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stranger
May 9th, 2009, 06:38 PM
I am really confused about my sexuality. I feel like I am physically attracted to guys but emotionally attracted to girls. I have a crush on my (female) best friend but I get arroused by looking at guys and to a lesser extent girls. I always dream about women and imagine myself with a woman in the future. The thought of other guys having sex feels okay but when I consider doing it myself it revolts me. Any wisdom?
Furn_93
May 9th, 2009, 06:43 PM
you seem to feel how I felt at first, about 3 years ago (don't know how old you are, I was 11-12ish)

I, like you, want to be with a woman when i'm older and stuff.

I, like you, hated the thought of sex with a man, but found it arousing (guessing thats what you were getting at)

I felt it was disgusting and that ignoring it would be best because it'd go away eventually.

It didn't.

So, I think you may just be bisexual. It's easier to just call it that cos then... well I dunoo how but it just is lol.

Hope I helped.
EverlostPoet
May 9th, 2009, 06:54 PM
we cant really tell you what you are cause its your choice. but to me i think your Bisexual from what you said but thats just me ;)
stranger
May 9th, 2009, 09:52 PM
Well that's just the problem. I don't know. Sometimes I'm sure I'm straight. Sometimes I'm sure I'm gay. Sometimes I'm sure I'm bi. I can go for weeks as one or only a few hours and then switch. Maybe that means I am bi. I don't know.
Zazu
May 10th, 2009, 07:38 AM
Well that's just the problem. I don't know. Sometimes I'm sure I'm straight. Sometimes I'm sure I'm gay. Sometimes I'm sure I'm bi. I can go for weeks as one or only a few hours and then switch. Maybe that means I am bi. I don't know.

Sounds like you are still not sure within yourself where you are exactly. Most of the time this is solved by just giving yourrself time and eventualy you'll know where to place yourself.

Don't worry about it though, loads of people go through the same kind of thing.
confusedboy
May 10th, 2009, 07:49 AM
That's THE SAME way I felt in November last year but now I've come to the conclusion that I'm gay. You can PM me if you want...
stranger
May 12th, 2009, 03:55 PM
I think I really am bi it seems right. Hey, at least I get the best of both worlds. What's wierd though is that M-M fantasies and F-F fantasies don't turn me on nearly as much as M-F does, in fact I barely get turned on at all from anything but M-F. So it's still a conundrum.