoughts a minute racing through my head, my face feeling so unbearably hot, I start to get nauseous, and I almost without control get up and grab my phone and text her telling her that I can't sleep and I wish she would tell me what was wrong. She replied with "I can't sleep either."
And didn't reply to anything I said afterward.

Now, maybe this belongs under relationships, but this issue isn't the star of this story, it's what's happening to me right now.
This is an unexplained fight, and I feel so freaking terrible. I don't know what to do with myself, I've never felt like this before and I just wanna knock myself out, I don't feel like I deserve to be conscious, however, I know I did nothing wrong. So I don't know why I feel so damn guilty. I can't even describe the feeling properly. I don't know if anyone can help, but if anyone can, I would appreciate it SO much.

[Agent]

Sounds horrible. I would totally freak out at that situation.

Is it possible that you could see him face to face? If it is, you should meet him, grap his shoulder/hand and ask him "What´s wrong, honey?" or something like that. If it isn´t possible, I dunno what to do. Sounds like your girlfriend won´t tell you if you ask him with a text message. Meet him face to face, if you just can.

Good luck for you. I hope everything get´s better.

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

Well, she won't answer my phone call, and it's 12:35AM right now, so I don't want to disturb her anymore, she obviously wants nothing to do with me at this point.

[Triceratops]

When you really care about someone so much you do become paranoid, anxious and nervous about certain things such as her being not as cooperative in the texts as you are when you're showing her how much you care and appreciate her and she's replying with simple messages. They seem like a huge deal, as she's someone who is a major part of your life. This shows sensitivity in relationships.

It may be you being paranoid, or there just might be something going on. It's hard to tell exactly what's going on though. Maybe there's something going on in her mind that's troubling her, or she's under stress and there's something bothering her which might explain the awkward conversations and texts, as she probably doesn't feel like replying with heartfelt responses or anything like that because of it. You could try meeting up with her and maybe you can talk things through.

Good luck with everything.

[byee]

Are you sure she's angry with you about something or are you making an assumption or inference based on the change in her behavior? There are many things that can cause a blip in someone's responsiveness, and not all of it has to necessarily do with you. There's often this tendency to think that b/c the relationship is the most important thing in the world, that anything that goes wrong must therefore be the result of something we've done. Typically, though, if that's the case, we're also sure what that thing is. We know what we've done, afterall.

In your case, I'd regroup here, and let her know you sense a change and you're not sure why and you'd like to know what's going on. Then (and this is the hard part) I'd just back away for a while and either let her sort out whatever else might be going on in her life, or regroup herself and tell you whatever it is that's on her mind.

Being in a relationship means being aware of the other person's needs. So, sometimes that might mean giving people the time and space, even if that means they're unavailable to us, temporarily. But it also means that we're responsible for another person's well being, for taking care of them, and in her case that means letting you know whatever it is that's caused her to pull back.

When people put their own needs consistently before the other person's, that's a pretty clear sign of selfishness and dysfunction, and a good indication that the relationshio has outgrown it's usefulness, and it's time to say good bye.

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

Dialect.
I've been with her for nine months, I know her use of words very well by now, her speech pattern, her indifference in replies. They're VERY distinct when she's angry or unhappy with me, I've never been wrong about it.

But to be frank, this wasn't the problem, this is what triggered it.

The feeling I got last night, the heat wave, the thoughts, feeling like my brain was about to explode. It stills carries on to today, I can't keep a straight though, I can't look people in the eyes, I have hardly eaten a thing all day, because frankly, I don't have an appetite, and when I tried to eat, everything tasted bland and / or disgusting. I'm not nearly as attentive as I was before today.

[Agent]

But can´t you meet your girlfriend face to face sometime?

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

Yes, but that is long resolved, what had happened that night, the feeling, that is the problem here. I haven't felt hte same since.

[BuryYourFlame]

have you got any updates since your last post mate?

mental crisis :arrow: relationships and dating

[IfPiratesCouldFly]

At this point this has nothing to do with my girlfriend, as I've reiterated on several times before, but if you feel it belongs here, then sure.

The feeling doesn't go away, no real update, just a very steady unhappiness has come over me.

[RaeNose]

That kind of sounds like depression. How long has this been going on? Maybe you should talk to an adult about seeing a doctor.

[inlove]

ok.. would u eat a french fry right out of the grease? or would u wait for them to cool down?? (bad example lol) anyway give her some time to cool off then talk to her.. rumors may have done this sooo watch for stuff being said thats not true happens at my school often.. =] hoped i help.
-IN-LOVE

[RaeNose]

People, he's over that. It was a fight. It seems to me, he has larger battles waging against himself....

[inlove]

People, he's over that. It was a fight. It seems to me, he has larger battles waging against himself....

mmm my appoligies... maybe talk to a school counselor and try to get to the bottom of ur unhappiness..:confused: